Some memories, unfortunately. immediately erasing from your head is simply impossible. Especially if these memories are related to your failed young man. "Miss you ex!" - you constantly repeat.
In such a situation, the past simply does not want to let you go, preventing you from continuing to live normally, function, move on and just enjoy life. Most often it’s harder to let go of a loved one because they met for a very long time or already lived together, made some kind of joint plans and so on.
But what to do and what to do if you still can’t forget how you once loved your person, and time passes, and in the end I also want to live? Whether the ex is bored can forever remain a mystery.
There is an exit. So, according to psychologists, there are some of the most effective ways to help switch your attention, stop living memories of a past man and start all over again.
Let's consider each of them in more detail. So let's go.
Getting to the most important thing - healing.
First you need to clean the room
And in the literal sense of the word. It is much easier if you lived with a young man or rented an apartment with him. Moving is the best way out of the situation if you still say to yourself: "I miss the former!" Thus, it will speed up the process of parting with the past.
If it so happened that you lived together in your territory, it is not at all necessary to move somewhere, it will be enough just to redo something in your apartment, for example, rearrange furniture, change everything, make small cosmetic repairs, remove home furnishings, given by a former young man - this will be enough.
Thus, you equip your apartment so that it does not at all remind you that your former man could once live in it.
Delete all his contacts
First of all, it is worth deleting all his phone numbers, so that in moments of weakness you don’t break and call him, do not say the word “miss” to the ex. Next, you should remove it from your friends list in all social networks so that it is not possible to write to him.
By pressing the Delete key, it is recommended to delete his friends. Because in the event stream, their common joint photos may periodically appear. And this, at least for the first time, is not at all pleasant to see. And besides, I want to find out from them how he is, where and what he does. And this is strictly prohibited.
We destroy all his gifts
Ways to destroy gifts can be different: you can burn it, especially if it’s your common photographs with it, throw it away, for example, some teddy bear, or sell it, if, for example, it was some kind of jewelry.
The most important thing is simply to get rid of all this and as soon as possible in order to get an opportunity to start a new life, but without this person.
Need to get carried away with something
What if you still say to yourself: "Missing the ex-boyfriend"? Come up with a new activity. For example, go in for dancing, sports, start going to courses of some kind of foreign language, etc.
Thanks to your new hobbies, you can quickly switch your attention from a former young man to something else. In addition, it is worth noting that a new hobby is the path to self-improvement.
Full employment
Do you miss a former young man? What to do?
Your day should be carefully planned and busy with various things, so that no thoughts would arise about how much you still miss him.
If you are a student, it is advisable to devote all your time to the learning process. If you work, then, of course, work. And in no case should you stay even for a minute at home alone. At least for the first time, but with you as close as possible should be and support people close to you.
Some time will pass, it will already become much easier for you. It is only very difficult at first.
Do not complain to anyone ...
And even more so accept the sympathy of others around this.
First of all, this rule applies to your close friends.
No need to tell them, "Still missing the ex-boyfriend."
We were taught from childhood that complaining about others is bad. And if this rule is applied to the same unfolded relations, then it is fully consistent.
Both are to blame for the separation of two once loving people: he and she, among others. Therefore, in this case, it is worth recognizing your mistake, letting go of the situation, and once again simply not telling anyone about it. Empathy, understanding, on the one hand, is good, people need these qualities very much. Well, on the other, why once again stir up the past and once again recall this man?
It is recommended to make new acquaintances
As a rule, during the separation, we immediately try to protect ourselves from communication with people of the opposite sex, considering all of them traitors.
In fact, doing this categorically is not worth it. Why? Firstly, all men are completely different, and among them there is surely someone who is right for you. And secondly, it's just meeting new people, talking.
Thus, you do not get hung up on your thoughts about the former young man, but continue to live and move on.
Conclusion
The above methods are actually very good healing instructions if you still say to yourself: “I miss the former”. However, her result, as soon as this can happen, depends entirely on the girl herself. From how well she followed these recommendations. And also the result may depend on her inner worldview and belief.
The emotional component also plays an important role. If the emotions are so strong, you should never hide them. According to most psychologists, all grievances, experiences must be thrown out.
Cry, scream, laugh, hit the dishes, burn photos together and do it until you really feel better. You can even express your grievances directly to the offender himself, tell him: "I will not be bored, goodbye!"
And most importantly, you should always remember that your ex-young man is not to blame for not meeting your expectations. Since these were your expectations for this person, your desire that he be so.
Therefore, you just need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, take the situation in your hands and no longer give yourself the opportunity to think about it. After all, life did not stop there, so you should continue to live on and enjoy every day.
And also important is the help and support from loved ones: mothers, fathers and friends.