Modern man lives in a difficult period, associated with a frantic pace, constant stress, a frequent variable of trends and trends, as well as a huge number of stereotypes. It is not surprising that people often face psychological problems and all kinds of personality disorders, in particular, the phenomenon of princess syndrome is common. How does it manifest itself, what are the reasons for its appearance and how to deal with it?
Main manifestations
Princess syndrome manifests itself as follows:
- Perfectionism. "Princess" strives to look perfect and neat, as well as follow the latest fashion trends. Its scrupulousness and pickiness also extends to the environment - housing, work space.
- Neglect "Princess", as a rule, is very indifferent and even sometimes squeamish to others. It takes the attention of others and beneficence for granted. She herself does not consider it necessary to take any retaliatory measures.
- Ostentatiousness. "Princess" strives to constantly be in the spotlight, therefore, takes an active part in social life. She visits nightclubs, restaurants, parties, actively covers her life on social networks. If there is an opportunity to prove itself at some competition or large-scale event, she will definitely do it.
- The pretense. The "Princess" is constantly trying to seem like what she is not. She is unnaturally sweet with others, or, conversely, cold and arrogant. No matter how well the girl enters the role, falsity is visible from the side with the naked eye.
- Distorted perception. "Princess" in its own way understands the world. Her system of ideals and values is far from generally accepted.
- Infantilism. Even at a conscious age, the “princess” exploits a childish behavior model. She is naughty, does not want to take responsibility, tries to seem helpless, and so on.
Causes of the problem
Before you deal with the manifestations of Princess syndrome, you need to understand the causes of its manifestations. Here are the most common sources of the problem:
- Parenting. For each parent, his child is unique. He is the smartest, most talented, most beautiful. But some parents do not just think so, but put this installation in their children's heads. So, parents indulge girls, dress them like dolls, buy the most fashionable toys. Moreover, parents love to show off their children, displaying their beauty and talents on display. While adults assert themselves at the expense of babies, confidence in their own exclusiveness grows in children's consciousness, which only grows stronger and passes into adulthood as one grows up.
- Legends. From early childhood, the girl listens to fairy tales and watches cartoons about fairy-tale princesses, whom everyone loves, who will certainly meet their fairy-tale princes. Adults have their own tales - films, series, books, which, although divorced from reality, but leave an imprint on consciousness. Thus, a person begins to dream of repeating a beautiful script in his life, begins to play the role of one who is not.
- Thirst for attention. Sometimes princess syndrome is not the result of increased attention, but its lack. A girl or an adult girl can “crown” herself, trying to draw attention to herself in a similar way.
The problems of real "princesses" on the example of Disney characters
Since the roots of Princess syndrome in women lie in childhood, the causes of the problem should be sought in fairy-tale characters. Here's how to explain the reasons for this complex using the example of Disney heroines:
- Cinderella - has a passive and dependent character, constantly needs care. As a rule, this is due to some kind of anxiety disorders in childhood.
- Ariel - suffers from obsessive-impulsive disorder, accompanied by a fear of saying or doing something inappropriate. She is also characterized by obsessive hoarding.
- Pocahontas - characterized by hysterical personality disorder. This means that a person behaves unnaturally to attract attention. It also means a penchant for manipulation and incitement.
- Elsa- suffers from a disturbing personality disorder, which means inability to live in society.
- Jasmine - suffers from bipolar disorder, a person is inclined to commit rash acts for fear of being alone.
- Snow White - she is characterized by a sense of exaggeration of her own importance.
Why you need to deal with it
If a girl considers herself a princess, to some extent this can be considered normal and even natural. Nevertheless, for the “princess” herself, this can turn into serious problems. Here are the main reasons to remove the "crown":
- You are not inimitable. Rather, you are inimitable as much as others consider you to be. Titles appropriated to itself do not carry any meaning or benefit. Just look around and go through social networks - there are millions of such “unique princesses,” but they all look alike.
- Being a woman is not an achievement or an excuse. Indeed, the fair sex has some privileges in dealing with men. Nevertheless, do not abuse them. There are billions of women in the world, they are no worse than you.
- Not everything happens the way you want. Vagaries - an effective tool for manipulating close people (albeit dishonest). But you are surrounded by many more people with their interests and ambitions. Thus, shedding tears and stomping angrily legs, you will not come to success.
How to deal with it
How to deal with the fact that a woman fancies herself a princess? The answer to the banality is simple. Need to get back to reality. Of course, to do this is much more difficult than to say. Here are the steps you should take:
- You need to start by eliminating the influence of those factors that distort your worldview - movies, TV shows, glossy magazines, and so on.
- Communicate more with others. This will teach you to be more natural.
- Take an interest in other people's problems, help those who need it. It will show you real life outside of your fictional world.
- Seek help from a psychologist if you cannot handle the problem yourself.
Preventative measures
Most psychological problems come from childhood. The princess complex is no exception. Parents of girls are especially important to know. In order not to encounter this unpleasant problem, it is worth taking such preventive measures:
- Praise the child dosed. Approval is important, but it must be justified. The child must understand that praise and encouragement must be earned.
- Set limits. Games and entertainment (especially watching cartoons and TV shows) should be metered. The child should have real hobbies and real household responsibilities. As for reading, alternate literature on fairy-tale princesses with instructive works of life.
- Pamper dosed. This is not normal when, at the first request, the child receives everything he wants. In the acquisition of toys, clothes and other things should be common sense. Need to find a "middle ground." Do not go too far beyond the objective need for certain things, indulging the desires of the child.
- Educate the environment. If you introduce any restrictions for your child, they should be observed by grandparents, uncles, aunts and other people with whom the baby comes into contact.
- It’s impossible to be a girl forever. It is human nature to grow up. If children's vagaries and strangenesses of a young girl are perceived with understanding (and sometimes with sympathy), then on the part of an adult woman this is at least stupid.
Princess Syndrome in Men
Oddly enough, but this problem is common not only among women, but also among the stronger sex. This complex is also from childhood and is related to education. As a rule, parents of sons (especially mother) treat their offspring in a special way. They surround them with reverent care, and also convince them of their own exclusivity. Passing into adulthood, they retain this feeling of their own importance and indispensability, but the reality is somewhat different.
Conclusion
Each person is unique and beautiful in his own way. Nevertheless, excessive self-absorption and confidence in one's own superiority is not the norm. In addition to the fact that princess syndrome prevents building constructive relationships with others, it undermines a person from the inside, causing a lot of psychological problems. Thus, this problem requires attention and urgent measures.