People do not change or is this a delusion? Perhaps it is impossible to judge unambiguously. There are a number of characteristics inherent in each personality, which are called character. But habits can be replaced by others that are more beneficial to the person.
Is personality a constant?
Even talking about character, do not forget that the individual is able to improve it depending on his own needs and desires. Time is changing, people are changing. Many have complexes that came from childhood. For example, the child closes, protects himself psychologically. But when he grows up, an adult already begins to understand that he no longer needs the old mechanisms, they should fall out of his head, like milk teeth.
Why do we act and think in one way or another?
Neural connections are created in the brain that fix in our minds a certain algorithm of actions, a list of options for actions in a given situation. For example, if a child is humiliated in the yard, he gets used to being offended, but in the future this may affect his self-esteem and cause the creation of an inferiority complex.
If people do not change, they remain all the same frightened children who cannot develop in either their professional or personal lives. And even if the outside world is benevolent to them, the created neural connection in the brain says "Suffer, danger, evil and enemies around."
As a rule, such conflicting feelings are experienced by adolescents, but some pull this train with them into adulthood. Do people change after childhood trauma or those experienced in a more conscious age? Of course! The main thing is the desire to understand yourself, delve into psychology, and not think that this is all nonsense.
Sometimes you need to delve into yourself
As a rule, when an individual receives a profession, a hobby, the attention of the opposite sex, finds friends, he himself has the question: “So what I do not like?” It's time to understand the reasons for your wrongly built thinking and really become the person you always wanted to be.
People do not change only if they themselves do not want to. Even the types of temperament studied by psychologists are considered not so much congenital as received in the process of development phenomenon. Many justify their indecision by the fact that they consider themselves to be melancholic, or harsh, as a choleric. But nothing changes from this excuse. People didn’t like excessive softness and rudeness, they won’t like it, but a person lives with it.
He can endlessly run away from his shortcomings, but it is much more efficient to deal with them, clarify everything, understand the course of his own thoughts and find out at what exact moment the path of development of the internal emotional sphere has turned in the wrong direction. With proper effort, you can change yourself. Do not adjust to the surrounding reality and put on a mask, but show your best qualities.
Change the background we're on
The flexibility of a person in terms of adaptation to the environment becomes obvious to us with the simplest examples. For example, in children's textbooks on the subject “The World Outside” you can see that people 's lives are changing. In the top row of the table, in one of the assignments, objects that were used before are registered. This is hay, firewood and food obtained during the hunt. Looking around, seeing tall houses, cars, supermarkets, computers in every house and apartment, we understand that people's lives are changing. In the upper compartment of the assignment are those household items that helped to survive earlier, and to us they will seem, without a doubt, scarce. Now a person has more opportunities. The flow of information that we sometimes do not even have time to absorb is huge and non-stop.
Because of the randomness and noise of the world, many have mental illnesses. And at the same time, the world has become more progressive. More knowledge has appeared on how to use the gifts of nature. If it were not for the achievements of scientists, we would have been deprived of many amenities, but there were times when the development of scientific thought was stopped.
Development inhibition
When it comes to the Middle Ages, castle vaults, Gothic cathedrals, crusader campaigns and endless internecine wars are immediately presented to us. We visualize bonfires that were organized by the Inquisitors, as well as knightly tournaments among the feudal lords. These signs are famous for this era.
How did the ideas of a medieval man change against the background of these external signs? Did they see the external environment just like us, and what was the driving force of their actions?
How the ideas of a medieval man about the world have changed is evident from the cultural and mental foundation, the elements of which have survived to this day. People of that time gathered many useful knowledge from ancient philosophers and sages. There were many prejudices and distortions in perceptions during this period. It is it that separates the era of the Greeks and Romans from the period that they used to call the New Time.
How are people's ideas changing, for the better? Most authors who have touched on this topic in their writings argue that they do not, and characterize the Middle Ages as a failure in development, a stupor in which humanity fell. The culture of European states at that time was much weaker than in other time periods. There was noticeable backwardness, a decline in culture and moral values, less attention was paid to human rights. This period is cast a gloomy shadow. That's what its beginning is called - "dark ages."
