The symbiotic relationship between mother and child: the union between organisms that are dependent on each other

A symbiotic relationship often arises between close people. Everyone knows that the child and mother are connected through the umbilical cord, which can be well viewed thanks to ultrasound. When the baby leaves the mother’s body, the umbilical cord is cut off, but the connection remains. Only now it is becoming energetic, and it cannot be considered physically. However, invisible does not mean weak. What is the symbiotic relationship between mother and child and how to get rid of it, we will discuss further.

Definition

A symbiotic relationship is the desire of one of the partners in a relationship, or both at once, which is less common, to have a single emotional and semantic space. How is this manifested? In other words, a symbiotic connection is the desire to always be there, to receive emotions alone for two.

Signs

The symbiotic relationship of the mother with the baby has such signs:

1. The feeling of constant anxiety for the child, the desire to patronize him and surround him with care.
2. Total control over what happens to the child.
3. The symbiotic relationship is manifested in the constant desire of the mother to solve the problems of the child. Most often, these difficulties are contrived and have no real reason.
4. Mother’s unwillingness to let go of her child.
5. The manifestation of jealousy for other family members (father, grandmothers).
6. Rejection of the child’s social circle.
7. Too much emotional and financial costs (the desire to enroll a child in all kinds of circles, sports sections, constant worries about the child’s well-being, wrapping up, introducing additives into the diet, constant visits to doctors and so on).
8. Mother cannot concentrate on affairs, she feels emotional discomfort when the child is not nearby.
   

Start

Mom for the baby during pregnancy becomes both digestion and kidneys, she provides it with useful substances, oxygen, shares the blood supply, endocrine and nervous systems, as well as immunity. Already at this stage, the psychological and emotional contact of the mother with the baby begins to line up. After childbirth, although the child is located separately, it cannot exist without a mother.

Primary Link Formation

The primary symbiotic relationship between mother and child occurs in the first two hours of the baby's life. The warmth of maternal hands maintains optimal body temperature, and milk helps to restore the interaction destroyed by cutting the umbilical cord, through which the child feels protected. During the feeding period, the mother and baby make contact with each other, and the child is able to see it better, since his eyes see him better at a distance of about 25 cm from the object, this is the distance between the mother’s chest and eyes. During this period, it is important for mother to talk with the cub, to stroke him, so he will feel calm. Touching the baby’s skin helps him breathe - there are many nerve endings on the baby’s skin, and touching stimulates breathing.

Secondary

It occurs in the first day of life of a baby. At this time, both he and his mother build all the necessary contacts with each other, so it is very important not to separate them. Experts insist that the child should be picked up and laid with him in the same bed, and not in a separate bed, as was customary before. The baby sleeps better if he feels mom’s breathing and her warmth.

Tertiary

It begins to form as soon as the baby and mother were sent to the home walls. At the same time, it is important to understand that no matter how much you want to transfer the child to your home, he completely needs a mother. Such a relationship is formed within 9 months. So much time is required for both mother and baby to get used to the created conditions of existence.

Negative sides for mother and baby

The bond between mother and child is a wonderful phenomenon, but this is what happens when she is too strong. Negative aspects for mother:

• Communication with the child does not cause a feeling of pleasure.
• Mom lives in anticipation of another emotional breakdown and spends a large amount of moral strength.
• She accumulates the negative emotions of her child and leaves the state of emotional harmony.
• Mother feels exhausted.
• The child ceases to understand affection and refuses to do something until a scream appears in the house.

At the event level, this is expressed as the child’s constantly growing appetites, unwillingness to help around the house, reckon with the interests of parents, in such a family everything revolves around his interests.

What is the bad symbiotic relationship between mother and child for the child himself:

• It is important for the baby to constantly feel the attention of the mother and attract him with actions.
• Such a child commands and demands that adults obey his rules.
• He is not interested in anything, does not know how to get involved, feels a constant feeling of boredom.
• Another feature of such a child is that he constantly runs away, does not obey. When he grows up a bit, any failure will cause spleen and soil knocked out from under his feet. At the same time, he will argue that the path of learning and self-improvement is not for him, and he does not need the advice of other people.
• The child does not know how to evaluate and control their emotional experiences.
• Very not assembled, even when he was more than six years old. He still needs to be controlled: where he put his things, whether he collected everything in a kindergarten or school, whether he gave away someone else's toy to the owner.
  

Impact on children's health

A child who failed to separate from his mother in infancy will make two attempts - in early childhood and in adolescence. Some children experience difficulties during adaptation in kindergarten or school, during this period they often begin to get colds, and not always their cause is the weather or the virus. The child is anxious and wants his mother to stay with him, and it does not matter that the price will be his own health. It is in the desire to always be near the mother the psychological reason for the constant painful state of the baby.

Ways to weaken

What to do to make the relationship between mother and child healthier? To begin with, realize that through your actions you inflict irreparable harm on your child, even if they bear the best intentions. A child who is under the influence of a symbiotic relationship cannot trust his own feelings, cannot live without a mother, becomes a weak, non-independent person who will live his whole life constantly looking back at your opinion, forgetting about his own dreams. Not the most promising prospect. Take your child to kindergarten, take him often for walks, for children's parties, so that he learns to interact with other children, other adults and the environment.

Discuss the book you read or the cartoon you watched, ask questions that will make him pay attention to his own feelings, for example:

• "What was your favorite moment in this cartoon?"
• "Do you remember this episode in a book, it scared you, how did you feel?"

Discuss how the day went, what the child did, what he ate, what was the most delicious, gently draw his attention to your own feelings and feelings.

If the child does not want to wear gloves, because he is warm - do not knock down his inner sensations with his own.

Insist that he do some of his own business on his own, for example, draw, and do not control this process. Say that you love your child and trust him, even if he will not do something the way you want.

A symbiotic relationship arises not only between mother and baby, it is also formed in a pair of other people close to each other: between sisters and brothers (this is especially true for twins), wife and husband. Often it can arise between close friends who consider themselves to be relatives.