The concepts of masculinity are very diverse today. In recent decades
the aesthetic views of both sexes have undergone significant changes. But nevertheless, the main, fundamental signs and ideas about what a woman should be and what makes a
man a man remained unshakable
.What women think
All people are different. Each woman has her own ideal, which is formed as a result of imposing a variety of circumstances. If a girl grew up in a prosperous family, then her father, as a rule, serves as the main model for her subsequent choice of a life partner. Otherwise, to the question of what qualities a man should have, she gives an answer herself, guided by her own life experience, as well as the opinion of authoritative people for her, mostly friends.
Numerous surveys of sociologists give an idea of the average views on the qualities that, in the opinion of women, an ideal man should possess .
There is power. What is not necessary?
Power comes first. What do respondents of different ages mean by it? Those younger are referring to physical muscular power. This approach manifests an instinctive desire to get reliable protection and give birth to healthy offspring. Women who are in their "elegant age" over 30 attach great importance to moral strength, for them the courage and intelligence of a companion, his sense of humor, and also such an important character trait as the ability to be condescending to the weaknesses of others are more important.
And, like torpedoes, they are directed ...
Purposefulness is firmly in second place among those virtues that ladies prefer. It is unlikely that the beautiful half of humanity deserves the attention of one who does not know what he wants in life, and even more so the one who knows, but does nothing. The desire and the ability to achieve their own is what makes a man a man. So consider not only women, but also the representatives of the stronger sex. However, purposefulness has its own proportionality. If a man, while solving the set task, does not disdain meanness, weaves intrigues and commits immoral acts, then not every woman will treat him with respect and understanding. In the end, Pyotr Petrovich Luzhin from the great novel by F. M. Dostoevsky “Crime and Punishment” was also a very purposeful person, which did not prevent him from being a scoundrel.
No sooner said than done
Binding is what makes a
man a man. If you promised, then be nice, do it. The word is tin. There is even a kind of anecdote about how a father inspires his son with the idea that a real man should have two main qualities: commitment (if he promised, then do it without fail) and perseverance (never promise anyone anything). This, of course, is a joke, but women do not like empty chimes. Men do not respect them either. It does not matter how much a person speaks, the main thing is that his speeches are not stupid. It is sometimes considered that laconicism is a sign of wisdom. This, alas, is not always the case, but if you say nothing, it is best to remain silent.
Gossip from men's everyday life should be completely excluded, they are excusable only not very smart part of the female community.
Family and Children
Attitude to the family characterizes any person, regardless of gender. It so happened historically that in the country where the peasants were dispossessed, the Orthodox were "starred", and at the same time most of the men were, as it were, "menized." Universal leveling made it difficult to show the earner's instinct, which was characteristic of the stronger sex, and sometimes husbands, unable to provide decent welfare to their families, themselves ceased to respect themselves. Women managed to preserve their nature to a greater extent, and it can be confidently asserted that most of our families are held on by their efforts. Wives are all the more appreciated when husbands themselves, without reminder and persuasion, do what a man should do. This applies to hard physical housework, other comprehensive care, and even the implementation of basic hygiene rules.
A special place is held by children. It is the father who must teach the sons of masculinity, as well as various vital skills. His role in raising daughters has already been mentioned. It is wisely said about the attitude towards adopted children in a popular proverb: real man’s children are not a hindrance, but a fool and their own burden.
No need to brag
The higher a person stands at a higher stage of development, the less he wants to exaggerate his merits. Why exaggerate what is already enough? But the ignoramus and the grabbing of individual and fragmentary information the rogue eagerly boasts right and left about his “successes”. A vivid example of such a “peacock” is displayed in the comic image of Svirid Golokhvastov as a remarkable writer M. Staritsky. Gogol's Khlestakov is not inferior to him. Bragging is not the thing that makes a man a man, but quite the opposite.
Self-made success
“He made himself,” - so the British call the one who achieved success through his own efforts and talent, and not by patronage or successfully married. It happens that the inheritance also falls to the real man, but he will do everything to increase it, and will not allow his waste. “Everything for the family!” Is his motto. But the beggars and parasites at the ladies are not in honor. A real woman is more likely to give preference to a man of a more modest affluence, who has achieved everything independently than a rich man who has achieved wealth, wriggling and trading his conscience.
Appearance
Women love neat and tidy men, but their overly reverent attitude to their appearance annoys them. The desire to have comfortable clothes and shoes for all occasions and for any weather is meritorious, in contrast to the dandyish “tricks”. “You can be a sensible person and think about the beauty of nails,” said the classic. As in all other matters, moderation adorns "both the gray-haired old man and the young man."
What kind of man is he?
Unfortunately, kindness did not enter this peculiar “top parade” of manhood, valued by the beautiful half of humanity. Only the most intelligent women, who have sometimes received cruel lessons of fate, are able to understand the importance of this trait of character. The ability to understand, regret and help, and not just in words but in deeds, is a sign of real strength, and determination, and the beauty of the soul. There is no doubt that a good man will love his family, he has real friends, and it is quite possible that his success also will not pass.