The desire to understand yourself usually arises when you are dissatisfied with yourself, you feel that in your life something is not going as you would like. Or when you do the same thing in some situations, you realize that this is not right, but there is no way out.
How do people usually try to know themselves? They read books, try to pass psychological tests about themselves, find like-minded people and those affected by the topic of self-improvement.
Also, people begin to keep a diary or blog where they write down their thoughts and analyze the events in their lives. This is a very useful exercise in self-knowledge. It makes it possible to realize where the anxiety comes from. In addition, it is quite important to be able to look at yourself from the side. And if it is sometimes difficult to evaluate your actions, then with a thoughtful reading of them, you can look at the situation, at your thoughts and actions with the help of a third person.
The process of self-improvement is a long way, sometimes without an ultimate goal. It is as natural to humans as breathing and eating. But how to make self-improvement calm and comfortable? How to understand yourself better and accept yourself as you are?
Many people are subject to perfectionism. They set ideal goals and exhaust themselves with their achievements. The main feeling is the fear of blaming the public, a desire to be perfect in everything appears. But look at life really. Indeed, in nature there is no ideal. Look out the window - at the trees or at the stones. They appear before us in their original form, without thinking about any standards of beauty and perfection. For some, the ideal weight is 65 kg, and for someone - 45, and with the same height. And while this figure in weight has not been reached, a person exhausts himself with diets, gnaws at himself, and cannot fall in love with who he is. In fact, self-love is not at all the presence of any specific characteristics. It’s like maternal feelings: a mother loves her child simply for what he is. One must also relate to oneself.
No matter how you look and how much you weigh. It doesn’t matter if you find your soul mate, or whether it is still somewhere in the future. If you have dissatisfaction with yourself, and you set goals for yourself, the fulfillment of which, in your opinion, will increase your self-esteem - this is the wrong way.
To achieve any goals, first of all, you need to listen to your desires and go to their fulfillment. In addition to this, there must be self-confidence. And without love, there can be no question of this.
How to understand yourself, to realize your own games, maladaptive behavior and enjoy life? Most often, women ask such questions to a psychologist. In this, women are very similar to cats: how much do you think a cat is capable of in an uncomfortable, uncomfortable position? Try experimenting. You are unlikely to have time to count to 10.
Female strength lies in the fact that they are not afraid to seem weak. If it is bad, uncomfortable or something hurts, a woman tries to change her condition for the better. Of course, it’s not worth putting everyone under “one comb”, it all depends on a particular person, but women are easier to admit to their weaknesses than men. They can turn a solution to a problem into achieving a goal. They set themselves the task of how to understand themselves and begin to solve it in every way.
Let us use this quality for our own benefit. We must understand how to understand ourselves, and not fight against ourselves, as many do. Must find their
strengths that can help achieve certain goals. In this case, the goal is to understand and accept yourself.