In working on oneself, 70% of success depends on the person’s correct motivation for future changes. It is the intention to lose weight (and not just desire) that dictates the human body a new pace and principle of metabolic processes, due to which the dieter decreases the need for food and increases overall vitality. A good helper in the correct recognition of body signals and the ability to “negotiate with him” are psychological books for losing weight and the famous author’s methods of specialists in the field of NLP.
Motivation is the goal.
No one is losing weight for the sake of a figure on the scales, although it is precisely this moment of summing up that causes strong emotions. All people, by the minute when it is decided to lose weight, a certain goal is being formed, in the name of which there is a growing readiness to endure hardships and change the whole usual way of life. Depending on the strength of the desire to quickly and better get to the desired result, the power of motivation is formed, which, as the wave is gaining strength, should bring a person to his goal.
It must be said right away that false motives, imposed from the screen or copied from friends, do not in any way affect the subconscious desires of a person and are not able to affect internal processes. The motive cannot be artificially “ignited” - it must arise as an insight and encourage immediate action to begin here and now. Motivation is what makes you jump instantly in the morning, withstand all restrictions and inconveniences with pleasure, with pride.
If the psychological motivation for losing weight is strong enough and dictated by true goals, it leaves no room for doubt or fear that nothing will work. In some cases, fear arises not because of self-doubt, but because of the widely publicized opinion of individual specialists that all independent attempts to lose weight without the help of a qualified psychologist are doomed to failure in advance.
However, it should be repeated that with sufficient motivation, a person can achieve absolutely incredible results, even without any separate financial investments in the process.
Motivation Support
Motivation, no matter how powerful it may be, is an unstable condition and highly dependent on external and internal factors, and this despite the fact that the desire to lose weight in an overweight person may not weaken for a minute. I want to lose 10 kg, but you can start after a portion of ice cream (pasta, etc.), you need to get rid of shortness of breath already, but we will postpone the morning run until tomorrow. All this suggests that motivation must be constantly heated, to prevent it from fading away.
Each and every psychological method for losing weight is based on enthusiasm. Even the most ingenious approach to the problem will turn out to be a “dummy” if one does not heed it with greed, standing with both feet on the starting line, willingly to break away and run in the indicated direction. The following are several impeccably working techniques that support motivation in a constant tone:
- Compilation of reminder notes with short motivational texts that are left in all kinds of corners and in prominent places in the house.
- Printing photos and pictures from the Internet showing slender girls or beautiful clothes for “slim women”. It is advisable to place illustrations in such a way as to immediately block the forbidden temptations - for example, on the refrigerator door.
- Learn and repeat to yourself as often as possible, 3-4 strong affirmations for losing weight.
- Keep your “Achievement Diary”, where to write down all meals, your main thoughts and observations, as well as the difficulties that arise regarding the process of losing weight.
It is important to remember that at first, the body will certainly resist any qualitative changes in life. It will begin to seem to a person that he is doing everything wrong, that all this is meaningless, etc. This phenomenon, described by Academician Pavlov, goes away as new habits are developed and does not require separate interpretation. Best of all, learn to completely ignore the feeling of primary discomfort.
A common mistake in losing weight
Psychologists often hear from patients that they have tried a lot of techniques, exhausted themselves with all popular diets, but not only did not want to leave the extra weight, but also enriched themselves with several more kilograms. And, at the same time, in the practice of each specialist there are patients who achieved their goal and lost 20.30, 50 kg, introducing only 3-4 easy burdens and following a set of universal rules. Why is there such a difference in results?
The fact is that all people who unsuccessfully try to lose weight have something in common. They do not strive to become slimmer, do not dream of feeling lighter and more active - they struggle with their unsatisfactory “I”, arouse in themselves hatred for reflection in the mirror, refuse to accept themselves today. These people concentrate their energy not on improvement, but on suppression.
Patients who choose this tactic of losing weight use the most severe forms of diets and the most aggressive types of physical training. What happens next? The longer exhausting workouts or starvation lasts, the more internal protest rises against them. And now, when a positive result is only beginning to be seen in the future, the person is already so tired and embittered that he is ready to abandon his goal. There is a breakdown, and after a short pause, another, unsuccessful attempt.
It is important to remember that the psychological aspects of losing weight never mean fighting against yourself. If a person has not yet learned to feel gratitude to himself for how smart, good, patient he is, how great it is for him to improve himself now (and not become perfect in some future), he will not get a step closer to the goal.
Motivation for the result.
So what is the secret to losing weight, if not refusing a huge number of familiar things and psychological attitudes? Correctly, in his acceptance of these things and attitudes, as all that has a right to its place in life, but in certain volumes. How it works?
Even the most important person losing weight, at least occasionally, allows himself some pleasure from his forbidden list - to skip training, eat cake. But one person will do all this with apparent pleasure, enjoying every forbidden piece and every walked minute, and the other will do the same, reproaching himself for cowardice and giving himself vows for the future. As a result, both individuals will lose weight, but one due to rewarding themselves after the pleasure with the extra 30 minutes of walking, and the other due to tightening future restrictions and moral self-reliance.
Achievement motivation is required to take into account a person’s need for various types of pleasure, otherwise it turns into a violent tactic of escaping from reality in favor of some mythical result, due to reward all deprivations at once.
You should not be accustomed to rejoice that yesterday there were 100 kg on the scales, and today it was 99, because tomorrow, due to some circumstances, the figure 101 may be there, and then stress and loss of incentive are inevitable. It is much more useful to note in the diary every evening how many harmful temptations were given the answer “no” during the day and how great it is that one more step has been taken to form the figure of your dreams. And to weigh yourself, if you can keep yourself within the established rules, you can and less often - for example, once a week.
