Nonreciprocal love is an unpleasant feeling from which no one is safe. It is not for nothing that the saying "you will not be sweet forcibly" has appeared in our everyday life since ancient times. Nobody wants to be in the role of a man whose love has been rejected. But still, such a situation arises in life quite often. How to survive this tragedy with minimal losses for yourself, how to stop worrying and upset - read this article.
Love or addiction
Is there nonreciprocal love? The answer to this question is unequivocal: of course! And there are plenty of examples. Most poems, songs, novels, and movies are about unrequited love. We are interested in observing how the heroes of popular works cope with the problem. But what if you yourself find yourself in a similar situation?
Mutual love heals the most terrible spiritual wounds, inspires and gives a person a complete sense of happiness. However, love is often nonreciprocal. Sad statistics show that almost every second person in his life encounters a situation where feelings do not coincide.
Some people know how to switch, easily endure this tragedy. Others may be stuck in a state of suffering for a long time.
Psychologists share the feeling of love on: love and love addiction. True love is a gratuitous feeling. A loving person is able to calmly accept rejection, because he accepts the object of his adoration as he is, without expecting anything in return. Sorry, but this kind of love is very rare.
In most cases, non-reciprocal love causes very conflicting and unpleasant sensations. Suffering in case of refusal of a loved one means that a person becomes morally dependent on the subject of his adoration. In this case, you need to take certain actions in order to again feel the joy of life, open up to new feelings and avoid the problems associated with a constant state of depression.
To begin with, it is important to understand what you have: a real feeling or a love addiction? If your feeling gives you only pleasant emotions - you are lucky, you are able to love with gratuitous love. Feeling uncomfortable means that you are dependent on the person to whom you feel.
Psychologists have been sounding the alarm for a long time: non-reciprocal love entails depressive disorders, which are not reflected in the most favorable way on human health.
What can not be done
How to get rid of non-reciprocal love? First of all, you need to try to avoid common mistakes that can only aggravate the situation.
Try to pull yourself together. Tears and self-pity will not change anything. You will get only a swollen face, red eyes and a tired general appearance. In addition, such a reaction to the situation will bring nothing but negativity, you will not be able to tune in and make the right decision.
Loneliness during this period is not for you! Try to be among friends: communicate, walk together, take common activities all your free time.
Do not jam your depression. In addition to extra pounds and food dependence, gluttony will not bring any more results.
Where to start healing
The very first thing to do is to understand that only you can help yourself. No one else but yourself can defeat the sadness, pain, and frustration associated with rejecting you.
Psychologists recommend: start living a full life. Make every effort to ensure that every moment of life is not wasted. Try to “switch” from your bitter thoughts to something new and previously unknown to you. For example, sign up for a fitness club, start painting, learn languages, go dancing ...
Make a rule: daily before going to bed to summarize your new achievements. Over time, you will learn to enjoy your success, and this significantly increases self-esteem. Be sure that your changes for the better will not go unnoticed, and soon a person will appear in your environment with whom you will have mutual feelings.
Burn bridges
How to survive non-reciprocal love? The best way to defeat her is to forget the person who rejected your feelings. This is easy to do if you follow certain rules.
- Remove from your field of vision gifts, photographs, heart-shaped trinkets that you received while communicating with this person.
- Prevent people from your environment to pity you. Stop discussing and resenting your unacceptable feelings. Stop any acquaintance's stories about the person you are trying to forget.
- If some music causes you painful associations associated with an unrequited feeling, delete it and do not listen.
- Avoid places that can remind you of the bitter thoughts associated with this situation.
Non-reciprocal love will quickly go by the wayside if you take these tips responsibly and protect yourself from everything that can remind you of what happened.
Pamper yourself
A person who gets rid of the disappointment associated with unrequited love needs bright, positive emotions. Do not be afraid to pamper yourself, give yourself what you like, which can cause a smile on your face, give joy.
Take your time. Visit a beauty salon, make a fashionable manicure, a new hairstyle. At home, you can confine yourself to a foamy bath and a face mask. The main thing is to enjoy the process, to become better and more confident in yourself.
Go shopping and give yourself a gift, buy what you have long dreamed of.
Such actions significantly increase self-esteem. If you want to be loved - love yourself to start. Treat yourself as the dearest and beloved person. This approach works wonders: radiating joy and self-confidence, you will attract a lot of positive emotions into your life.
Fight fire with fire
Remember: non-reciprocal love is a temporary nuisance. Take a closer look - you are surrounded by many people who want to communicate with you. Let new people into your life, show interest in them, because who knows, maybe it is among them your fate.
Try to avoid getting into psychological dependence on unrequited love.
If you see that the person to whom you are feeling does not reciprocate, do not pull, immediately begin to act. The faster you take your destiny under your control, the faster you will “recover” and begin to enjoy life again.