Often friendship is valued above love, because in a friendship, relationships are more honest and trusting. However, it is more difficult to find a good friend than a beloved or beloved, because only sex attraction is enough for love, but much more is needed for friendship: the affinity of souls, which is not so common. How to make friends?
First of all, you need to pay attention to those people who are already in your circle of friends. Perhaps you don’t know much about them, look at their pages on social networks to find something interesting. For example, a person likes the same movie as you. Write him a message with your opinion on the plot of this movie. Usually people respond emotionally to such messages. Then you can invite this person to go to the cinema together for a film of a similar genre.
But it’s not necessary to rely solely on your favorite films, music, and so on. Get a notebook of observations in which you will record only positive traits of people from your circle of friends and note why you decided so, and you need to make at least three entries a day. After a while, you will notice that you began to think differently about people. You can share your observations with those with whom you communicate more. You need to praise people for their eyes and protect them reasonably from attacks for the eyes. This will create a very positive reputation for you and many people will want to communicate with you more, because you will inspire confidence. And this means that the question “how to make friends” will be decided by itself, people themselves will want to include you in the circle of friends.
Where do you find friends besides a constant circle of friends? More than everyday contacts, people are brought together by a shared passion. Therefore, try to go to courses dedicated to your hobby or to personal growth training. How to make friends and interest yourself? To be interesting, you need to have as much information as possible about your hobby. You need to replenish your knowledge every day, because it depends on your interest in whether competent people want to communicate with you. Of course, you can try to win their sympathy in another way - ask them to teach you something. This method also works, but you should easily grasp the material and be prepared to very emotionally and sincerely admire your mentor. However, the best place to make friends is good personal growth training. There you can openly ask for information about yourself and your communication skills. At such trainings, people are determined to help and make friends.
In fact, you need to think more about what you can give to your friends. That is, instead of the question "how to make friends?" You need to think about how to be a really good friend yourself. You need to learn to listen and support emotionally, and this skill is best practiced in various trainings. Therefore, look for good group training under the guidance of a professional psychologist.
Learn the psychotechnics of communication, it is possible from books, but eventually you will have to go to practice. Getting started is easier on the Internet. It offers dating sites and social networks. Such communication does not oblige you to anything and it will be easier for you to start a conversation, the main thing is not to be afraid to take the initiative. If something doesn’t work, there are still many other people. But it is impossible to offend friends. Of course, people's reactions are not always predictable. Therefore, it does not hurt to read something about the typology of characters, for example, serious literature on the science of socionics (Authors V.D. Ermak and I.M. Eglit). This will allow you to choose psychologically compatible people from the very beginning.
How to find friends and not lose them? You need to constantly work on relationships and devote enough time to a friend. And then your friendship will last for many years. Be useful, interesting, support your friends emotionally - and you won’t have to think about how to become a friend.