There are two types of people. The first is very difficult to build relationships and more difficult to break them if something does not suit. The second, on the contrary, easily start novels and part with ease. In order not to repeat mistakes in a new relationship, it is important to understand the reason for the collapse of the old.
Some representatives of the fairer sex, breaking off relations with their partner, ask the question: "How to survive a breakup with a guy?". Someone goes to work with his head and begins to make a career, choosing loneliness. Someone, on the contrary, goes on a spree. Girls are disappointed in the opposite field and do not consider it necessary to understand the situation. They are not looking for new partners to create relationships. But this is not the way to happiness. How can a person be happy if he is not close to him in spirit, the one who will support in difficult times. It is very difficult to live without a second doormat. Each of us wants a little care and warmth.
Experiencing a breakup with a guy, we are engaged in introspection. Conversations with the former begin again. Again, once again, we are stepping on the same rake. In order to be a happy person and find your soulmate, you must correctly part. This is what we will talk about.
First you need to dot all the "and". If the relationship has run its course, take courage and take it for granted. No need to call the ex, breathe on the phone, watch him after work. Simply put, don't look for appointments. If, nevertheless, there was a breakup with the guy, then you need to leave, once and for all, without returning. If this is difficult for you, you are trying to go to the same places where your ex is, then you need to observe a geographical distance. Try to leave somewhere at least for a while, and at the same time you will scatter.
Try to do what you love, change, for example, work, and at the same time your phone number. If possible, live elsewhere. You need to do something with yourself, put your head and thoughts in order, calm down. After the breakup with the guy happened, it will be hard for only the first few weeks, and then you yourself will catch the thought that you are no longer thinking about the fate of your ex, and your thoughts are busy with other things.
Remember your hobbies. Perhaps for the sake of your old relationship you had to sacrifice them. After all, it often happens that our partners are not happy with what we are passionate about. And we give up this occupation, just to please our soulmate. So this is the very moment when you can enjoy your favorite pastime. The time has come to live, not for Vasya, but for herself. Moreover, it completely distracts you from bad thoughts.
The most important thing: if you parted with a guy, you should not look for flaws in yourself. Very often the result of a breakdown is reduced self-esteem. This is common to both men and women, but women are more likely to oppress themselves. It takes time, sometimes years, for your wounds to heal. And so that it does not go to waste, we must learn to believe the opposite sex. The easiest method is to change the circle of communication. There are real friends, but there are friends for entertainment, with whom we spend free time, relax, go to parties. So, it will be more difficult with friends, but friends can be replaced. They need to be filtered. True friends will always stay with you, but if you lose a friend, you are unlikely to regret it.
And how to survive the separation from her husband? Should I maintain friendships with my ex?
It is impossible to say yes or no. It is necessary to proceed from the situation, whether you have common children, business. In this case, whether you like it or not, you will have to remain friends. Also affects the culture of the country, religion. Maintaining relationships, often former spouses cannot keep an emotional distance, they indirectly affect each other's life. They still have a sense of ownership, and subconsciously they do not want to see their ex with another person. In addition, they can remain just lovers, and this harms the building of new relationships. Probably, each person should decide for himself what he wants from a relationship that has ended. It is necessary to analyze the situation and understand first of all in yourself. But even if you decide to remain friends, for the first time it’s still worth taking a timeout. This is necessary so that all your emotions and feelings subside, and you can soberly look at the situation.