Most teenagers in their school years meet the first and, as it seems to them, true love. Adults often pretend that they don’t understand this, which is ridiculous to take childish nonsense seriously. However, each man and woman themselves also experienced this feeling, but hid it deep in their hearts. Perhaps this is because this love was unrequited.
Sometimes it’s not easy to believe in love, especially if the subject of your sighing is twice your age. Strange, but it is in such people that schoolchildren fall in love and experience the purest and real love. It can be teachers in an educational institution, friends of a mother or a neighbor on a porch. Rather, such adoration can hardly even be called love - it is a worship of a fictional ideal.
But be that as it may, and this feeling becomes stronger every day, only this person is in the head - and not anymore to textbooks and lessons. The mood changes several times a day: it happens so bad that life is not sweet, or it is so good that the soul just sings! Sometimes falling in love is interrupted by bitter disappointment, and the fragile psyche of a teenager is not always able to cope with this test. The terrible end of a relationship, sometimes begun, and often platonic, may even be suicide. Here it is worth being wary of parents and those around them in love.
However, the first school love usually stays in the soul forever. You can fall in love with a person for just a couple of weeks, but for some reason he will take a place in your heart for life. Still, school love quite rarely develops into family relationships.
What should parents do in this situation? More often than not, they just start to panic that their thirteen-year-old daughter was carried away by a thirty-year-old man, and try to stop her attempts to talk about him in every possible way. In this case, the girl begins to talk about it with everyone in a row, but not with her parents. This is fraught with the fact that she may have problems after her hobby is over: there will be conversations in the district, which then can become bad gossip. Therefore, if you notice that your child was carried away by someone at a fairly early age, do not leave him alone with his experiences, but rather, try to help and support him. Believe me, such hobbies pass quickly, and then with laughter you will all together remember those sleepless nights and bitter tears!
Usually school love passes quickly, though, each case should be considered separately. If a person is open-minded and sociable in love, then it will be easy for him to find out that the object of desire is busy. And no matter how painful he is, he will find the strength in himself not to show this to others. That is how school love gradually fades away, and life becomes the same.
It is much more difficult for those who are an introvert, that is, those who do not like communication. They usually endure all this pain in themselves, because of which the character also changes, often not for the better. If you are a parent and know that your child is secretive enough, you will have to look for an approach to it yourself, because even with you it will be difficult to share. Try to just listen to him and be interested in him more often, no matter how busy you are.
For some children, school love lasts for several years. They, of course, can be carried away by another passion during this time, but they always remain faithful to one single person. And there are also cases (quite rare) when the first love lives forever in the heart. These are perhaps the most responsive and friendly people who know how hard it is to be rejected, so they let into the life of the person who loves them.
Each person has his own psychology, his own feelings, his own perception of the world. It is wonderful if the first feeling leaves light and joy in the soul, memories of it do not humiliate and make you blush, but pleasantly caress the soul. Therefore, you need to be able to gently act in cases where from a height of age a wise adult understands the futility of any relationship so as not to inflict an indelible emotional wound on the teenager.