People cannot live without quarrels. Different upbringing, worldview and interests can make a difference in the family. People cease to understand each other, begin to quarrel and quarrel. Often, such skirmishes lead to divorce. How to avoid misunderstanding and maintain good relations for many years? Read about it below.
Everyday problems
The main reason for all conflicts is the inability to live together. People who have been brought up in various social conditions are poorly “rubbed” to each other. Someone may find it strange scandal due to dirty dishes or because of unclosed toothpaste. Now imagine that the dishes that you used to see clean all your life will suddenly cease to be so. Or the paste will stop closing. Such trifles, which at first can be treated condescendingly, gradually begin to annoy. Disagreement in the family begins with a small crack. One partner asks the other to change his habits. If a person does not hear his soul mate or does not want to change himself, then soon it will be possible to wait for a major quarrel. You need to be able to change and adapt to the requirements of a loved one. Yes, it will be difficult, but you can win much more. A good attitude of the second half, who will notice positive changes in you, will bring dividends.
Boredom
What is the second most common cause of family disruption? If one of the partners could not realize himself, did not find any hobby, he will live not his life, but the life of his soulmate. In this case, the life of a partner who has his own interests will become unbearable. Why? Eternal calls and SMS will strain. A person will not be able to concentrate on work or on his hobby, since the other half will be bored at home, and it will require attention. In the evening, when a person wants to relax, a restless partner will walk around and go crazy about what you need to go to the movies or to a restaurant. A person who cannot independently find an occupation is unbearable. With him, boring and uninteresting. Such a person will not be able to tell anything, but will require that everyone around her entertain. Most often, such individuals are women, but exceptions to this rule are not as rare as we would like.
Divergence of interests
Why is there a discord in the family? People who have common interests at the beginning of their life path may lose them over time. A person is changing, he is reconsidering his views on life and on himself. It is not surprising that sometimes some part of his hobbies remains in the past. People who stop spending time together begin to move away from each other. They have nothing to talk about. They no longer understand each other and can no longer understand what went wrong in a relationship. The visible facade of happiness can only be a beautiful picture, behind which there is nothing. Such a relationship can be called dead. If a person no longer understands his soul mate, and her presence next to him begins to annoy, then you should look first of all for changes not in the partner, but in yourself. If you really have changed, talk to your loved one. Coldness in a relationship is always felt by two people. If you want to maintain good and strong relationships for a long time, then do not lose your common interests. Even if some activity is not interesting to you anymore, find an area where common ground still exists.
Pay attention to each other
Have you had a family breakdown? What to do and how to restore relations? We must try to pay each other as much attention as possible. People who move away from each other begin to spend less time together. Did you notice the coldness on the part of the partner? Do not blame the person for the fact that he has lost a bright feeling towards you. Take the initiative. Organize a romantic dinner for your loved one, make a small gift, or buy tickets to the cinema or theater. Try to pay attention by all means available to you. A person who will be surrounded by care and love cannot leave you. Relationships are a constant job. If you do not make efforts, then the result will be corresponding. Take the time to talk to your partner in the evening, instead of watching the next episode of your favorite series. If you play a major role in the life of your soulmate, then the attitude towards you will be the best.
More trust
Are you jealous? Your disbelief can bring frustration to the family. What to do in such a situation? You need to understand that the more you trust a person, the stronger your relationship will be. What is jealousy? This is self-doubt. If you are jealous of your partner to colleagues or friends, then you think that the people around your soulmate are more interesting than you. Is it really? If this is true, then it is foolish to be offended by those around them for being smart and interesting personalities. Try your best to rise to their level. A person who is confident in herself will not be jealous of her partner. Trust is the most precious gift that you can present to another person. The second half, who sincerely loves you, will try to strengthen your confidence. If you see that a person lives up to your expectations over and over again, be sure to praise him. It will be pleasant to the soulmate that it justifies trust.
Do not put ultimatums
The reasons for family disagreement can be different: dissatisfaction with a partner, high expectations or exorbitant demands. Whatever the reason for your quarrel, do not be categorical. Do not promise and do not say that you will never do something or do not intend to do it. Life is very interesting. Some time will pass, and you will be able to do business with pleasure, which you did not plan to do. Therefore, do not drive yourself into a framework. A close person will lose confidence in you if you repeatedly promise to not do something, and after a week your life will force you to break your word.
Also, never put an ultimatum. Stupid is the woman who makes a man choose between her and something else or someone else. Today your fellow man chose you, but will he make such a choice tomorrow? The less conventions in your relationship, the easier and more reliable they will be.
