Friends are people close to you. You can always trust them. And you can always hope for good advice from them. But what should a woman do if she suddenly falls in love with a friend? How to behave?
Fell in love with a friend. What to do first?
So, in order. What to do if you fell in love with a friend? To begin with, simply understand: a comrade is a close person. But you should not turn him into a lover. Of course, you can try. But the negative consequences can not wait long. A friend may, for example, be offended. Or even worse, start dating you without being reciprocated. In a word, absolutely nothing positive! In general, think carefully. Otherwise, you risk losing both a friend and a loved one at the same time. Or maybe you just do not have enough attention ...
Secondly
If you fell in love with a friend, think about finding a young man for yourself. Or about a girl for him. It happens, of course, that guys leave their passions for the so-called girlfriends. But this does not happen often. And even a lonely friend does not always need a second half.
By the way, friends (of different sexes) very often have completely different characteristics. When choosing a friend, they usually donât look at their appearance. But when choosing a partner - on the contrary. The same goes for hobbies. Youâll quite adequately react, for example, to the fact that your friend sits at a computer from morning to night. At the same time, your beloved man will disappoint you in this case.
Thirdly
The next moment. If you fell in love with a friend, think about the desires of each of you. It is very important. No matter how difficult it is, relationships can still be built. If a friend doesnât answer you in return, maybe he shouldnât say anything? Take it and love it in yourself! Sometimes itâs difficult ... But you can! Try each method that you are used to using, attracting representatives of the opposite sex. Try to be a perfect woman both externally and internally.
And fourthly
By the way, this happens: sometimes in her own way she even hated a friend, then she fell in love. How to explain this? Hard ... But it happens. The main thing, if you are not sure about this, do not start to take any action. Itâs not going to end in anything good.
Do not forget that when you fall in love with your friend, you take double responsibility. After you begin a romantic relationship, you will never become friends (in the event that the feelings cool down). Well, if as a woman you are not interested in a guy, he is unlikely to want to see you in the future. He might think that you communicated with him solely because of plans for further serious relations. Yes, and it will not be easy for you. After all, this person is not indifferent to you.
In short, making love out of friendship is not so easy. And your efforts may not be worth it. Although, if you are confident in your feelings, perhaps you do not need to despair?
In a friend, but not in his ...
Things happen and more serious. What, for example, to do if you fell in love with your boyfriend or husbandâs best friend? Imagine how terrible this is! After all, everything seems to be fine with you. But suddenly your chosen one introduces you to an attractive man ... Or even, on the contrary, a young man who is unremarkable. In any case, something may suddenly turn upside down in your soul. It will seem to you that without this person you can no longer even live. Time passes, and thoughts are all about him and about him. To your fiancĂŠ or spouse you become indifferent.
What is the problem? The fact that you do not know what to do right. Is it really necessary to leave the person with whom you have been living together for more than one month, or even more than one year. Or is it better to try to forget a new friend? What if it doesnât work out?
In general, the test is very serious. Take your time to make the final decision. Try to be alone with yourself. Feelings, of course, can be very strong, but to follow the passions is not worth it.
What if for real?
âFell in love with a boyfriendâs friend,â the girls often say. The topic is quite popular today. If this happened to you, do not doubt that you are not alone. And different people can give a lot of advice - the most controversial.
By the way, even Freud himself convinced people of the reasons that affect our desires. Perhaps you werenât happy with your relationship with your boyfriend or spouse. Perhaps you were looking for another man, without knowing it yourself? Many ladies specially test their charms, trying to prove to themselves that they are seductive. The problem may be that the girl gets carried away and falls in love with her own âvictimâ.
A friend of a beloved man can also attract you with his inaccessibility. Therefore, feelings may not really be as strong as they seem. Falling in love with another may also seem because a girl is offended for some reason. Thus she takes revenge, inflicts a strong blow to her chosen one.
Although feelings can be real. In this case, you have to solve the problem as tactfully as possible. So that his ex-lover does not hurt.
Take a chance or not worth it?
And finally. The question arose before you: what to do if you fell in love with a friend? How is it better to do? Keep friendships? Or confess your love to a friend? Or maybe even to have an intimate relationship with a man so that your boyfriend does not know anything about it? The latter option will become completely unpredictable and therefore too dangerous. Itâs not a secret to anyone that everything secret sooner or later becomes apparent. If the truth eventually comes up, you will find yourself in an extremely unsightly position. Yes, and a man who has entered into close relations with his best friendâs wife, this situation clearly does not paint. Consider also the fact that he deceived his comrade. Why shouldnât he fool you in the future?
Probably the best way is frankness. Tell your husband or boyfriend about everything. Be careful. Help him overcome the feeling of jealousy. Just remember that this method will only help if you know how to understand each other.
However, it is advisable to look at the situation rationally. Just grab and compare both men. Rate the quality of each of them. Which one is better? With whom can you feel truly happy? Who attracts you the most? And what happens if you suddenly lose your current man? Think well! Make no mistake!