People are offended by each other, and this is quite natural. Rarely does anyone offend adulthood on purpose. The fact is that all people are different, each has its own perception of reality and attitude to it. And since they grew up in different conditions, in different families, and different values were instilled in them, it is quite logical that they are offended by different things. But, in general, all insults have a common root. In this article we will talk about offended men.
Causes
What is most often offended by the stronger sex?
- Comparison with others. Men do not like to be compared, capable, smart and strong, with other, more successful individuals. At any age, a person wants to feel his uniqueness. A man needs to understand that he is admired and worshiped. If this does not happen, resentment appears.
- Inattention. Man neglects female neglect. The representative of the stronger sex wants his girlfriend to always be in touch and find time to answer a phone call. If this does not happen, the offended man begins to think that the lady is making herself a snow queen and deliberately ignores him.
- Discussion of problems with others. Girls are used to discussing their personal problems with friends. And to do this, according to men, is not worth it. No representative of the stronger sex will approve the actions of the chosen one, who will secretly tell the whole world about the failures of her partner and his faults.
- Non-acceptance of interests. The guy must understand that they are admired. If a girl does not share the interests of her lover, especially if she neglects them, the man will be offended.
- Unrealized expectation. When meeting, people involuntarily make plans for each other and have some hopes. When something does not go according to plan, and a person does not cope with the implementation of the mission assigned to him, resentment arises.
Degree of resentment
How to understand how much you hurt the feelings of a resentful man? You need to know the degree of resentment. There are three of them:
- Weak The man was offended, but this will not show. People say that you hit the thin strings of the soul. For example, a girl could laugh at something important for a guy. A similar case, a man will quickly forgive his beloved, but only if the situation does not happen again.
- Medium. A man can be hurt by attacks on his lifestyle or way of thinking. A woman who criticizes the behavior of her chosen one should always argue her position. If this does not happen, the man will take criticism with hostility.
- Strong One should never criticize or condemn a man’s project, over which he worked for a long time. Yes, a representative of the stronger sex may have self-irony and show you their flaws, but you are not allowed to do the same. Never hurt what is important for a man in life.
Effects
What is fraught with male resentment? A person will reconsider his attitude to the offender, and will not treat him the same as before. Men give a second chance to a man much less often than women do. You strongly hurt the representative of the stronger sex? He can erase you from life and reduce communication to a minimum. Do you think this way of ignoring children? But in fact it is very difficult to take and move away from yourself a person who was once very close.
The offended man will control his emotions, but inside he will boil. For an offended person, life changes. He sees everything in dark colors, and nothing pleases him. This condition can be fought, but difficult. You need to let go of the situation so that it no longer touches the soul. Anger and rage corrode a person from within and loosen his nerves. If you do not want such a fate, then do not accumulate resentment.
Behavior
A person in whose soul passions rage stands out from the crowd. How does a resentful man behave? If the representative of the stronger sex is distinguished by endurance and good upbringing, then the person will not shout at you and blame you for breaking his life. In the process of conversation, the man will become laconic. At this time, he will consider the plan of revenge or the plan of how to respond to the insult inflicted on him. Pensiveness will be written on his face, and even if the opponent decides to defuse the atmosphere with a joke, the man will not react. Resentment hurts a person, and he cannot immediately swallow it. After a strong resentment, a man can talk to you through gritted teeth, in fits and starts. The human body will be tense. It may seem to the opponent that the interlocutor intentionally controls not only all his words, but also gestures. Most often this is true. In order not to lose his temper and not lose his temper, a man can concentrate on movements, which at the same time he will come out sharp and angular.
How to understand that a man is offended
Observe the individual. If he behaves unnaturally or is very restrained, this indicates a deep thoughtfulness of the person. How to offend a man? You can injure a person in different ways: mock at something important to him, insult his family or criticize his activities. What will happen next? The offended person can boil. If a man does not know how to control emotions, then his face will turn paint, and his fists will clench. Such rage will be involuntary reactions. After all, it was precisely with the help of fists that our ancestors resolved almost all their questions.
If a man does not experience aggression, then he can simply avoid his offender. He will not completely ignore him, but will try to contact less with an unpleasant person.
How to make peace?
A very offended man will not want to contact you. Will have to make some efforts. How to build a relationship with a person? Sincerely ask for forgiveness. Say that you did not know that your words would provoke such a response in the soul of a person. Be sure to mention that you will not allow such statements anymore, and will continue to monitor your language.
But there are situations when a man does not want to admit that he was offended. Some people believe that being offended is a feminine destiny. Men cannot be offended. Therefore, not all members of the stronger sex immediately admit that they were offended. Nevertheless, you still need to apologize. Even if a person does not blame you, he will be pleased to hear the words of your repentance.
Never go to a person who is not ready to talk to you. Each individual is used to experiencing his own insult in his own way. Two minutes will be enough for someone to forgive the offender, and for someone it will take two days or even two years.
Resentment at the team
What does an offended man do? If a representative of the stronger sex is offended by his colleagues, he is unlikely to demonstrate this to them. A man does not want to seem weak to people. He will change his tone to sarcastic and will even be able to laugh at himself together with everyone. If a man is injured by people with whom he has to contact every day, then the representative of the stronger sex will have no choice but to reconsider his attitude to people. It is quite difficult to contact those who do not respect your interests.
What should employees do if they feel the cooling of one of their colleagues? One should gradually introduce the offended man into the circle of his constant communication. Do not pretend that no offense has been inflicted. It should be made clear to the person that such an incident will not happen again.
Resentment to friends
About offended men, not as many legends are composed as about women. The thing is that male representatives are offended less often. Misunderstanding with friends they do not happen so often. Well, if it does happen? In this case, a man can tell that his friend’s words hurt him and openly make it clear that talking in such a spirit and on such a topic is pointless to continue. If a friend turned out to be adequate, then resentment will not grow into bitterness. The topic will be closed, and the tear will not happen. If a person is not very sane, and, despite all the warnings, he climbs into trouble, then a friend can cool the ardor not only with words, but also by applying physical action. Everything will depend on the degree of resentment and on the personality of the offender.
Resentment at the girl
How to offend a man with words, any beautiful lady knows. It’s enough to hurt him for the living. For example, start criticizing parents, lifestyle, or friends. It should be understood that an adult forms his own environment, habits and standards of living. If the man is satisfied with the rules, then he will be offended when someone encroaches on them. Does a man’s resentment differ between a girl and friends? Yes. A man will not openly show his feelings to a lady. Representatives of the stronger sex are very scrupulous in this matter. They do not even express jealousy too strongly. But they can pour boiling emotions on the lady during the scandal. If the guy keeps everything in himself and does not share his grievances with you, then expect that in the case of even a trifling quarrel, you will get a decent portion of insults. Therefore, always try to be frank in relationships and demand the same from a partner.
Resentment to parents
How to understand that a man is offended? Parents like no one else should be aware of the feelings of their child. But it often happens that the child grows up, changes, and the parents do not want to see the changes or cannot see them because of their bias. Misunderstanding, distrust and lack of value cause resentment in the soul of every person. All men secretly want their parents to be proud of them. But what happens if this simple truth does not reach the consciousness of older people? They begin to move away from the child. A man closes and shares with relatives less and less information. In order not to spoil the relationship with the child, you must constantly communicate with him. This does not mean that you need to call him daily. You can communicate once a week and be closer to him than many friends and a girl whom he sees every day. Parents should be wise and judicious. Do not offend the child and always support him. Indeed, protection and faith in the ability of children inspire them and inspire them to new achievements.