No matter what age or status a person is, wherever he lives and whatever views he adheres to, he needs a family. First - in the one where he is born and grows, then - in the one that he creates and where he raises his children. Trust, care, support - this is what this word is associated with. What is the secret of the "small cell of society"? To some extent, this can be understood by examining the statements about the family that sounded at different times among different peoples.
Winged thoughts about the main thing
Sayings about family life are different - comforting and moralizing, colored with humor and suffered in a series of mistakes and achievements. The content and aphorism of many of them helps to understand oneself, resolve conflicts and chart the right course in later life. The wisest sayings about the family are particularly deep. What is worth, for example, the witty remark of the ancient Greek mathematician and philosopher Pythagoras, in which he advises fathers and mothers to cherish the tears of their children so that they can shed them on the parent's grave. Indeed, the more sincere, more just and tender we treat the children, the more sincere their sadness will be when we leave. Very accurately said about the family of politicians Brad Henry. He compared her to a compass guiding us, and added that she has the power to inspire us to exploits and comfort when we suddenly stumble.
Folk wisdom will not deceive
The most concise and capacious are usually proverbs and sayings. “If the family is together, the soul is in place,” the Russian proverb says. “Let the husband like a raven, and let his wife defend everything,” the Ukrainian proverb teaches with a smile. “God gives the first wife, the second from the people, and the third wife from the devil,” warns Jewish aphorism. “You feed the father — you pay the debt, you grow the son — you give the loan, you pest your daughter — you throw him into the water,” the Mari dictum observes. “A house without children is like a hearth without fire,” the Armenian proverb says.
Father's house
Famous sayings about the family combine in a single family circle and home. Cicero did not see a nicer place than a house. Leo Tolstoy said that he who is happy in his house is happy. For the French pilot and writer Antoine Saint-Exupery, the miracle was that the home could invisibly create “layers of tenderness” in the heart, where dreams are born like spring water.
Hearth or fetters?
Sometimes the opinions of famous people about family and marriage are the exact opposite of the sayings mentioned here. Bernard Shaw said that marriage could become a prison for a man and a workhouse for a woman. The German philosopher Schopenhauer, for example, believed that getting married means halving one's rights and increasing one's responsibilities. Faina Ranevskaya with her characteristic irony remarked that since the family replaces everything for a person, before you start it, you need to think that it is more important for you - everything or the family. Do not marry if you are afraid of loneliness - Anton Chekhov warned. French writer Etienne Ray defined the family, according to which, it is a group united by blood ties and quarreling over money issues. These statements of the great about the family are fair in their own way when it comes to people who do not have the ability or desire to spend mental energy on creating a family. Indeed, according to the apt expression of the Spanish philosopher George Santayan, family happiness can only be assessed with patience, impatient natures choose misfortune. The fact that the dependence of family life makes a person more moral was also spoken by the great Alexander Sergeyevich Pushkin. And the famous Soviet teacher Sukhomlinsky rightly noted that the family is a place where people learn to do good.
How did the family begin?
The story tells that in primitive society families were mixed, group, this phenomenon was called promiscuity. But very soon the social disadvantage of such a way of life was revealed, and acute conflicts arose. Gradually, marriages became paired. The ancient monuments found by archaeologists are probably the first “sayings about the family” made in drawings and ornaments. In pagan families, the relationship between husband and wife was equal, which was reflected in the pantheon of ancient gods. Often the reason for creating a family union was economic or political motives. Children have always been subordinate to their parents.
Secrets of a happy union
The view of the family has changed with the advent of Christianity. The Bible generally interprets the history of the relationship between God and mankind as a history of love and represents God as the Father. In the New Testament, the relationship of Christ and His Bride - churches also appear to be deeply personal, family. Many biblical verses are a kind of statement about the family - about the earthly, but with a projection onto heaven. The first human couple on earth, as you know, God blessed. Jesus continually rebuilt families by returning to them their members who had been taken out of the family by illness, sin, and even death. The family of God, in which everyone - brothers and sisters - under the tutelage of a loving heavenly Father, did not abolish the human family, but gave it a new high and worthy position. Mutual relations here should be based on love, mutual respect, spiritual unity and moral purity.
Warmth, sympathy, willingness to listen and forgive, spiritual freedom are signs of family contacts in the Christian sense, this value contains gospel statements about the family. Such an idea of the home is rooted in most of the world's population, regardless of religion.