Memory is our life. If it had not been, as I.M.Sechenov said, people would have remained at the stage of development of infancy, lived on instincts alone. At all times, it has been a value. Even in ancient Greece it was considered as a gift of God, the patroness of which was the goddess Mnemosyne. Often memory interferes, scares, does not allow to move on. We learn how to get rid of this and much more.
Freud Memory
He considered it to be the most important component of the human psyche that determines personality. He put forward the theory of three types of memory:
- Conscious. It is characterized by awareness of reality. That is, what is happening to the person at a given time. This is a tactile sensation (a book in the hands), visual perception (what color is it) or gurgling in the stomach and so on. Consciousness, in this case, is determined by heard, seen and through feeling.
- Preconscious. We are talking about memories that the individual does not realize at the moment, but which, if desired, can be remembered and activated, for example, driving a car, dates of birthdays and anniversaries.
- And unconscious. This memory is the most significant, includes experience and memories that are not realized by a person who sit deep in their memory, and access to them is limited. Freud believed that the unconscious bowl is filled with those images, pictures and feelings, that is, memories of the past that a person wants to forget.
Memories and their degree of awareness determine a person’s personality.
What is a memory?
This is a reproduction (from English) of pictures of the past cut off in time and space from an autobiographical (episodic) memory. It cannot be attributed to the whole past. This is just a sensory part of it: feelings and feelings. Experience, thoughts and evaluations do not apply here.
Memories are different: joyful and sad, bright and gloomy, good and evil. Of course, I want to return to the sweet memorable events, because you can’t live in the past. Now we have a general idea of ​​past memories. Memories of the future will be a further topic of conversation.
It's about deja vu
A mysterious and little-studied phenomenon, at the occurrence of which the present, past and future intersect. A person has a feeling that it was already with him once. For some reason, our consciousness travels in the future, remembers something there, as a result of which, before the onset of the event, there is confidence that we know what will happen, since we remember this from the past.
Every healthy person experiences it at least once in a lifetime. Is this a game of our imagination, fragments of memories, fragments of dreams, mental disorder or evidence that we are not living our first life? Or is it a misinterpretation of the time of an event? There are many questions, but there is no reasonable answer. And suddenly there is no time, and we can also remember the future, as well as the past?
We continue to talk about mysticism
Let's talk about memories, about past lives. There are many myths related to this topic, but reincarnation has been proven by scientists.
“Science cannot bring absolutely reliable arguments against the idea of ​​eternal return”
Albert Einstein's quote also confirms this. A doctor of medicine from the United States, Ian Stevenson, has spent decades studying past lives. He worked with children from Asia, who told him about memories, about the past. He checked the evidence that supported their narrative.
In eastern culture, there is no prohibition on talking about past lives, the idea that life is one is not propagated there. Therefore, they talk about it calmly. Another scientist, Michael Newton, has proven the theory of past lives through hypnosis.
Can I learn to see?
Definitely. Special techniques and trainings will help in this. Moreover, scientists argue that children under five years of age possess this property, memories of past lives are not closed to them. Why do we need to know about them, you ask. Everything is simple - the key to the future lies in them, or rather, to understanding what is happening to you in the present. Thanks to this, it is easier and faster to understand yourself than through childhood memories and analysis of the comparison of situations in the framework of one current life. We recall only the accumulated experience that we have received in past lives.
After all, you can see your talents and happy lives. Find out what you did well, what made you successful and famous, how you achieved your goals, by what means, what emotions you experienced at the same time. It is this state of internal uplift of vitality that ensures success. All of this is real "re-burn" again.
With the help of past lives, you can get answers to all your questions, understand why something is not coming out, remove obstacles to achieving the goal. It is the understanding and re-awareness of the problem that helps to get rid of it.
Is it useful to view past lives?
Of course yes. This eliminates mechanical reactions. We use only 5% of the capabilities of the brain, and 95% are beyond our control, these are programs. That is, beliefs, hidden benefits, psychological characteristics, oaths, taboos and so on, which a person has formed or given in past lives. And you can also get rid of fears.
What are the causes of memories of the past?
A person quite often returns to events that have occurred, thinks, plunging into them. Those, in turn, absorb. By focusing on them, an individual harms psychological and physical health. Here are the main situations that provoke this:
- The death of a loved one or a loved one.
- Treason, parting with your beloved mate.
- Unfulfillment in life, in particular, lack of demand in the profession.
- Change of residence (another district, city, country).
- Household monotonous life.
There are many reasons, but whatever they are, you cannot look back, otherwise you will be doomed to constant failure.
There are several recommendations for dealing with this.
You can get rid of the memories of past years. We give tips:
- Analyze the past. It is necessary to forgive, admit a slip and let go of the situation.
- Check out the errors.
- Use meditation and positive affirmations.
It also happens that a person understands and tries to get rid of the memories of past years, but nothing comes of it. Here, the individual is either dishonest with himself, or there really is a deep-seated reason in the subconscious. Then it might be better to contact a professional psychologist.
Now, let's quote famous people
So, quotes about memories, about the past:
“Remembrance is the only paradise from which they cannot expel us” (J. Richter).
“Memories are so ridiculous. Some of them are rather vague, others are absolutely clear, others are too painful, and you try not to think about them, and some are so painful that you will never forget them ”(A. Mac-Partlin).
“Getting rid of memories is like stealing oneself. Sometimes, memories are all that we have, and they taste sweeter than any fruit ”(M. Brenton).
“The paths diverged, the memories remained” (S. Yesenin).
“Memories are what we age. The secret of eternal youth is in the ability to forget ”(Erich Maria Remarque).
There are so many sayings of famous people, and each definitely has its own truth, because it is not for nothing that these phrases became winged. Remembering the past, in a word, is the key to the future. Of course, it is impossible to live by them, but it is possible and even necessary to use it as experience in order to avoid perfect mistakes.
How to get rid of torment?
The main thing is to understand that the past cannot be undone and correct, whatever it may be. Use it as a resource or experience. For example, before important negotiations, to cope with the excitement, remember the moments when you were successful.
Use bad memories of the past as an experience. When learning a lesson from them, remember only about it so as not to repeat the previous mistakes. Living is real. It is at this moment that you can influence something and change the course of events. It is necessary to use and value the past correctly, because the future will depend on it.
What to do in order not to live in the past?
Consider the algorithm of actions, so:
- In case of loss of a loved one or separation, the person experiences a deep depression, pain. Of course, you won’t be able to forget everything quickly, but you must try to reduce this time. The main thing is to stop blaming yourself, to understand, to give assessments.
- No matter how strange and stupid it sounds, take time to worry. Let it be, for example, a week, two or three, a month. Spill your emotions as you like, only without harming others, and then pull yourself together and let the situation go.
- You can commemorate this event with a tea party or feast. The main thing is to decide for yourself that there is no more pain. You are starting a new life.
- Do not go back to the past. As soon as it begins to tighten again, switch. Suppose you come up with your fabulous little world, town or village where you will be comfortable and calm, and return there.
- Cultivate. Engage yourself in a hobby or favorite thing. Go deep into the profession, improve your skills.
- Cheer yourself up. Remember yourself in your youth when you were full of strength and confidence. Transfer that energy to the present, start a new communication, get acquainted, enjoy life.
Concentrate solely on good memories, if it still does not work out, focus on vivid dreams. Of course, it is very difficult to learn to let go of the situation, to forgive the offenders and yourself, not to cling to the past. But you must try. The past should serve only as an invaluable experience, and not become a source of troubles and bad mood.