About the fact that masturbation is harmful or useful, in the society of uninformed people there are many myths that are often taken from the air. Therefore, adolescents of both sexes during the puberty can be frightened by naive and simply silly reasoning of adults about self-satisfaction and because of this even slow down their sexual and psychological development. We will try to understand this problem and debunk stereotypes about whether masturbation is harmful or useful.
What it is?
Masturbation, in scientific terms, is the satisfaction of the need for sex by stimulating your partner’s genitals or genitals with your fingers, hands, or other devices (we'll talk about this in more detail later). In the usual sense, masturbation seems to be an occupation alone, but over time, this concept has expanded and developed, and the attitude of people towards it has changed. However, in some situations it is still not so simple.
Attitude to masturbation in society
The opinion of people about masturbation tended to change at different times. If in ancient Rome or Greece, the stimulation of the genitals was positive (it was believed that this helps keep young unmarried people clean), in the brutal Middle Ages and even in the nineteenth century, the position of society changed dramatically.
What is harmful masturbation? Yes, everyone! Scientists began to believe that at any age, masturbation harms both physical and mental state, supposedly due to the fact that masturbating people develop mental abnormalities and they generally become unbalanced (not to mention a huge religious sin). In the twentieth century, attitudes became much more liberal, but speaking specifically about the mentality of the Soviet Union, where there was severe censorship and, as you know, "there was no sex," there was no question of masturbation. Therefore, those who were born in the USSR and raise children already in the twenty-first century may not know much about the sex education of a child and harm its normal maturity with stupid stereotypes and banal ignorance.
Frequent misconceptions about self-gratification
Out of ignorance of whether masturbation is harmful to the body and stereotypes about this, it is known that misconceptions are born. Some of them can both prevent a person from just having fun, and harm health. Therefore, let's try to debunk some myths and figure out whether masturbation is harmful or useful.
Frequent masturbation spoils sexual activity
Many people think that if they masturbate too often, they will soon lose their desire to have sex in general. Is frequent masturbation harmful? Well, not at all. Men think more about such a problem, because, according to their logic, due to frequent self-satisfaction, an erection can happen less often. But this does not work on such a system. The body cannot "get tired" sexually aroused, on the contrary, the reproductive system is only developing, and well-known problems can only begin from aging. Women with this are all right even more, because not only do female desires exceed male ones, their orgasm is stronger and brighter, but according to statistics, they begin to masturbate even more often with age, which means that female sexual activity does not deteriorate.
Child and teen masturbation is bad
If, having caught his teenage child in his room for self-satisfaction, some parents will still be able to understand him, because puberty is mainly associated with just such a pastime (although, judging by the polls, many begin to scold and shame the boy or girl, which is fundamentally wrong and destructive for their self-esteem), then to catch a small child in such an occupation may seem quite strange.
Children under two or three years old, touching themselves for their genitals, do this when they simply know the world around them and learn new feelings, which happens completely unconsciously. The problem may be that the child does not. Uninformed and embarrassed parents understand that there is no way for a baby to prove that this is bad, therefore they are recouped on older children of four or eight years old. At this age, children already understand that they enjoy themselves, but do not understand that it is indecent to do with others, so parents begin to get angry and scold the child, invent stories about what masturbation is harmful, punish and engage in assault. This can injure the psyche of the child, so it is impossible to scold him in any case - you just need to explain to him that this is an intimate thing and you can do it only in solitude.
Being self-satisfied during a relationship is offensive to a partner
As for this point, everything, of course, depends on the upbringing and nature of your companion or companion, but if you are against masturbation, then try to change your mind because of the following arguments.
Remember that masturbation is good for the health of your partner, as it helps relieve stress and improve body function. And no, your half does not want you less if you are engaged in self-satisfaction. You need to start worrying only when the partner begins to masturbate over time more often than having sex with you - in this case, you need to seriously talk to him and start to change something.
Masturbation during sex is bad
This item is essentially similar to the previous one, but has its own nuances. Some people believe that if a partner begins to masturbate during sex, then he ceases to like something, but this is not so. On the contrary, you need to pay attention to this and remember what he does, because in this way you can better know what your partner likes.
Due to masturbation, mental problems appear
This is one of the most pressing problems, because in the minds of people with conservative thinking there is a mood like “Touch your hands on your genitals ?! This is a perversion! Maybe you’ll have sex before the wedding ?!” In any case, what is not harmful to masturbation is its effect on psychological health.
Thanks to self-satisfaction, self-esteem can increase and the accumulated negative energy can be poured out. The outrage is also caused by the fact that masturbation cannot cause an orgasm purely due to its technical side, that is, during the performance of certain movements, people most likely need to fantasize about something in order to reach the peak of pleasure. Many who can consider this shameful and wrong, while forgetting that what is happening in our heads is everyone's personal business.
