The most complex and unpredictable are the relationships between people. This is not mathematics where everything is done according to formulas. This is not a story where all facts and events took place in the past.
With the right approach, men, women and children become the basis of a new unit of society - the family. But it is much more difficult to maintain an enabling environment within these relationships.
In this article, you will get acquainted with the main situations that develop between people today. Possible problems, various situations and ways to solve them are quite typical, but, unfortunately, are not suitable for everyone.
What ideally looks like family happiness?
Two young people met, a guy and a girl. Between them feelings flare up, love is born. They decided to register these strong relationships officially, that is, to marry.
Family life, domestic issues, over time there is a need for procreation. And after some time a baby appears. After that, more and more. Some dwell on one, others create a large family. And everyone lives in peace and harmony. Just a fairy tale.
But what really happens in many families? How far have modern men, women and children gone from this stereotype?
And these are completely different stories, which will be discussed below.
Pregnancy Concerns
In fact, these are quite stressful periods that significantly complicate the lives of both family members. And everyone should make an effort to maintain a strong relationship and a relaxed atmosphere.
During pregnancy, not only women suffer. Clear business, toxicosis, hormones and all that follows from this. Men, in turn, spend no less than nerves during this period. They try to create the most comfortable conditions for the course of pregnancy and full bearing of the unborn child. After all, it was at this time that the physical and psychological components of the baby were laid. After all, a healthy woman is healthy and a child.
Against the background of reduced stress resistance of women, the nerves of men either grow stronger or lose. Therefore, conflict situations are becoming more frequent, right up to the complete separation of the family.
In this case, you can advise the following: men, hold on, endure. Your beloved women are not acting up specifically. There is a restructuring of the body, which causes such behavior. Often, women then do not understand why they wanted to yell or cry. So patience, patience and patience again.
So the time has come for the hospital
The closer the long-awaited X-day, the more women worry and worry. Indeed, for the first time, no matter how many others tell, you do not know how and what will pass. In the meantime, women in the hospital experience new sensations, men are mentally preparing for the upcoming discharge of their wives with their new or new family members.
These few days become a turning point in the life of two people. During this period, the most important thing is the moral support of the woman in childbirth. She can inadvertently take out all of her fears and feelings at the closest - on her spouse.
Therefore, at this stage, men have to find it difficult enough both mentally and physically: to prepare housing for the return of the family, to repair something, to remove somewhere. To maintain a strong relationship requires a lot of endurance and a degree of tolerance.
Postpartum depression
The most interesting thing is that this symptom with the same probability can occur in both women and men. But this is not a reason to panic and give up. If you see a critical condition in your soulmate, try to provide the right help in a timely manner.
Postpartum depression is normal in women. After the transfer, psychological fatigue sets in. After all, the body has experienced significant stress. Men should make a little effort and help their wives in their new mother role. Although women and children are now an inseparable whole, you are also their family, and they need your support to no lesser extent.
When such an opportunity happens to a representative of the stronger sex, then women should remember some psychological aspects of the male psyche. It will begin to seem to men that they have been forgotten, not given time, become unnecessary. So you need to try to allocate time among the huge mountains of diapers, diapers and constant feeding. Find the opportunity for privacy, creating a romantic evening. So that your man understands that he is still loved and important.
When does a family break up?
This is not the end of the world. In a complex body like a family, a lot happens. Sometimes there is an unpleasant breakdown of the cell of society.
And here there may be two developments. More often than not, the child remains in custody with the mother. In the second version, which happens much less often, the father is engaged in upbringing.
Both one and the second case are unpleasant, but do not despair. After all, family happiness can always be established and rebuilt even with a new person.
Can a woman with a child be happy?
What do you think yourself? The correct answer is yes. A woman can not only, but also become happy if she wants to.
Clear business, breaking up relations, family breakdown is a complex business, accompanied by many problems. For example, registration of alimony, arrangements for meetings and visits of the second parent. But now the task of the mother is to raise a full, wealthy and happy child.
Even in this situation, look for positive points. One will be difficult, on the one hand. On the other hand, you do not depend on anyone, independently distribute time for all household chores, education and leisure activities.
Once all technical issues are resolved, you can allocate time for personal life.
