The connective tissue closes the entrance to the vagina - hymen, or hymen (which got its name in honor of the Greek god of marriage - Hymenus), which, depending on the individual physiological characteristics of each girl, differs in its location, width and thickness. Nature provides that the main function performed by the hymen is to protect the vagina from bacteria. Thus, the hymen is not only a symbol of virginity, but also serves to protect and preserve the health of women.
The hymen partially or completely collapses during intercourse, which in modern medicine is called "defloration." Rarely, there are times when this connective tissue is so thick that it interferes with sexual intercourse to such an extent that it has to be cut surgically.
Signs of deprivation of virginity
One of the signs of loss of virginity may be the presence of a small amount of blood on the sheet and pain during the first sexual contact. But again, everything is purely individual, since not everyone has a loss of virginity accompanied by painful sensations or blood. Sometimes, even during the first intimacy, a girl can experience her first vaginal orgasm in her life.
Tips for virgins
Perhaps the main advice for the first night and the first sexual experience is to be sure that you really want it. Relax and surrender, in the literal and figurative sense of the word, into the hands of your partner.
In order to create a more comfortable and romantic atmosphere, you can light candles, turn on romantic slow music. Before doing so, take a bath with relaxing essential oils and drink warm tea.
Do not forget the importance of foreplay. First, dance a slow dance together , gently caressing each other, or do an erotic massage using massage cream or essential oils.
It is important that the girl is sufficiently excited. Use a lubricant if necessary.
Take a comfortable pose. It can be either a pose of a “horsewoman” (a woman from above), or a simple “missionary” one. The main thing is that both partners should be comfortable. At the same time, it is important not to rush and be patient, because sometimes it may not work out the first time.
Sexologists recommend refraining from alcohol abuse before losing virginity for the simple reason that because of it, blood vessels expand. Because of this, there may be more blood.
In that case, if the blood with the loss of virginity is maroon, then most likely it is blood from the cervix. In this case, urgently need to see a doctor.
It is also equally important to pay attention to the amount of blood. There should not be more than during the first days of menstruation. Moreover, the blood can go for one or even two days. In the event that after sex bleeding is accompanied by pain, then you should immediately consult a gynecologist, as there is a risk of damage to internal organs.
Until the blood stops flowing, it is advisable to avoid the next sexual contact. And finally, remember that good sex is safe sex! Therefore, take care of condoms or other methods of contraception in advance.
Hymen. Real facts
- 1 out of 1000 women is born without hymen.
- In 44% of women, the first sexual intercourse is accompanied by a slight loss of blood.
- You can lose virginity while playing sports (horse riding, gymnastics, while riding a bicycle).
- With the help of tampons, you can accidentally deprive yourself of virginity.
- It happens that pregnancy can occur even when the hymen is not torn, but only stretched.