You need to start worrying about your psychological health only when you enjoy fantasies about something too exotic (dead people, animals, entrails, etc.). In this case, you should contact a psychiatrist, because, perhaps, the presentation of such things in your head brings you pleasure due to some kind of psychological trauma.
How to masturbate
Finally, we come to the most obvious and useful part of the article. How to make masturbation beneficial for the body and bring pleasure?
The correct technique for male masturbation
Since masturbation is inherently an imitation of sexual intercourse, the most common and enjoyable way of self-satisfaction for men is to stimulate the penis with up and down movements made by the palm clutching the trunk. This repeats movements and sensations during penetration sex. It’s hard to make a mistake during this type of masturbation, the main thing to remember is that the head of the penis is the most sensitive place, so it does not need to be touched too much, and the trunk itself should not be compressed too tightly (although, of course, this is the business of every person, and everyone knows better what exactly does he like). In this case, it is recommended to use a lubricant in the form of oil, petroleum jelly or a special gel to avoid rubbing.
A less common method is to stimulate the scrotum and testicles, which is used if they are more sensitive. In order not to bring painful sensations to the testicles, they should not be compressed too much, the movements should be massaging, but at the same time persistent. Also during masturbation, secondary erogenous zones such as the abdomen, nipples, buttocks, inner thighs, and so on can be stimulated.
Speaking of less popular methods of self-satisfaction, one cannot but mention urethral masturbation. This technique is very amateurish and is rarely used, but it is worth explaining. In order to enjoy it, you need to insert an elongated thin object into the urethral opening (blunt knitting needles, nails, an ampoule from the handle; it’s dangerous to use a special device in a sex shop) to a length that is most pleasant for you, and make a careful upward movement -way down. Many argue that they discovered a much more pleasant way of self-satisfaction, using this method, while receiving a very vivid orgasm.
An amateur is also considered anal masturbation. Male representatives rarely use it, since in society, any contact of a man with his anus immediately ranks him homosexual, although this is completely not so. A man can be considered a homosexual if he enjoys having sexual intercourse with another man or from fantasizing about another man during masturbation, but this, by the way, like many other things related to orientation, is purely subjective.
Masturbation technique for women
In women with self-satisfaction, everything is both more complex and diverse. On the external and internal female genital organs there are many points of accumulation of nerve endings, the irritation of which is a pleasure. Many women may not even know how to make themselves really nice, so they should study the anatomy in more detail.
It is pointless to list all the erogenous zones, since you yourself must try to find those special places where you are pleased to touch yourself. Someone is pleased to stimulate the clitoris with quick movements, someone smoothly strokes his hood, someone likes to make eight with gentle movements around the entrance to the vagina and clitoris, someone likes to sharply enter one or more fingers directly into the vagina, and someone He likes to use dildos, vibrators, vaginal balls and penetrate the anus. The main idea is to understand with experience what you like, and not what is written on the Internet.
It should also be understood that all women are different, and if you can’t get an orgasm during masturbation, then do not despair and stop doing it. Firstly, you can get pleasure just like that, and secondly, everything comes with experience.
Is masturbation harmful or beneficial for a man?
Let's talk more about our health. Why is masturbation good for a man? It relieves stress, helps get rid of the "old" sperm inside the testicles, has a beneficial effect on the prostate and prevents cancer.
However, is masturbation harmful to men? There are serious disadvantages of masturbation, causing harm to health. Some of them are obviously associated with improper masturbation. Due to too much constriction of the genitals, vascular diseases can develop, without using the proper amount of lubricant, you can rub the shaft of the penis hard or damage the head, and if you start to masturbate immediately after an unexpected erection, you can disrupt the sending of nerve impulses from the head to genitals. So in this case it is better not to flirt and observe such simple rules.
The benefits and harms of masturbation for women
The positive effect of self-satisfaction on a woman’s body is obvious. It is foolish to think about whether masturbation is harmful for women: emotional discharge, supporting the body in tone, strengthening immunity, reducing the frequency and strength of pain in the lumbar and abdomen during premenstrual syndrome, as well as gaining the necessary experience before sexual intercourse in young girls is very important for the female body.
But is masturbation always beneficial for a woman’s body? As in the case of male self-satisfaction, everything can be spoiled only with improper masturbation. A fair half of the population needs to observe hygiene with double caution, since the female and external and internal genital organs are much more tender and receptive than men. So you should always wash your hands with you or your partner, as well as use high-quality and clean dildos or other sex toys, if any.