The woman has an orgasm in her head, and while there are problems and chores, she will not reach the peak of pleasure, no matter how you try. Therefore, before moving on to the practical part, it does not hurt to take care of psychological and physical comfort. A relaxing bath or light massage will prepare you both sexually. If necessary, stipulate contraception in advance so that she does not get nervous about this.
Many men mistakenly believe that the universal answer to the question of how to arouse a woman lies in the word “cunnilingus”. Forced to disappoint you - this is far from the case. Firstly, only every third lady is capable of experiencing a clitoral orgasm. For the rest, it is either vaginal or mixed. By the way, the latter is the most common.
Secondly, the clitoris is a sensitive area. Your one awkward movement - and the partner is no longer experiencing pleasure, but pain. Therefore, let us tell you a secret, many women do not like cunnilingus. And the point here is not at all constraint or your inability. Just such caresses do not give the desired effect. However, experimenting and improving is not forbidden.
In many manuals, “How to Excite a Woman,” you have to read that a lengthy prelude is simply necessary. They say that ladies are excited and cool down much more slowly, so preliminary caresses for 15-20 minutes (at least) will allow you to bring your partner to the peak of pleasure.
I must say that this is nothing more than a common myth.
Sexual arousal is a delicate thing, and its mechanism has been little studied to this day. One thing is for sure - a woman’s desire depends entirely on her mood. And sometimes prolonged preludes may not be needed. Moreover, while you will excite your partner, her desire will disappear completely. Do not forget to follow her reactions. You can determine the degree of excitement of a woman by her genitals. The clitoris swells, blood rushes to it. The labia also increases slightly in size, and a transparent lubricant is released from the vagina.
Well, to top it off, error number three. For some reason, it is customary to think that women love with their ears and therefore, the more compliments you tell your partner in bed, the more she gets excited. This is partly true. A gentle whisper in the ear, accompanied by light kisses on the neck, can warm up sexual desire to a certain degree. However, be careful. Indeed, for the most part, representatives of the stronger sex can not speak compliments even in a calm state. Not even an hour "blurt out" something without thinking, and get instead of a planned orgasm tears and hysteria. It is better to limit yourself to individual affectionate phrases, and save long tirades for another occasion.
After a theoretical digression, let us turn to the topic of our article - how to arouse a woman. Of course, all of you have already heard that both girls and young people have erogenous zones on their bodies, the effect on which causes sexual desire. For men, this is, first of all, the genitals and buttocks. Fine floor has a finer organization. Erogenous zones of a girl can be in the most unexpected places. There are ladies who are able to experience an orgasm from just touching the soles of the feet or popliteal hollows.
Many people like it when a man gently caresses his neck and neck. But the most win-win option is a "cat's place" - a section on the back between the shoulder blades. Almost all women admit that such caresses give them unimaginable pleasure.
Among the tips on how to arouse a woman, the most common recommendations are how much and how to caress the breast. We regret to note that this is another typical male mistake. The caresses of the female breast excite most of the man himself. For the fair sex, this organ has a completely different purpose, and this area of the body does not differ in special sensitivity.
Keep in mind that all people are individual, and when asked how to excite a woman, no one will answer better than herself. Adults should not be shy to say "about it" in bed. Of course, over time, the monotony bores everyone, and the success of the sexual life of partners depends, in many respects, on their desire to experiment and learn new things about each other.
And at the end of the conversation I would like to add that for any representative of the fair half of humanity, sex is more than an orgasm. And if a man understands this, he will not need to consult homegrown "cauldrons" on how to arouse his wife or girlfriend. Tenderness, love and tact are the best aphrodisiacs.