It is believed that the stronger sex behaves relaxedly and independently with weak women, that it’s easy for guys to start a conversation with any girl and invite her on a date. However, life is much more complicated and diverse than any stereotypes and statements. And therefore, it is far from always the young man can take courage and show signs of attention to that young lady whom he liked.
Communicating with a girl is not a ritual, not a rite to which one is attached at a certain age. We learn to find a common language with people all our lives, and relations between the sexes are no exception. Therefore, it is worth discussing first which options for dating and communication are doomed to failure in advance, and which ones will be very effective.
Do not!!!
Once the poet said that the ministry of muses does not tolerate fuss. It also does not endure fuss in love or just an interest in a person. And therefore, the rules of communicating with girls include advice: do not try to meet in a hurry, on the run, in a hurry. After all, if a girl is in a hurry, she just has no time to look at you, listen to your speeches and appreciate them. Her pretty head can be occupied at this moment with any thoughts, but you obviously have no place there. And in return for the expected interest in your person, you run the risk of either coldness and detachment, or even rudeness.
Therefore, if communication with the girl of your dreams really interests you, please be patient and watch the moment when she walks along the street, not in a hurry, or better yet, missed. Here she is, as they say, yours, only know how to interest!
Another “no need” concerns obsession. Seeing that the girl is walking alone, pay attention to her walk, to the expression on her face. It is possible that the lady is out of sorts. And instead of the expected cute flirting, communication with a girl in this state will cause the opposite effect. Going up, ask if she needs help. Try to express sympathy with a sympathetic tone, but do not replay. By her reaction, you will understand whether you’ve hit the bull's eye or should politely say goodbye and dissolve in the crowd for a while - until the next meeting.
Remember the proverb: “legs stretch out on clothes”? Alas, it also applies to romantic dreams and their realization. It is possible that the girl, if she is pretty, not stupid and uncomplexed, and even from a wealthy family, already has a whole crowd of fans. They present her with chic bouquets, ride on cool “cars”, indulge in expensive cosmetics and tickets for private screenings of movies. And let her not lift her nose and behave naturally - think, are you able to compete with her constant environment? After all, serious communication with the girl suggests that you will be introduced into the circle of her constant acquaintances. Will you feel in that plate when you have to take the subway to the party, and when you collect money for going to the restaurant in a pool, you simply don’t have the right amount? What’s Zoshchenko’s presence in Aristocrat? "Those without money - those with the ladies do not go ...". It’s sad, of course - but perhaps it’s better not to risk it, not to hurt your pride.
And one more important point. Before you make an acquaintance and start a conversation, think about what to communicate with the girl. Improvisation is good when it is carefully prepared. Remember what books you read in recent months, what films you watched, what hobbies you can tell her about.
Show your courtesy and good breeding. Respectful “you” in this situation will become a solid bridge to the close good “you”. And in no case do not use obscene expressions and “verbal garbage” - all sorts of “kitties”, “babies”, “baby”, etc. For girls, even in the 18th century, even in the 21st - it’s still very, Well, I really want romance and really beautiful relationships.
Before going into the "light", put yourself in order. Greasy hair and a cigarette stuck to my lips, wrinkled clothes and unclean shoes will push any girl away from you, even if you are seven spans in your forehead and can broadcast absolutely everything in the world 24 hours a day.
So how should it be?
You need to be yourself. To show the best that is in you, and to fight with the bad. And then luck on the love front will be with you!