In any, even the most loving couple, in life there are times when the relationship does not seem as colorful as before, and even intimacy becomes ordinary. And it’s good if the wife or husband asks for variety in bed - we can assume that a “diagnosis” has been made to the withering relationship and it remains only to “cure” it. It is better if both partners take care of this and the desire to improve relations will be mutual. If dialogue on an intimate topic is difficult to conduct, then at least one couple should “keep abreast of” sexual relations and at least sometimes offer variety in bed.
Change of poses
Changing the pose in bed for a change is perhaps one of the first aspects that couples who decide to change something in their sex life think about. This is not surprising, because the proposal to change the position is unlikely to cause a sharp denial from the partner. Therefore, this step is suitable for couples, in whose relations it’s very difficult to introduce some kind of novelty.
It is important to remember that although the Kama Sutra and similar publications offer an incredible amount of poses for sex, some of them can be performed only by well-trained acrobat partners. In a couple it is better to listen to the inner desires of the body and change the position to one that will bring the greatest pleasure from sex. Perhaps partners will be able to discover not only new facets of intimate sensations, but also new erogenous zones of each other.
Joint viewing of erotic films
Sharing movies with erotic content is another way to add variety in a family bed for couples with conservative looks. If the partner strongly resists changes in the intimate way, you can be interested in his proposal to watch a movie with scenes of erotic content. Of course, for seasoned lovers “to leave everything as it is”, you cannot immediately put “Emmanuelle”, but here feature films, in which there are a lot of bed scenes, are perfect.
Gradually, you should "escalate the situation", offering to view more and more frank tapes, and the result will not be long in coming. In the end, the partners will not even notice how they will move on to famous films about “German plumbers”.
Joint viewing of a candid video can also suggest further ways to make a difference in bed - it is only important to be able to observe. If you closely monitor your partner, you will notice which movie scenes excite him (her) the most, and then put this into practice.
Joint water procedures
If men are more aroused by visual images, then women get smells and tactile sensations. Here you can not do without a joint bath. Using aromatic oils and all kinds of foam, in the bathroom you can create a small piece of the beach on a tropical island. For the best effect, you can use scented candles and flower decoration (classic, but still just as effective - rose petals).
Water procedures can stir up male hormones with renewed vigor. It is enough for a partner to take a shower with a man in one T-shirt on her naked body - and the effect will not take long. The female body in tight wet clothes is unlikely to leave anyone indifferent.
Role-playing games
Another popular way to add variety to bed is by playing roles. If even the partner is embarrassed to talk about his role-playing fantasies, then already at the stage of watching erotic films you can see which heroes excite him the most. If wishes about your beloved hero are expressed, you should never ridicule or joke about the choice of a partner. In this case, there is a risk that it will “close” and will never again go on expanding the boundaries of the existing intimate structure.
If the roles are performed purely on the basis of observing your soul mate from the side, you should not immediately depict to him the depraved heroes of his fantasies. For example, if you have fantasies about a schoolgirl, don’t get a school dress with a white apron out of the chest - a short skirt with a white blouse and playful braids on your head will be enough. Do not rush things if someone in a couple is embarrassed to admit their fantasies.
Sex toys
Variety in bed can also bring goods from the nearest sex shop. A variety of adult toys in such stores for a long time can take the imagination of even the most sophisticated couples. Beginners of such establishments can try, for starters, unusual condoms and all kinds of sensation enhancers. For those couples who want sharper emotions - you can pick up handcuffs, items for BDSM games and much more. By the way, here you can buy costumes for role-playing games or erotic underwear.
The only rule that buyers should adhere to in a sex shop is never to be shy to ask sellers about the purpose of this or that thing. People working in such stores will not laugh at someone’s interests in the intimate sphere, as they are interested in the client. In addition, a consultation will help to correctly use the purchased goods. Otherwise, the couple runs the risk, at least, of being disappointed in their choice, as a maximum of getting injured due to improper use of the thing.
Changing the place of making love
It is no secret that changing the place of sex has a positive effect on the emotions of partners. Indeed, when from year to year intimacy occurs in four walls on the same bed - there is no longer any time for romance and sensations of novelty. Variety in bed for a couple can be made by the same hotel room, taken for one night, sex in the SV carriage of the train, or at least in the country with friends.
