“Marry a foreigner” - call us announcements. Almost every woman, at least once, followed the link and looked through the catalog of overseas grooms. There are plenty of options, and everyone seems to want to create a good family. Friends speak of positive examples, newspapers scare the negative. Can it be argued that interethnic marriages are a recipe for personal happiness?
A lot of people have married citizens of other states and are quite satisfied. However, interethnic marriages in Russia are often condemned. Especially men. Their position is understandable - after all, women are leaving, who could be included in their unofficial harem. The notorious demographic indicators allow many men to have a parallel relationship with more than one woman. In addition, it is no secret that young and beautiful women are especially popular, who can be candidates even as wives, and not just as mistresses.
In fact, beauty is not necessary. Foreigners often do not make the brightest girls the offers that spectacular ladies would like to hear. And to whom foreigners offer a hand and heart more often? Ladies who are characterized by emphasized femininity and caring. And it’s not true that they are only looking for a servant - life in developed countries is as easy as possible, so they do not put it at the forefront. Worthy men need a girlfriend and ally who will always listen and support. Many of them are simply tired of the selfish behavior of compatriots who are ready to break off relations at the slightest inconvenience.
Are there any definite "contraindications" to entry into interethnic marriages? Only one thing is conservatism and unwillingness to change habitual behavior. Moreover, this is not always associated with age, there are examples when women after 60 married peers and were cloudlessly happy.
Are children an obstacle? For many men, yes, but there are still many good candidates who will not be hindered by your children from your previous marriage. Usually these are middle-class men who do not have their own babies or have adult offspring. Even women with two children receive letters. But it is clear that the requirements for men will have to be reduced. You may need to come to terms with the greater age difference.
Most often, inter-ethnic marriages are concluded between people with a difference in age of 12-15 years, 10 years or less - a rarity. So, if you find a young man, consider that you are very lucky. However, overseas suitors under the age of 30 are highly unreliable. Also, do not give hope to men older than you for more than 15-17 years. Such marriages are often doomed, and you will feel like a liar and suffer guilt when you want to leave him. After all, the years go by, and the young ones are drawn to peers.
Morally it is necessary to prepare for the fact that professionally have to start all over again. Many professions that require more talent than skill, such as hairdressing, are available abroad only after special training and certification. Easier than a business woman who knows foreign languages: business skills are relevant everywhere. Lawyers will have to retrain completely. If you are not ready to sacrifice your career for your personal life, then it is better to look for a sweetheart in your native country.
A separate conversation is interracial marriage with a foreigner from a developed state. Is it worth it to join? If you like people of a different race, feel free to get married. But try not to have children until you have permanent documents. Because in Russia, with a child of a different race, you will not have a quiet life. So interracial marriage is for extreme lovers, although it can turn out happily.
In order for an acquaintance to develop and turn into a serious relationship, you should treat the search only as a job. Learn foreign languages and do not be lazy to answer all incoming letters. Relationships often develop in couples where the man took the initiative, but there are exceptions. So if you write a little - write yourself. Do not give up, try - and everything will turn out better than you think.