While reading women's magazines, many have the impression that men are aliens, which need to be treated with caution. And you need to start preparing topics a year before the meeting, as if you were passing an exam in a foreign language. Everything is much simpler - men are also people, and therefore the usual rules of communication are universal. What to talk about with a guy when you really want to like him? In this article you will find general tips and some specifics of communication with men (Yes, it is, but not to the extent that women's magazines present it).
Firstly, you need to make communication with you comfortable for a guy. What to talk about with a guy so that he feels good in your company? Whether it works out or not will depend on your emotional sensitivity. Carefully observe his reaction to the discussion of the topic. What matters here is not even the topic itself, but how interesting it is to him. The first topic is better to choose, focusing on the information about the guy that you already have. For example, you see that he is strong and muscular. One can ask about protein shakes. Say that you want to make your hips more embossed and ask them to show successful exercises. But if the guy is a "nerd", then it is better to ask him about the best novelties of the book industry. Say that you do not have enough time for everything, so it would be nice to know the expert opinion (that is, his opinion). Each person likes to feel authoritative, so a man will be comfortable next to you.
Secondly, try to play along with the stereotypes about a woman. What to talk about with a guy on a first date to sound feminine? On the themes of cooking and economics. Just do not need to lie: if you did not prepare a cherry cake, then it is better not to invent, even if he said that he was delighted with cherries in any form. Just admit that you are inexperienced. And add that it is from men that the best cooks are obtained. Ask him why this happens. You will learn a lot about how he relates to women in general. If he starts to say that men are, in principle, the best professionals, then he is most likely a sexist and a macho man. And if he doesn’t agree and starts proving with examples, then ... either he thinks independently or likes to argue with the girl. And perhaps both of them at once. And you listen - and draw conclusions.
Thirdly, already at the first meeting it is necessary to define the borders. What to talk about with a guy so that he treats you with respect? What matters here is not the choice of topic, but your independence, at least in words. This means that you need to make it clear that you do not recognize a derogatory attitude, do not like swearing and you do not like pressure (if these points are important to you). It is best to touch on the example of supposedly existing acquaintances. For example, you talk about a friend who forgave a guy for cheating. And then say that you would instantly expose a traitor from your life. He will draw conclusions and, at least when cheating, will be well encrypted. That is, with examples, you can convey to a guy important principles for you. You can, for example, say that your mother did not agree to leave the university for her father. And this is normal in your opinion. (The real story in this situation is not important, the main thing is to observe his reaction).
Fourth, you must always maintain intrigue. What to talk about with a guy so that he remains interested in you for a long time? You just do not need to immediately tell everything about yourself, leave topics for later, tell him what you will talk about on your next date, and do not give in to the temptation to immediately discuss the topic. Let him wait, think, and it will be interesting for him to meet again.
What to talk with a guy about? It’s better to clearly understand what you’re not talking about. At least not more than 1 minute. Yes, about diets, wardrobe and TV shows. There are friends for these topics. Around you is a big bright world. So try to learn new things about him and share discoveries with the guy. He will appreciate it.