In search of a new dad, or Do not be afraid to approach to get acquainted
You are used to seeing women and children walking in the street. And often your imagination draws a picture of their full-fledged family. But is it really so? Is everything as rosy and cloudless as in your head?
Men do not even consider such options as objects for dating. Thus, depriving the potential of young mothers to arrange their personal lives. But how many women are left on maternity leave alone. Therefore, men should not discard such options. No one knows, maybe it is this lonely woman with a child who will become his happiest family.
When the children are already old enough, it is easier for the mother to devote time to a new relationship. But, on the other hand, it will be more difficult for men to find a common language with teenagers. After all, and the child is already a fairly well-formed personality with its own character and perception of the world.
A woman with two children will be glad to chat
No matter what gender or age the children are. It is important that there are two of them, and this is twice as much difficulty in finding a common language with the younger generation.
On the other hand, having found a common language with one child, it is already easier to find an approach to the second.
In any case, each case is unique and requires individual consideration.
So does it make a difference how many new daughters you have from your previous marriage? It all depends on your attitude to the situation. If you easily converge with the younger generation, become a friend and comrade, communication brings you pleasure, then you will not care how many children the woman has. You will become an elder brother and a keeper of secrets from mom for children. Just do not go too far so that the woman herself does not become jealous of her own children. Although this is said for the sake of humor, but everything is possible.
When communication with a child causes you irritation, nervousness and loss of appetite, it is worth considering whether you made the right choice. After all, creating a family with a woman and children from her previous marriage, you will all see each other in the same territory. All negativity from communication will accumulate, which over time will turn into a significant problem. Weigh your priorities and only then decide in favor of what and whom to make your choice.
Find out the reasons first
It is pleasing when single people meet and lost feelings of affection, sympathy and love arise. That's what life is for, so that everything would not be so easy and simple. In every new relationship already grown people have their own nuances and individual moments.
The next case that can be considered is when the woman you liked left the child to the education of her previous spouse.
Some men will not want to delve into the details and will behave as if it should be. Others will want to figure out what prompted their new lover to commit such an act. Her unwillingness to raise children? Or maybe her difficult financial situation?
Does the woman want to connect again with her child in your new family? The most important thing is to honestly and without reservation discuss the situation. Such a step will only unite your relationship, given a confidential and open conversation.
If you met a categorical "no", then it is worth considering. So you create a family, decide to have children. Won't you find yourself in a similar position as your previous spouse? After all, such a woman belongs to the category of people who reach a certain point in a relationship. After which it is easier for them to leave and leave in English. Do you need it?
Was it necessary to give birth?
Women without children can cause an absolutely contradictory attitude towards themselves among others. It’s good if it’s neutral or indifferent. But in our society there are individuals who are able to almost openly condemn. In their opinion, the female sex is obliged to engage in procreation. And when at the age of 30 a woman has no children, she becomes an outcast. She, especially the elderly, is beginning to be considered an irresponsible, immoral person who does not want to burden herself with the duties of raising children.
Before joyfully assuming such a position, try to figure out the reasons that prompted a woman to abandon the role of mother.
Firstly, a simple physiological problem. The human body is an extremely complex system in which failures can occur. Note how many family planning and fertilization centers have been set up. So, not everyone can be parents.
Secondly, the elementary lack of desire to become a mother and all the attendant difficulties. After all, someone is heading into a career. Others realize that they will not be able to properly care for and raise children. And this is an absolutely normal situation. Some have no children, while others live in large families.
So even without children, women lead a full life and are open to new acquaintances and relationships with men.
We will radically turn around the situation
Now imagine the picture exactly the opposite. You are a woman who has met a handsome man on her way. The same in turn has children from other women. What is your first reaction?
Most often in this case, people think about whether they need such difficulties. After all, you have to look for a common language, to educate. In most cases, you will encounter resistance from the younger generation, especially among adolescents.
Now look at this from the other side: a single man also wants to have new relationships, create a new full-fledged family for his children. Does he not have the right to do so in his position?
If you really have a person who is nice, pleasant, then having children should not change relationships.
Summary for Men
The relationship between a woman and a man is inherent in nature. And they arise more on a subconscious level. Therefore, it does not play any role whether a woman has children and how many of them, or she is single.
If a man finds a person interesting to him, with whom he feels comfortable, then the remaining nuances are not significant.
The key to a successful relationship does not depend on the people around you, you create everything yourself.