How often do we see that a young girl prefers a bully and a t-shirt, an older girl suffers rough treatment and inattention, and an adult woman abandons a reliable and prudent husband for the sake of a hopeless but cute gigolo. Why do girls love bad guys?
First, let's decide what is meant by the words "bad guy." Take a closer look at these "bad guys." Are they losers? Wimps? Nerds with glasses? Most probably not. All these so-called bad guys, despite their egregious flaws, have an important quality - charisma. Their charm, temperament, strength in the eyes of a girl weigh more than sobriety and reliability.
Why?
Because for girls the emotions and masculine qualities of a partner are very important. Not all girls have the sobriety of their mothers. Moreover, even older women deep down desire for vivid feelings, and reliable, but boring men simply endure, finding them "profitable." Every girl, no matter how prudent she may be, deep down wants to see a strong man nearby . And it is not their fault that power is often combined with glaring shortcomings. Very often, girls simply have no choice. They are surrounded by either positive nerds or gross machos. And they prefer the latter ... But does a man strong, but reliable, lose to the same strong, but with obvious shortcomings in the form of frivolity, self-confidence, rudeness? Most probably not.
In fact, the concept of “bad” in this case would have to be replaced by another word - “strong” or “temperamental”. Then the question "Why do girls love bad guys?" I wouldn’t stand at all. And the good guys would know that they have a chance. How often do we see that reliability and prudence are combined with a purely masculine weakness. Not necessarily referring to the physical build of a man. Weakness in relationships, in life, inability to fend for oneself - all this signals a woman at a subconscious level: this man is not able to give healthy and strong offspring.
“Girls love jocks” is another misconception. Of course, not a single girl will refuse that her chosen one should have a beautiful courageous appearance. But this is not the main thing for a woman. It is important for her to feel the power of her chosen one. And this power can manifest itself in anything: in leadership among their own kind, in the ability to make money, in the ability to achieve one’s, etc.
Thus, to the question "Why do girls love bad guys?" we are forced to answer - this is not entirely true. Girls don't like bad guys at all. They love the courageous.
On the other hand, there really are girls who like to feel like victims. It is such women who do not go away from drug addicts, alcoholics, endure husbands-loafers and the like. In such cases, the answer to the question "Why do girls love bad guys?" quite different - there may be several reasons, but they are all connected with the internal problems of the girl herself. She either wants to assert herself this way: “I will save him, get him out of the mud”, or she has complexes and is not sure of herself: “I will not find anyone else”, or she just likes to feel like a benefactress.
Surprisingly, most girls outgrow their passion for the “bad guys” with age. They learn to distinguish true power from external tinsel and begin to appreciate those qualities that will allow you to create a strong reliable family in the real world, and not at a subconscious level.