Sensuality and emotionality are two components that, along with the mind and consciousness, form a person as a person. Experiencing certain feelings and emotions, he manifests himself as kind or aggressive, shy or arrogant, strong-willed and strong or weak-willed. In other words, the ability to feel makes a person human. And one of his main psychoemotional states is the feeling of falling in love. First love or first love - this is the basis on which to build a sensual worldview and the relationship of the lover to the concept of this condition for his entire subsequent life.
What is love?
Probably absolutely every conscious person on the planet is familiar with the concept of love. The loudness of this feeling made itself felt to everyone, even if not everyone felt the truth of this wonderful state - the state of love. It gives people happiness and sorrow, intimacy and separation, pleasures and suffering, joy and pain. Love is something that absorbs from the inside, kindles a fire there, causing the “butterflies in the stomach” to fly. This is what the thoughts of lovers revolve about in their sleepless nights, that’s why people do crazy things, that’s why they are ready to give their lives for each other. Lovely feeling has a double bottom, but that it rules the world is its indisputable privilege. Indeed, in this lies his main ability: to give people immense happiness and help in finding the most important life value - the family. But where does it all start?
What is the first true love?
It all starts with first love. This is the brightest and innocent, sincere feeling that is born in the hearts of young people who do not yet know the pains of betrayal, resentment, betrayal. It has not yet been tarnished by anything: neither by lies, nor by deceit, nor by vice. Love at first sight is called that because it comes all of a sudden. You just see a person, look into his eyes for the first time, catch his onward look, and at this moment something like a short circuit occurs, only this time not with wires and electrics, but with feelings and emotions of a person. One can speak of first love as an electric shock: something swift, very sharp, sudden and disturbing consciousness breaks into a person’s soul and gives his heart a fire of intense burning sensations, pleasant warmth emanating throughout his body. It is not without reason that they say that a lover begins to relate to the world differently - because from that moment on, his life changes abruptly: he begins to feel responsibility for someone, empathize with him, feel and share his joy or sorrow with someone, empathize as for himself.
The meaning of first love in human life
The love that first knocked on the door of a young boy or girl remains in their hearts for life. Memories of the first, that very earliest and most sincere love are carried by a person through his entire destiny, through his whole life's journey. He may have dozens or hundreds of love affairs throughout his days to a very old age, but he will remember that very early, crystal-clear and open affection for the opposite sex on his slope. And all because this love is the first. Having come under its influence, a person for the first time feels those emotions and experiences that do not work to preserve himself, but include in his mind some irresistible zeal and a desire to protect, protect, protect from the adversities of his beloved and just be close to the one who prompted these the warmest and brightest feelings in the world.
Benefits in Testing This Feeling
Stories about first love say that a loving or in love person changes dramatically: his usual actions are replaced by unusual actions, behavior changes beyond recognition, the person becomes as if someone or something led. No wonder they say that a lover has wings behind him - this feeling of all-consuming happiness envelops him from head to toe and makes him "fly in the clouds." And all this is not idle chatter. Even psychologists note in a person experiencing such emotions, a change in the hormonal background, the perception of the world, and attitudes towards reality. People in love become more sensitive to everything that happens, they become more compassionate, empathizing and at the same time more joyful and satisfied, because the level of the hormone of happiness goes off scale.
"Side effect" from the first true love
But there are pitfalls in the first love. Not everything is so smooth, fabulous and airy in this, sometimes insidious, feeling. After all, love is beautiful only when it is mutual, when what they experience in relation to each other is mutual. Then both are happy. But if in a couple someone alone feels a certain warmth in relation to their passion, and she responds to him with silent indifference - the first pure love turns into the first mental suffering. The so-called side effect of it is that this first experience in sensory affairs is projected by a person onto the rest of his future life. The way in which the lovers show their feelings at first, is subsequently transferred to other relationships with their oddities and features. And this can significantly affect the course of events between an adult, formed couple, already striving to become a family, having entered into a marriage with each other. This may interfere with the future family to lead the life they dreamed about. After all, carefully built relationships, being exposed to deep resentment from the past, can fail at any time. Under the influence of first love, the best relationships in the world can come to naught due to the subconscious return of one of the lovers to their first experience, which left a deep mark in his soul and left an imprint of sadness on his vulnerable soul.
Nonreciprocal teenage love
The feelings that young people experience in adolescence with not yet fully established emotional signs of a transition period in case of unrequited passion are terrible. Nonreciprocal first love is a serious threat and danger that gives impetus to the development of a mass of complexes in young people. At the time of their transition from childhood to adult, their physiological and psycho-emotional state undergoes a lot of reforms, so the human body is arranged. And because of this, a teenager becomes much more sensitive when he develops sympathy for anyone. He longs for reciprocity, and in response receives the cold, indifferent look of his adored man. He wants to be near - but stumbles upon a wall of a silent lack of feelings at the object of his love. And then he is overcome by a storm of emotions, indignation, despair and aggression at the same time. Such moments, for the most part, become the cause of suicidal cases in the teenage period.
Avoiding Suffering: Psychologist's Advice
Parents who notice their child’s experiences in time try to help him cope with his unfortunate love on his own or, if this method does not work, lead him to a psychologist. A teenager in whose head there was a firm conviction that “My first love is a monster!”, Without intervention and help from outside, she will not be able to open up and love another person in a new way. He will be haunted by failures from the past. He will recall his own, as it seems to him, terrible and woeful mistake in the world - first love. Therefore, psychologists work with such young people through evidence-based methods with the conviction that all our misconducts are only our fears, all our experiences are only worms that have settled in our minds, and only we ourselves can eradicate them from there, making an effort above yourself and trying to part with your own depressing thoughts.
Recommendations and rules of conduct
In the case where the feelings between the two are mutual, they do not need anyone else's advice or recommendations. But for a person who has stumbled upon cold indifference from the side of the object of his adoration, it is difficult to get out of apathy and the depressive-stagnation process independently. Some people are deeply convinced that you need to go all the way to any means, go ahead to your dream and win the heart of your passion. But this method is far from always effective. On the contrary, with your pressure you can only aggravate the situation and push your loved one even further. If these relations obviously have no future, there are no common points of contact, then you should step back and behave in the usual way, trying to distract yourself and turn your attention to the person who really needs it.
First love: happiness or cruel lesson of fate?
The first feelings can be both a gift of life, and a blow of fate. Someone recalls his former first love with tenderness and nostalgia, and someone with a feeling of anger and indignation. For each, it proceeds in its own way, but for each, it remains the first, purest, most naive and most sincere. And each person has the right to decide for himself whether it was happiness or the bitterness of disappointment. It is worth remembering only that all the events presented to us by fate are given by it for a reason. This is an experience. These are the lessons of life. This is what makes us stronger and helps to cope with our difficulties in the future.