Do not take litter out of the hut
Do you believe in a liner for family frustration? Even the most disbelieving people can consider that their happiness was prevented by others. You do not need to be superstitious to understand that there are too many ill-wishers in the world. Someone may want to destroy your happiness out of envy, and someone wants to take your anger out on you. How to keep the relationship for many years? Try not to spread about them. No need to tell everyone about your quarrels and omissions. It is not necessary to take out dirty linen in public. You should not share personal problems with friends or friends, or even with parents. Today you had a fight with your soulmate, and tomorrow make peace. You will forget all the bad words that your dear person said. But close people will remember them and secretly despise your soulmate. It is this distrust and bad attitude that can cause discord in the family. What is the easiest way to get rid of gossip and gossip? Do not give people reasons for them - and the number of envious people will immediately decrease in your life.
Do not go to insults
What's the easiest way to make a family breakdown? Quarrels and disputes cope with this task quickly and efficiently. You must understand that it’s impossible to live peacefully with a person. It is necessary to swear anyway from time to time. Try not to remember the past in your quarrels. If you swear that your missus has not nailed the shelf, then scold him only from behind the shelf. There is no need to remember that he also did not take out the trash during the week, and last weekend he refused to go to the cinema with you. Restrain yourself and do not get away from the topic of the initial conflict. No need to create a snowball, which then cannot be stopped. Indeed, in a fit of anger, you can say very offensive words, for which you will be ashamed. Your soulmate may forgive you for the insult you have inflicted, but the scar from your incontinence will forever remain in the heart of a loved one. Remember that a word can hurt a lot. Therefore, even in the heat of a quarrel, try to control what you say.
Learn to listen to each other
Couples who quarrel often try to find the reasons for their contention. Some superstitious women sincerely think that their main problem is family corruption. And instead of solving problems, they spend time learning how to remove damage to family frustration. If you are really superstitious, go to the fortuneteller. Do not try to do black magic at home. But in fact, all the problems that two people have are related to the fact that they do not know how to listen to each other. People really like to talk. But not everyone can listen to what they are answered. Think: can you listen? This is very easy to figure out. Remember your last dialogue with your soulmate and spin it back. Remember phrase by phrase. Did you succeed? Most likely, you will not succeed. This is an indicator of what you were thinking about what to say to the person while he was uttering his phrase. Learn to understand the essence of every word. There are no empty dialogs. Listen to everything your soulmate tells you. Then you do not have to go to fortune-tellers to establish relationships in the family.
Always solve problems right away
Do you want your quarrels not to turn into grandiose scandals? Then do not put off solving problems for later. If you don’t solve the problem as soon as it appears, don’t think that it will somehow resolve itself. The situation can really even out over time, but the cause of the discord will not be eliminated and will remind yourself at the most inopportune moment. Learn to take responsibility for family problems on yourself. Do not think that a serious quarrel is the result of damage to family discord and divorce, which was brought about by an envious neighbor. Have you had a fight with your husband? Find out what was the reason for the quarrel, and try to eliminate it right away, reaching a mutual agreement. Each scandal must be resolved immediately. If you are going to talk about it to your husband and try to resolve the problem together as you lose your temper, then your relationship will become stronger.
Focus on strengths, not weaknesses
Each person is unique, and this must be understood. Each has its own advantages, but there are also disadvantages. You need to accept your soulmate for what it is. Remaking an adult is difficult. Yes, you can correct some habits, but in general, you can’t eradicate all the shortcomings. It is necessary to accept that the person may be dysfunctional, sloppy or irresponsible. Do not focus on these shortcomings. The virtues for which you fell in love with a person should overlap with negative character traits. It makes no sense to seek help from third parties to change a person. Due to the shortcomings of your soulmate, a “crack” has gone and this has affected family relationships? How to remove the discord and eliminate it forever? Here you can only advise one thing - to be tolerant. There is no point in blaming a person or condemning him. You fell in love with a person for virtues, try to accept his shortcomings.
Do more than expected from you
Want to keep a good relationship for years to come? Then do more than is expected of you. Did your loved one ask you to go out and buy products? In addition to essential goods, buy a cake or ice cream. Even such a trifle will be pleasant. If you know that a girl loves flowers, then try to present her with bouquets not only on holidays, but also for no reason. Please your soulmate as often as possible. Thanks to small surprises that are presented unexpectedly, love will be warmed up and will not fade away. Do not be afraid of spoiling family frustration. If you will be reverent and gentle to your soulmate, then no black magic can separate you.