Teenage girls, who just got their first hairs on their labia, often ask older girlfriends what their periods look like. It’s good if they can explain what menstruation is, but often the story ends with a story about wild pains in the lower abdomen and bloody secretions that strive to stain clothes.
While the girl still does not understand that the time has come for puberty, the role of a guide on the menstrual cycle should be taken by mother or grandmother. Explain to your child that you should not be scared when she finds blood stains on her panties. Tell her that her childhood is over, and an adult life begins, in which there are certain rules of behavior.
Ask your daughter or granddaughter: “What does your period look like?” Let her try to explain to her what she is experiencing with this word: irritation, indifference, interest or constraint. If by the age of 12-13 the girl imagines what menstruation is, then further conversations will not cause her a sense of shame. It will be better if you clearly demonstrate a tampon, but not a real one, but a knitted one. Invite the child to fill the free space with red threads and tell us what the blood looks like that might appear on her clothes.
If you don’t have threads at hand or you don’t know how to knit, then when talking about how your periods look, photos in a medical journal will be very helpful. Give the daughter a gasket in your hands and suggest holding your palm over its surface. The girl should feel the tenderness of this hygienic remedy, then she certainly will not be disgusted to think about the day when she has to fix it on her panties.
Abundant discharge during menstruation lasts 2-3 days. Be sure to tell about this daughter so that she does not get scared when she looks into the toilet. Teach her to wash with the help of special tools and care for the body during menstruation. Show what painkillers you are taking, in what quantity and what you do if they do not work. The girl should understand that only a doctor is able to help her, and not the advice of inexperienced friends.
The child should not only know how their periods look, but also make a schedule of their occurrences. Such tables are sold in stores, so it’s easy for you to teach your daughter to fill them out. If your child is embarrassed to ask the sellers about the product that interests her, then draw it by hand. At the same time, tell us about the twenty-eight-day period and its inconstancy. The girl should know that the menstrual cycle depends not only on her state of health, but also on the state of the environment, so the appearance of bloody discharge 21 days after the onset of menstruation is more likely the norm than the deviation.
The amount of blood that is lost during menstruation is usually from fifty to one hundred milliliters, therefore, along with information on how your period looks, your child should find out that such a slight loss is quickly restored by the body.
Be sure to talk with your daughter that her sex life may be associated with members of the opposite sex, so the intimate relationships of inexperienced adolescents sometimes end in an unwanted pregnancy. To avoid serious consequences after an abortion, start telling the girl about contraceptives.