Sex has a positive effect on the body, rejuvenates and heals, improves skin elasticity, helps to lose weight and relieve nervous tension. In addition to this, lovemaking allows partners to get closer, better understand and feel each other, but all this is possible only when both partners get an orgasm. What it is? Orgasm is a complex psychophysiological process and is the peak of sexual arousal.
What is an orgasm
Many people, especially in their youth, are forced to think such a word as "orgasm". What is it, how to achieve it, and what needs to be known and done for this? Orgasm is translated from the ancient Greek language as "glowing with passion," "pouring."
In physiology, it is manifested by a sense of satisfaction and pleasure during sexual intercourse. Each person describes this concept in their own way, for some, a quick orgasm is the spread of heat throughout the body, and for others, a change of tension to a pleasant relaxation.
Orgasm is a complex process in which not only the genitals are involved, but also various erogenous zones, as well as the brain, which receives impulses and stimulates the production of certain pleasure hormones.
During puberty, especially in boys, an orgasm occurs in a dream and is accompanied by ejaculation. Such a process is called pollutions. Women can also achieve orgasm in a dream, especially with a prolonged absence of sexual contact.
The physiology of male orgasm
The society has firmly established the opinion that a man gets an orgasm directly during ejaculation. However, it is not. Male orgasm and ejaculation are two different processes that may not accompany each other.
Thus, a man can reach a peak of pleasure without ejaculation, for example, with stimulation of the anus and prostate, and ejaculation can occur without an orgasm.
In general, it is incorrect to assume that the penis is the only erogenous zone in men. In some cases, it may be less sensitive to caresses than other parts of the body (for example, chest, neck, buttocks, prostate).
The rate of orgasm achievement depends directly on the period of abstinence. The longer it is, the more likely a quick orgasm. Frequent sexual intercourse with an insufficient period of abstinence makes it difficult to obtain an orgasm.
How is orgasm achieved in men?
There are several stages that a man goes through during intercourse:
- Excitation - characterized by increased heart rate, rush of blood to the penis, excitation of the nipples and an increase in testicles in size.
- Plateau - a further increase in the size of the testicles and penis, the testicles rise, the head of the penis can turn purple.
- An orgasm is characterized by a strong increase in breathing, increased pressure, muscle spasm, consciousness at this moment is clouding. Sperm from the seminal vesicles, prostate and vas deferens accumulates at the base of the urethra and only after the closure of the sphincter of the bladder and rhythmic contractions of the prostate is thrown out.
- Permission - at this stage, men often fall asleep. Breathing and heart rate slow down, an erection decreases, the scrotum relaxes, the testes fall into place, the flow of blood to the penis decreases, and muscle contractions cease.
In a healthy man, it is precisely from such stages that an orgasm consists. What does it give? He gets a strong pleasure quite quickly and after a while is ready for a new sexual contact. In a woman, the stages of arousal coincide with the male ones, however, they are manifested by other physiological and psychoemotional processes.
Physiology of female orgasm
Female orgasm began to be discussed much later. It is a complex process that is influenced by many external and internal factors. Depending on the location, there are several types of orgasm :
- clitoral orgasm;
- vaginal;
- uterine;
- mixed.
In addition to physiological orgasms, several pathological forms of pleasure are distinguished. For example, with oral or anal sex, as well as with stimulation of the nipples.
Classification of women to achieve orgasm
The complexity of female orgasm is confirmed by the following classification, according to which women can be:
- frigid (anorgasmic) with inability to reach the peak of pleasure;
- mono-orgasmic, when a woman can only get an orgasm once, regardless of the number of sexual contacts;
- multi-orgasmic - women are able to get several orgasms in a row;
- multi-orgasmic - when during one sexual intercourse a woman experiences several peaks of pleasure.
The presented classifications cause a lot of controversy both among specialists and in society. Most women who believe that they are not able to receive a multiple orgasm actually receive it, but because of high expectations they do not notice it.
Masturbation
Masturbation is good practice when there are problems in the sexual life. It is impossible to show a man the right path without knowing his preferences and signals of his body.
Sexologist Barbara Kisling suggested the practice of reaching the climax, which allows you to learn how to relax and feel your body, as well as getting an orgasm with caresses. The first thing you need to learn to calm down. To do this, you can take a bath, listen to relaxing music and lie quietly in bed.
It is very important to breathe correctly - it is necessary to inhale deeply through the nose and exhale through the mouth. Breathing exercises are performed for several minutes. After that, you can begin to leisurely and lightly stroking your body. At this time, you need to carefully monitor the reactions of your body, which zones are the most sensitive and where the caresses bring maximum pleasant sensations.
Then you can proceed directly to masturbation. Do not rush, each organism is individual and requires a certain time to achieve satisfaction. After arousal, it is important to stop and perform breathing exercises again.
Clitoral orgasm is achieved by successive repetition of the respiratory blocks and independent caresses. To enhance pleasure and prolong it, shortly before the onset of orgasm, you need to start breathing very quickly. Such exercises can be performed only in a good mood and not make them a tedious duty.
How to achieve orgasm
The biggest problem that reduces the quality of intimate life is stress. It is very important that when crossing the bedroom threshold, leave all problems behind the door and just relax. This can be achieved only by fully trusting your partner, feeling his love, care and desire to give pleasure.
To improve the quality of sex will allow openness in their desires. Frank conversations and the exchange of erotic fantasies are very close. It is important to remember the need for hydration. If during the sexual intercourse a sufficient amount of lubricant is not released, it is necessary to use pharmacy lubricants intended for moisturizing, which will bring the orgasm closer.
What will it give? With sufficient hydration of the genitals, pain and discomfort do not occur. Therefore, orgasm comes much faster.
The culmination of sexual arousal is easiest to achieve in the following position: a woman lies on her back with a small pillow under her buttocks, and a man sits on top. With this penetration, the penis acts on the front wall of the vagina, causing the girl a pleasant sensation and ensuring the rapid achievement of orgasm. However, it is necessary to move in this position not quickly, so as not to damage the cervix.
How to strengthen male orgasm
Men by nature are more prone to spontaneous sex, but when exposed to external factors, sexual desire can disappear as quickly as it appeared. That is why a man, like a woman, needs a prelude, a relaxing environment and tender feelings towards his partner.
Since the most sensitive part of the male body is the head of the penis, the partner can provide the most pleasant sensations during oral sex. Since only in this case there is a direct controlled effect on this zone.
To make feelings during sex stronger, a woman will need to perform certain exercises to strengthen her intimate muscles. Women who have achieved mastery in controlling the muscles of the vagina can give a man an unforgettable sensation of pleasure, controlling the receipt of an orgasm and the speed of this process.
How to strengthen an orgasm for a woman
To strengthen the female orgasm, it will also be very useful to perform a set of exercises for intimate muscles. The denser the walls of the vagina grasp the penis, the more vivid sensations both partners experience.
Do not forget about diversity in sex. Role-playing games, toys from a sex shop and new poses will not only open up, but also enhance desire and multiple orgasm. Often women are embarrassed to talk about their erotic fantasies or desires and are afraid to direct the man in the right direction, which, in turn, contributes to the lack of orgasm in the woman, the accumulation of grievances, the appearance of quarrels between partners and separation.
Knowing how to achieve an orgasm, and skillfully showing it to your partner, you can achieve an increase in the quality of intimate life. Don't be afraid to experiment and talk about sex openly. Such conversations can take the relationship to a new level of confidence.