The relationship between a man and a woman before marriage is usually very romantic. Long-awaited meetings, flowers, gifts, the desire to look as good as possible and make the most favorable impression on the partner create unforgettable memories that the couple has kept in their memory for many years. And the waters echoed Mendelssohn’s march, a honeymoon passed , and ordinary life began.
Just thinking about marital relations, any couple dreams that their marriage and love will last for many years. But many forget that in order to maintain love in the family, it takes a lot of work. A common mistake is to assume that the partner is now chained and is nowhere to go. Time passes and the couple begins to believe that their marriage and love have cracked, minor scandals, mutual accusations and the search for the guilty begin. But marriage is a union of two people and both are usually to blame for unsettled relationships.
It is not in vain that life is believed to destroy marriage and love, and so that this does not happen, try to maintain the halo of romanticism that surrounded you in the first days of your acquaintance. And this applies not only to men, but also to women.
Psychologists consider the prevailing stereotype of relationships to be the most destructive for marriage. How is a typical family day. In the morning we ran to work, in the evening my wife goes shopping, cooks dinner, takes care of the household and children - this is considered her duty. At this time, the husband is busy reading or watching TV, from which he reluctantly breaks away to fulfill small assignments. This is an extreme case, but it is something that can very quickly kill love and marriage.
Women complain that the husband does not pay attention to her at all, does not give flowers, does not say words of love and does not help at all with the housework. But even from such everyday worries you can get a lot of pleasure if you turn them into a kind of game. Divide responsibilities among themselves. Better yet, do it all together. Jointly prepared and served dinner easily turns into a romantic one. A joint trip to the store can be combined with a walk to your favorite places. Women are very fond of receiving constant confirmation of their attractiveness - tell her compliments, give small gifts just like that for no reason.
For some reason, it is believed that a man must provide a romantic relationship, but this is absolutely wrong. A common mistake of a woman is that after the wedding, she takes her husband for granted and completely stops taking care of herself. An old dressing gown, trampled slippers, a face mask - all this can extinguish romantic impulses in the bud. Usually women have one excuse - it is so convenient for me. But a man loves with his eyes. And when his narrowed to go to bed in washed clothes or torn nightie, you should not expect any feats from him.
To build relationships, sometimes it’s enough just to buy beautiful underwear, put on a dress and not forget about cosmetics and hair. A man will appreciate your desire to look beautiful only for him alone, for him it will be the best confirmation of your love.
Do not forget that the stronger sex is very fond of receiving small signs of attention from his beloved. Moreover, these are not always gifts. Men, like women, love compliments, they should feel in demand and able to solve any issues. Consult them as often as possible, create the feeling that only he is able to solve many problems. All this increases self-esteem and allows a man to feel fit.
If you feel a tension in your relationship and your marriage and love are at risk, you should not think that everything will resolve by itself. The faster you sit down at the negotiating table, the more likely you are to clear up discontent in the bud, simply by making a joint decision. Love is a rare feeling that connects hearts and souls. For the sake of this it is worth working hard and preserving the flair of romance for all the long years of married life.