Today, the Internet has taken a strong place in the life of every person: through the network you can order food, buy clothes, and, of course, meet interesting people. Guys have not been trying to attract women's attention on the street for a long time: it is much easier to do this on the World Wide Web, after thinking about the original phrases in advance and composing your own special, unique image on a page on a social network. How to meet a girl in social networks? To do this is not difficult, it is much more difficult for her to please and interest. The article gives general psychological advice and phrases for dating in the social network.
Chatting with a stranger on the Internet
This is perhaps one of the most difficult cases. How to meet a girl in social networks, if you do not have common friends, no common interests and you are from different cities? If you really liked it, then you can try your luck:
- The first rule is no annoyance. Obsession is only annoying.
- It is better to interest her with an unusual phrase. Do not give gifts in the social network to a stranger - this can alert. But jokes, unconventional humor and an unusual approach to dating will interest you.
- Do not "get" a stranger. First you need to write her a greeting, then a nice joke. After that, keep quiet for a while, do not bother. If the beginning of communication was successful, the girl will write in time herself.
If you have common friends or acquaintances
How to meet in social networks if you have common friends? Such a need is not uncommon, because in social networks the so-called “possible friends” are usually displayed, a list of which is compiled automatically from the friends of your friends.
If there are mutual friends with the girl who is interested, this is both a plus and a minus. In particular, you can ask a mutual friend if the heart of a beautiful stranger is busy, if she is dating someone. If so, then it’s better not to get into other people's relationships - it’s easier to wait until her heart is free (as you know, many girls of nature are windy and quite often change partners).
If it turned out that the beautiful stranger is alone, then you should write her first. But, of course, not a cliche and banal phrase. You can pretend that you were interested in the question of her work, perhaps you needed her services or advice as a specialist.
We study the interests of girls: groups, communities, reposts
How to get to know a girl in social networks if you have common interests with her? The plan is the simplest:
- Write to her, ostensibly not for the purpose of spending time or chatting, but to get her opinion or get advice from her regarding the issue of a common hobby.
- Ask her opinion about the work of a common favorite actor in a play or film.
- Ask where she acquired materials for her hobby, even if in fact it’s not very interesting to you. It is worthwhile to show a keen interest in the favorite business of the person you like.
- If a girl maintains a dialogue, then you need to gently, but at the same time clearly make it clear that you like her hobby. For this, for example, you can use the following phrase: “It is rare that one of the girls understands something in this industry (here put the name of your common hobby). I am glad that I was able to find such a beautiful and at the same time well-versed girl, like you. ”
If your page is interested in a new friend, then she will also continue to communicate. You should not always write to her first - even if in rare cases she will be the initiator of communication. Otherwise, you may get the opinion that they are “running around”, that you are too intrusive. This will spoil the opinion of you, and a girl may eventually completely refuse correspondence.
Do I like a girl on a social network?
Likes are a direct manifestation of sympathy. Almost always, photos of pretty girls gain dozens, or even more likes. Because beauties do not get used to such attention. On the contrary, they are more intrigued by the person who does not like the photo - but, for example, puts them on a record on the wall. This will emphasize the fact that the man did not peck at the exterior, but at the inner world, that he was interested in her inner world.
Acquaintance with a girl in social networks does not mean throwing her likes and writing comments with her valuable opinion under each photo. Such behavior can only be bewildering. In an extreme case, it is permissible to put likes on only two or three photos, which I liked especially strongly. And all in a row, it is not necessary to note attention - especially if she has not yet put a single “heart” to a man and in any other way has shown her ardent interest. If you are from the same city, it’s generally better to have several meetings - only after that you can show sympathy so frankly as to “throw” a person with likes and comments.
Original greeting: should I say hello to the Internet
Original dating in social networks can be different. Spontaneity, a good sense of humor, sudden behavior are important. However, overly extravagant and ornate greetings can push away.
