Unfortunately, many couples are childless all their lives, or the first child appears after many years. But here is the paradox: many women become pregnant out of wedlock. It would seem an irony of fate? No. Here there are nuances that a person does not know about, but God knows. And he gives people only what is useful to them.
Let us discuss the topic of why God does not give a child, give examples of childless couples, and consider briefly the sermons of the holy fathers and priests.
About saints Joachim and Anna
Within the church walls, many couples ask the priest: “God does not give us children. Why? ”Only a perspicacious old man, a holy man, can clearly answer this question. And what will the ordinary priest answer? If the father is the spiritual mentor of the couple, he knows that the wife did not have an abortion, the husband did not live with other women until they met his wife, both led and lead a pious lifestyle, he probably only tells the story of Saint Joachim and Anna, parents, as a consolation Of the Blessed Virgin Mary.
As the life says, Joachim and Anna lived together for many years, lived with God, were pious and prayed for the gift of a child. But years and decades passed, the spouses did not lose hope, continued to ask the Lord tearfully. But as the Gospel says: “Ask, and it will be given to you,” St. Anna became pregnant at an advanced age. The couple could not believe in a miracle. They endlessly thanked God. A girl was born - Maria. All her childhood she was quiet, inconspicuous, did not communicate with anyone, did not play. Her baby soul was completely occupied by God. When she became older, the archangel Gabriel with a white lily arrived and announced that she was chosen by God, and would become his mother - Jesus Christ.
What is the meaning of this wonderful story? Parents earnestly prayed and asked God for a baby, the Lord sent them the Most Holy Virgin.
Of course, if a modern couple has not had children for a very long time and they constantly ask the question: “Why doesn’t God give a child?” And the fervent prayer of the husband and wife does not stop, then they will receive the requested. But this does not mean that the child will necessarily be pure and holy, like the Mother of God. At least it will be a begged child. Who knows, maybe he will connect his life with God and will pray for the whole world in the future.
What do the priests say
Any woman who wants to give birth to a child can approach the priest with the question: “Why does God not give children?” A sermon, just the advice or instruction of the holy fathers will help to figure it out. But the most important thing is the will of God.
Often miracles happen by the faith of childless spouses: parents literally “bring” the child from a pilgrimage trip, after long standing in line to the relics and icon of St. Matronushka. But everyone has a different fate. The main thing is not to despair.
Orphans
In Russia, there are a lot of children left without a father and mother. All existing orphanages are crowded. Unfortunately, the kids do not live in ideal conditions. Few people were fortunate enough to end up in a monastery shelter, where attitudes, education, and quality of life are very different from government institutions.
Guess why God does not give children to women sometimes? Because he wants her to raise an orphan as her child, to become his mother. After all, abandoned children also need parents, attention, good education.
If God never sent the children to you, think: is it time for you to adopt the children? Unfortunately, this procedure is not simple and not accessible to everyone. It is required to collect a lot of certificates, including a certificate of income from work should be brought.
Any difficulties are awarded with victory. Pray to God, the Mother of God and beloved saints, that everything will turn out in the best way. There are many stories related to childless families when God miraculously sends a child or several children at once.
About health and education
And does your health allow you to endure and give birth? Often the Lord protects women from trouble, death or error. Which one? For example, a woman became pregnant. Then it turned out that she was strictly forbidden to give birth, even to bear a child. Both mother and child can die. Such cases exist in church life.
But there are also happy stories. You can talk about one family of a priest. The wife of the father is a woman of very small stature (about 1 meter). As you know, small women are forbidden to give birth, since the fetus will have nowhere to develop, and the internal organs of the mother will be squeezed. What happened to the little mom? Together with her husband, they began to earnestly pray to God that a healthy baby was born, and his mother survived. And so it happened, fortunately. Doctors were shocked. By the way, after a while, the couple decided to give birth to a second child.
As for the other problem - upbringing, there are also some nuances here. Can you raise a worthy person? Will you cope with difficulties? What is your upbringing? Maybe you need to fix something in yourself.
Let's talk why God gives sick children. There are many options, everyone has different fates. There is one story related to a dying boy. Mother sat near her son’s bed and cried bitterly. She began to pray earnestly to God that her son would survive. Suddenly she fell asleep and sees a dream: her son grew up, did terrible deeds and was hanged. The Lord, through angels, asked the suffering mother what she chooses: a paradise for her little son who is dying, or is the gallows with shame in 20 years? The woman, unfortunately, chose the second. Everything came true. Her son was hanged as a punishment for atrocities.
True, this story does not apply to unborn children, but it clearly describes the possible reasons why God does not give children at all. He wants to protect pious Christian spouses from sorrows. One can answer why God does not give a second child: for almost all of the same reasons:
- poor parental health;
- avoidance of trouble and sorrow;
- there is a risk of not managing both babies;
- poverty.
One must be able to accept what God gives, and for what he does not give thanks. Remember the proverb: "Fear your desires - they tend to come true." Why should they be afraid? Because they can be harmful.
Not married, but I want a baby!
Often, priests hear strange words from women who are already slightly or far in their thirties: “Father, age is running out, and I'm all alone. Bless me to have a baby for someone else. ” Such a lady, unfortunately, does not know that the Lord does not like it when children are illegitimate. Nevertheless, they are born even more often than couples. Here we can only answer that illegitimate mothers punished themselves.
This often happens. Spouses ask: “Why doesn’t God give a child?”, And unmarried women cry: “The Lord sent me a sick, naughty in punishment.” What remains to be done by the parish priest? Of course, talk in confession with everyone in order to try to understand what was the matter.
Why get married?
Wedding is a great sacrament; the Lord sanctifies marriage. The priest reads prayers, one of them refers to the birth of children.
Why does God not give a child to some spouses? Because they did not vow before God to be together forever, did not pray with the priest, and the Lord did not bless marriage.
Are you sinful
Often during a confession, it turns out that once upon a time one woman had several partners, became infected from one of them and cannot give birth, and the other had an abortion. That is why God does not give children - sins, and very terrible ones. For spouses to have children, you need to live with God, with a clear conscience, pray and believe.