Aspirations and desires
In the novel “The Master and Margarita” by M. Bulgakov, Woland said that people do not change. But here we are talking more about their motives. The fact that a person has always been seduced by wealth is well known to everyone.
Eternal passion like vanity is also eternal. It was on them that the hero emphasized. But at the same time, it is hard to deny that no matter how great the progress of science, self-realization, closeness with other individuals, and mutual understanding are always important to people. Civilization offers many ways to entertain yourself without the environment of other people, but at the same time, nothing can replace live communication in terms of quality and impact on mood. In human nature, many instincts remain that sit at the subconscious level.
Instinctive level
Sometimes we don’t even realize why we are acting in one way or another. Take for example the love that takes place between a guy and a girl. Women tend to focus excessively on their partner and, without receiving news from him for a long time, fall into a hysterical and depressive state. Of course, everyone who has bothered to at least once understand their emotions and bring to the surface all their causes is less prone to such incidents.
If you follow instincts blindly, you will notice extremely stupid behavior. So what is all this due to? If we recall the primitive community, we will see that the men went hunting, and the women cooked, watched the children. If food was not enough for the whole tribe, the distribution of material values ​​was carried out on the principle of strength. And, of course, men measured their biceps. After the strongest, his woman ate, then the second most powerful and his wife.
The instinct of self-preservation
So the idea of ​​modern ladies that they cannot live without their chosen one, called love, is a pure example of the instinct of self-preservation. Egoism is inherent in everyone, so a similar feeling can be explained by some benefit for oneself.
Nowadays, a woman can earn a living by herself, engage in intellectual work, but still on the cortex of the brain sits the thought that starvation awaits her without a companion. Hence the desire to be beautiful, the idea that the main thing in a girl is attractiveness. This is because in primitive society they were judged precisely by this criterion. And this is the most banal example of how instincts control our actions and thoughts.
In fact, our ancestors before us did a very thorough job of creating survival skills, thinking mechanisms, and other patterns that we sometimes use unconsciously. Everything changes, life changes, people change. Or just the shell becomes different, but inside we are all the same?
What can be changed and what not?
Attitudes that genetically sit in us are almost impossible to change. They need to be recognized and understood why we are doing this. The second large layer of information that is laid in our brains is childhood events. We have a set of species instincts, but now we need to develop our own, due to the situation and events that are happening around us personally.
If an individual did not develop in the most favorable environment and was negatively affected, his parents fought, drank, paid little attention to him, or, on the contrary, indulged too much, all this can affect the further formation of personality and cause some complications. But such a person should not consider himself a moral disabled person.
Almost everyone has similar dark spots that must be wiped away at a conscious age. The main thing is not to justify yourself, but to get down to business. Do not complain about the fact that the world does not accept a person, but to begin with, know and love yourself.
Everyone can change for the better.
Sometimes we cannot change the traits of our character and body, but you can always find how to improve them, because each one has a grain of beauty from which you can grow a whole garden with beautiful flowers and healthy tasty fruits. To do this, you just need a hardworking cultivator who can get to the bottom of the problem and spill the refreshing moisture of truth on it.
Looking at the scientific progress, the cultural heritage of mankind, we see that people have enough strength, reason and development opportunities. Looking at wars, catastrophes and accidents, we also understand that if you do not get out of the wrong moment at the right time, and do not set priorities correctly, this force may not serve the very good purposes.
All in our hands
A person is both angry and kind, stable and changeable. The whole charm of our life is that we ourselves create the road we are following. If people have the opportunity to change for the better, they will definitely be able to do it.
If an individual wants to throw his soul into the fire of sin and his intention is firm, he cannot be dissuaded from this undertaking by any assurances. For the harmonious development of the world and the presence of only positive changes, everyone must learn to take responsibility primarily for their own lives, judgments and actions, to make themselves better. Then all of humanity will be transformed. The choice is yours!