An example of an extremely unsuccessful greeting to a stranger in a social network:
- "Good morning to my sunshine";
- “Good morning, my Princess. I’ve been thinking about you all night ”;
- “A new day has come which I will devote to thoughts of you”;
- "With the first rays of the sun, I think of you."
Such greetings are terrible and can only cause disgust. Do not be idolized by a girl, no matter how beautiful and wonderful she may seem. It’s better to limit yourself to a simple “Good morning” and put a smiley or sticker with a cup of coffee.
Lack of greetings is also not the best choice. Network etiquette implies a mandatory greeting at the beginning of correspondence. It can be concise, but at the same time stylish. For example, “Good day,” “Hello, Natasha (fill in the name you want)”, “Hello.” Yes, these options are very simple, but they are not intrusive, do not oblige the girl to answer, and do not call for intimacy or special frankness. Such a greeting seems to imply a small talk, but it is from such conversations that friendship develops, which over time can develop into a more tender and deep feeling.
Examples of unsuccessful and template “rolls”
To avoid annoying mistakes, read examples of dating in social networks, which definitely should not be followed:
- "Hello, dear Princess (and other epithets inadequate in their circulation)."
- “Girl, and your parents were not chemists by chance? (or other variations of this old joke). ”
- “Do you want to ride / take a walk tonight?” Is not a bad option for dating, but a decent girl can be offended and block right away.
- “I saw a beautiful girl in a dream and just realized by looking at your photos that she exists in reality” is also not a bad option, but it can scare away rational and sarcastic women.
- “Do you want to send you your photos?” - as a rule, someone else’s photos are completely uninteresting to a stranger, whatever they are.
Overconfidence in meeting on the Internet
Most of the guys who think how to meet through social networks make the same mistake - they show excessive self-confidence. But the pressure and obsession can only scare the girl away. Meanwhile, the stereotype that a hot and assertive man is attractive is very tenacious. Most women are simply afraid of such manifestations.
Excessive self-confidence when meeting people on the Internet can manifest itself in the following:
- boasting about one’s financial situation - many photographs of a car, apartment, expensive watch and other luxury items;
- exponential protrusion of his prestigious circle of acquaintances - photographs from clubs, restaurants, offices;
- photographs with several girls at once, as a demonstration of their popularity with the opposite sex;
- reposts and quotes from "male" publics about the need for big money, traveling abroad, big money for a man.
Modesty and courtesy are the best choice.
How to meet a girl in social networks, if she seems polite and modest? With this you can not be too arrogant and assertive. If an adult woman treats such behavior condescendingly and with a grin, then it will more likely frighten a young girl.
First you need to try just making friends with her. Be a polite and sympathetic friend for some time. Gradually make her subtle compliments. Admiring her skills, talents and abilities - this should also be done as delicately as possible. If you are overly assertive, it may seem to a girl that they do not admire her at all, but laugh. Or that communication is just another experiment of social engineering, of which there are so many.
After she succeeds in becoming, first of all, a friend, she can gradually proceed to the manifestation of her feelings. If the girl reciprocates - well, you managed to achieve your goal. If she continues to see you as just a friend, then she should stop communicating (if your goal was originally only in romantic feelings and in achieving love affection).
How to get to know each other in social networks: optimal phrases
What phrases are better to use for dating on the Internet? There is no exact recipe - all the girls are different and what liked one may not be to the taste of the other. Here is a sample list of best phrases for dating:
- "Good day. I see you like to play poker. There is no desire to spread a party with me at your leisure? ”
- "Hello. I noticed that you are fond of marathons. Will you be present at Bolshoi Manezhnaya on Sunday morning? ”
What can not be written and sent in no case
Here is an example of a bad start dating online:
- “You look like my future wife, but I have not met her yet.”
- “Doesn't your mom need a son-in-law?”
- "When I saw your photo, I realized that I dreamed about you all my life."
- “You are a mystery to me. Allow me, I will reveal your secrets and uncover secrets ”
Remember, these are only approximate phrases that you can or cannot use on the Web. Each person is individual and requires a personal approach.