In our environment, people with a different temperament and temperament are very common. Someone behaves vividly and expressively, gathering other people around his active personality, while someone escapes society to some extent, behaves restrained and detached. As a rule, it is quite difficult to establish contacts and interact with such people. But in order to understand exactly how it is worth approaching communication with a silent person, you need to know what reason lies behind his detachment. It can be either something personal, or just a type of character.
Features
Among the many bright sociable people, quiet and silent are very often found. The fact that a person does not like to speak in the company and is not eager to communicate with everyone he meets does not at all make him somehow wrong or boring. Often the most silent people are very erudite and interesting interlocutors.
The characteristics of such people are often striking and may cause some misunderstanding in society. For example, such people are characterized by a certain coldness, even detachment, they are extremely concise in communication and are limited to monosyllabic phrases.
There are a lot of reasons why a person can be silent. It can be both a type of character, and a certain kind of incident that happened in his life. Therefore, it is recommended that you be as considerate as possible with silent people.
Reasons for silence
The reasons why a person is silent, as mentioned above, are many. As a rule, the most common of them is a certain character warehouse. Often people with a phlegmatic type of temperament are calm, measured, thoughtful and, as a result, silent.
Also, the reasons for this behavior can be much deeper. For example, many complexes that are formed from childhood through certain psychological trauma or the incorrect behavior of parents or the environment give rise to shyness, self-doubt and fear of communicating with others in a person. Such people further suffer from loneliness and experience many problems in interacting with society. To overcome this factor, which significantly worsens the psychological state of a person and in a certain way affects the quality of his life, you need to seek help from a specialist psychologist.
Enclosure
It is also important not to confuse concepts such as silence and isolation. Closure can be called a state of a person when, for serious psychological reasons, problems with self-esteem, a person refuses to interact with society. These are slightly different, more serious problems with self-awareness, self-esteem and psychological state.
At that time, just a non-communicative person can possess only light complexes about himself, shyness or a certain type of temperament, which does not prevent him from living quietly in society.
Man became silent
The most delicate relationship in communication requires a situation when a cheerful and sociable person suddenly drifted away and became secretive. Most likely, the cause of such a sharp change in mood was a certain kind of problem or unpleasant event in his life. In the process of communicating with a person who suddenly became silent, you need to show maximum delicacy and caution. It is necessary to avoid sharp and rude questions about his condition, to carefully talk on family and personal topics. Communication needs to be built in an easy manner, without pressure and rude jokes.
Psychology
Silence, as a rule, is accompanied by a certain number of features, which in one way or another form a peculiar character of this category of people. Most often, silence is accompanied by a sad or pensive facial expression, such people most often make an unfavorable impression at the first meeting.
Also, the most characteristic feature of silent people is that they don’t like noisy parties and big companies. They mainly communicate in a small circle of people, they have few friends, and they plan their pastime in a quiet and peaceful environment. Such is the psychology of silent people.
There is also a certain category of people who have this feature due to certain complexes coming from childhood. As a rule, such people are very embarrassed by the fact that they give the impression of being offended or sad, so they constantly apologize for their "inappropriate" mood in an unfamiliar company, which further aggravates a certain awkwardness between people.
In a small company of good friends who know such a person well enough, he can behave confidently and openly, communicate a lot on different topics and not show complexes and silence.
How to become a silent person?
In modern realities, personality traits such as sociability, openness, that is, the ability to freely communicate with society and make useful contacts, are most often valued. However, too open and sociable people can face a lot of problems related to the fact that in a fit of revelation, they can tell themselves or others such information that was not necessary and not desirable to disclose.
Many people who are faced with this problem are asking a logical question: how to become more withdrawn and silent. This problem can be solved by extremely strict self-discipline and self-control. Do not be too trusting of unfamiliar people and devote them to their secrets. While in the company, it is advisable to try to control your speech, carefully consider what you need to say. It is also better to give up a certain amount of alcohol, since this drink has unnecessary revelations.
Communication Rules
Silent people often store a storehouse of valuable information and are very interesting interlocutors. The main thing is to choose the right approach in communication and create conditions for them in which they will feel comfortable and make contact.
To do this, you need to understand what causes silence. If a person simply does not have a mood today, then most likely it is better not to touch him. And if this is a certain character warehouse or various types of complexes originating from childhood, then it is necessary to adhere to the tactics of unobtrusive friendly conversation.
You should not be assertive and impudent, it can provoke a silent person to become even more closed. It is also undesirable to ask directly questions of this kind: “Why are you so sad?”, “Why are you silent all the time?”. The main thing is not to forget that genuine sincerity and participation will help to establish contact with even the most unsociable person.