The best motivational weight loss books
Among the psychological books for weight loss there are many bestsellers that have turned the worldview and changed the attitude of hundreds of thousands of people. Experts recommend, in order to choose the methodology “on their own”, to familiarize themselves with at least two systems that offer a different approach to moving towards their goal. The best psychological books for weight loss, according to readers, are the following three:
- “Easy Way to Lose Weight” by English writer Allen Carr. The publicist devotes the reader to the secret of losing weight without food restrictions, talks about how to realize his ideal weight and not “slide” to anorexia. The book is written in an easy, conversational syllable and is easy to read.
- "I do not know how to lose weight" from the French nutritionist Pierre Ducant. The reader is offered a unique four-step technique that tunes the body to a sustainable result. And since the author is also a doctor with great therapeutic experience, on the pages of this psychological book for weight loss you can find many interesting medical facts about losing weight.
- “3000 ways not to interfere with harmony, or we’ll make a carcass of a figure” from Russian journalist-psychologist Zoe Chernakova (Lissi Mussa). In the opinion of our compatriot, the process of losing weight can be not only useful, but also very enjoyable - it is enough just to stop being critical of yourself. The author offers the reader a unique psychological technique for losing weight, presented in the form of funny illustrations and easily accessible text.
As a general introduction and for the sake of the opportunity to look at your problem from different angles, you can also find other works from famous authors of our time, but psychologists do not recommend much to get involved in specialized literature. Do not forget that every psychological book for losing weight is just another version of the same process, which is better not to postpone.
NLP Weight Loss Technique
The technique of neurolinguistic programming is used to rebuild a person’s consciousness in the right direction, when it is necessary to strengthen control over certain aspects of one’s own life or to get rid of bad habits. The NLP system is not an independent means of working on oneself and always goes as part of the overall set of measures taken to improve the figure.
According to readers' reviews, in psychological books for weight loss, describing the NLP technique, there is a special emphasis on the need to have strong motivation for radical changes, otherwise, the use of the system will be useless. This can be called the only drawback of technology, and the most important condition for the possibility of its use.
The article provides a step-by-step psychological training for losing weight at home, which is convenient to combine with any chosen body correction system.
Relaxation and personality assessment
The body always reacts to stress in two ways - it either begins to rapidly “dump” excess energy and the person quickly “dries out”, or, on the contrary, tries to accumulate it “in reserve” in the form of abundant body fat. In addition, many women have a habit of seizing their feelings, so getting rid of stress through complete relaxation is the first step towards a beautiful figure.
How to reduce stress:
- you need to sit comfortably with a straight back, hands relaxed to lower your knees with the back side up;
- closing your eyes, you need to visualize in front of you a sparkling light, a golden sphere of calm and conciliation;
- then we must imagine how this sphere gently flows around the whole body, overshadowing it with its warmth and grace;
- holding up a pleasant sensation for several minutes, you should take 3 deep breaths and leave the state of meditation.
The next step in psychological weight loss for women will be an analysis of their personality according to the principle: "I am what fills me." Perhaps the reason for the completeness is hidden in a sense of security from someone else's attention, in internal complexes or fear of relationships. If such factors are detected, then professional psychological assistance will be required to block them. When losing weight for a consultation, it is best to contact special figure correction centers.
Goal statement
For the next stage, you need to connect your imagination and imagine a “perfect I”, taking into account, of course, the existing unchanged parameters (eye section, bone width, etc.). This should be done several times a day.
You can even create your image “after” in a special computer program, print the picture and hang it in the most prominent place, as the most important psychological motivation for losing weight. For girls, a system of “small real steps”, in the form of regular visits to beauty salons, fashion shows, will become a good support for this motivation. This helps subconsciously prepare for future changes and tune in to a good result.
In addition, the goal must be clearly formulated so that you can often repeat it as a personal mantra. The word form used should be created in the affirmative form, expressing the direct intention (“I am changing”), and not a dream or desire (“I want to change”).
Cleansing and changing attitudes to nutrition
If you try to visualize your digestive system in the form of associative images, then most people are likely to imagine a dump of all unnecessary things in the aura of stench. When creating a psychological orientation for losing weight, first of all, you need to get rid of the feeling of dirt inside yourself and you need to do this until the inner purity begins to be felt on a physical level.
How to do it:
- closing your eyes and relaxing, you should imagine yourself from the inside in all the ugliness of the current state of the body;
- using visualization, you need to "plant" a certain image of a cleaner (robot, janitor, hostess) into your body, which will immediately restore order there;
- it is enough to allocate 10-15 times a day for visualization, each time during the exercise evaluating the positive changes in the body.
When the result becomes obvious and this manifests itself in the form of a general improvement in well-being, a stomach that has been cleaned to shine will need to learn how to fill up with quality and “non-dirty” food. At this stage, a person already knows how to appreciate the importance of the steps taken and thinks several times before starting to slag his body again with complex, indigestible elements.
Final Stage: Transfiguration
Willingness to approach the final step in changing oneself to a better, ideal state is determined by the feeling of inner freedom from complexes, attachments to unhealthy nutrition (or overeating) and self-criticism. Yes, weight is still not the one that we would like to, but every day the body learns to new rules, and it simply does not have another option but to dictate changes for the better. Yes, you will have to forget about some goodies or old habits forever, but if you compare this with the general improvement in the quality of life, then the losses are simply insignificant.
The final step is to establish total control over your emotions. From now on, any thoughts about yourself made in a negative way are prohibited. This does not mean that unhealthy skepticism should be replaced by self-deception and glorification of one’s apparently yet imperfect forms, but one can criticize oneself in different ways. Instead: “I am fat, all efforts are in vain”, use the optimistic formula: “Yes, so far not a supermodel, but already not a cow.” The difference in judgment is obvious and the body will thank the hostess for evaluating her efforts.