We all came across the fact that in a society of different people we feel and behave completely differently. Someone from the first words instills optimism and hope in us, a conversation with him brings self-confidence, pleases and warms. And someone, on the contrary, causes a desire to say goodbye as soon as possible and never see again. What is charm? Is it an innate gift or skill? Is it possible to learn how to charm people?
American psychologists believe that everything is given with practice.
But let us recall the radiant, but at the same time cold smiles of the Americans. Being optimistic in people, hiding all your problems and experiences does not mean attracting people. Charisma is a magnet. With a person who has this quality, I want to communicate again and again. What is the secret? The main property in which personal charm lies is the presence of empathy. This ability to "feel" in the position of the interlocutor. The ability to sincerely empathize with him and make him understand this. Charisma is, rather, an innate ability. After all, you can’t learn to empathize. How impossible it is to learn to be good-natured. You can, of course, learn various techniques of
manipulating people, controlling them and your behavior, facial expressions, gestures. But the deep feeling of intimacy with someone cannot be brought up either in oneself or in others. What attracts us to charming people? The first thing is that they are located to us. It is felt, felt by the "skin."
This cannot be played, because internal prudence is often perceived on a subconscious level. Therefore, charm is first of all sincerity. But not intrusive, not aggressive. A person with the gift to charm others knows how to listen. And he also must have a subtle sense of all the nuances and shades of well-being of the interlocutor and deeply understand the situation.
Fluids of warmth and goodwill come from charming people. That is, such a person cannot be arrogant or arrogant. He usually has adequate self-esteem. He is attentive, but not annoying. Feminine charm is completely independent of the formal "right" beauty. All of us have met more than once girls and young people who did not differ in perfect appearance or sports figures. But their inherent warmth makes them much more attractive than the cold beauty of haughty ladies or the polished elegance of gentlemen.
Thus, charm is a quality of personality, character.
This is the ability to win over people without putting effort into it.
Of course, this quality is highly appreciated in any team. Such a person, as a rule, has no enemies. Just because with his warmth and goodwill he disarms them. This quality is especially important in all professions related to communication. A charming seller or manager-consultant will be able to quickly and naturally win the sympathy of the client and persuade him to buy. In hospitals and clinics, doctors and nurses with this quality are treated with special trepidation. A charming teacher or teacher is a favorite of all his students. And although you cannot learn this property, you can try to develop in yourself such qualities as empathy, the ability to empathize and sympathize. Because wherever we work, no matter what we do, positive communication with people will always bring us only benefit.