The most desperate couples looking for adrenaline and new vivid impressions practice sex in public places - parks, squares, fitting rooms, etc. Such a “change of terms” not only surrounds the new environment, but also, thanks to the danger of catching one's eyes, gives an unforgettable adrenaline experience.
Striptease
Strip dancing always excites imagination, and with it attraction to a partner. Perhaps, the main rule in such an activity can be considered the correct selection of music and surroundings. For striptease dancing, it is best to choose soft dim lights, light slow romantic music and leisurely movements with the release of clothing. Most couples are unlikely to be dance experts, but with these components even a novice striptease master will be able to excite his partner.
As you know, the male half of the population rarely spoils their partners with such dances. Therefore, if you decide to strip and fulfill it with all the passion and tenderness for your beloved, then the variety in the family bed is simply guaranteed.
Intimate correspondence and calls
Thanks to the Internet, today's lovers can maintain passion even at a distance from each other. A few phrases about how you would like to spend this night with your partner, written in some messenger or social network, and coming home from work, he is guaranteed to arrange an intimate variety in bed. After all, all this time in his phone, tablet and head were those images that were inspired by what was written.
If circumstances permit, you can also excite a partner with your own voice, arranging for him something like phone sex with a call to work. Arriving home, he certainly can not resist the ardent passion.
Erotic massage
Erotic massage will also help to make a difference in bed with a lover. Moreover, this step is suitable for those couples whose second half is embarrassed to speak and bring newness to intimacy. Starting with the usual relaxing massage, you can gradually and imperceptibly go on to stimulate the erogenous zones, which again guarantees new sensations and passionate sex.
With erotic massage, the most important thing is to closely monitor the partner’s reaction and monitor his behavior: breathing, moans, and glances. With the right approach, you can even discover new erogenous points on the body of a loved one, the touch of which greatly excites him.
Splashing
The combination of the two most ancient human instincts - nutrition and reproduction - is reflected in such sexual practices as splashing. In fact, this is a combination of sex and food - from licking a variety of cream, chocolate or honey from the body of a partner to romantic baths with champagne.
Of course, if one of the partners is very fastidious, then such a variety in bed is unlikely to be received by them with a bang. You should also be prepared for the fact that in movies and photos honey on a naked body really looks very sexy, but in practice you will have to come across a sticky and sticky substance (in the case of chocolate, it’s also hot). If partners are ready to diversify their sexual experience with splashing, then there are plenty of ideas, as well as recipes in world culinary.
New types of sex
Often couples, having once discussed the issue of sexual preferences and heard rejection, for example, of oral sex, no longer raise the question of its use in intimate life. But over the years, partners become closer and dearer to each other and are not averse to trying it out. But the phrase spoken on one of the dates at the very beginning of the relationship stops them and makes it difficult to offer it again. It is important to remember that relationships are developing all the time, and that it was taboo on the first night of sex, perhaps now is your partner's most longed-for desire.
It is quite natural to raise a once forbidden topic, find out what pushes the partner away from him and try an approach in which both will enjoy. For example, in society, the opinion about the pain and inconvenience of anal sex is greatly exaggerated. But now there is a fairly wide range of various lubricants that help to avoid discomfort. Despite the widespread opinion, inspired by well-known films, that they have to do anal sex in the knee-elbow position, the least painful position for the partner will be on the back side (the so-called “spoon”). The main thing is to try and not be afraid to talk about your feelings - and then the ideas for a change in bed will appear by themselves.
Reviews
Today, a lot of discussion of various sexual innovations and practices is being held - the taboo on such conversations is becoming more and more a thing of the past. As can be seen from the opinions of couples who have decided on numerous sexual experiments, women and men prefer different types of diversity.
So, the fair sex is more inclined to practice sex in public places - the danger of being taken by surprise gives the girl additional excitement. Ladies are not indifferent to romantic baths, handcuffs and changing positions with intimacy.
Men are more inclined to role-playing games, joint watching spicy movies and new types of sex. Sexual toys are also one of the preferences of the stronger sex. It should be noted that according to the girls who practiced new types of sex, they were also satisfied - at least they got rid of fear and unwillingness to deal with them. And the emotions presented to the partner at the same time became a new impetus in the development of relations of loving couples.