“Lover” is a word that is too common to be heard about for the first time. However, in our time it is perceived somewhat differently than before. After all, not so long ago it had a completely different meaning.
Origin of the word
In fiction, “lover” is the word used by writers and poets to refer to people who have high and warm feelings towards someone. So, for example, Pushkin wrote in “The Queen of Spades” such lines: “... I implore you with the feelings of your wife, lover, mother — everything that is holy in life ...”. It is worth paying attention to the sequence. In general, this writer often liked to use words such as “lovers” and “lovers”.
But, unfortunately, in our time they have lost the meaning that originally belonged to them. After all, few people think that these words are motivated by a very important verb - "to love." This is their origin. But in our time, they have acquired a negative color. People tend to vulgarize everything, and words are no exception in this case.
Why do I need a lover?
This is an interesting question. Eternal, one might say. First, I must say that a decent woman does not need him. To satisfy all needs (both moral and physical), she has a husband. If she is looking for someone else, then this is called treason. And the woman herself becomes one of those persons whose names in decent society are not accepted to be pronounced aloud.
Unfortunately, many now have husbands and lovers. The terrible thing is that a good half of people think this is normal. And those who adhere to the exact opposite point of view are called old-fashioned. But then the question arises. Since when has loyalty and devotion to man become old-fashioned?
Just now, people have lost all sorts of moral values. And they ceased to respect their partners. Appreciate relationships, marriage. Many become spouses too soon, without considering their decision, without having lived together, without having really met. And then, when time puts everything in its place, they say that it was a mistake. And, bogged down in these problems that they themselves have created for themselves and their partner, they begin to look for their “happiness”.
About the relationship on the side
In general, many women, having made problems in their family, instead of solving them, believe that they need a lover. This is certainly wrong, but they don’t think so. They are overtaken by sexual panic - there is no longer a desire to go to bed with your husband, questions arise: “Is this old age? Asexuality? Frigidity?". No, it's just a lost interest in the partner. This is usually observed in women who marry too early. And they begin to look for someone who could satisfy them.
Another reason cheating appears is the desire to test your partner. The way he values this relationship. And this is absolutely not the reason. But just stupid. A loving person would never do that.
Most often, lovers are turned into revenge. In a pair of discord, or one of the spouses has already managed to find a person for comfort on the side - then the moment of reckoning comes. Well, in this case, cheating is also not considered the best option.
In general, no matter how powerful the reasons may seem - you do not need to look for someone on the side. If the relationship is really on the edge, it's better to talk about it. Maybe you can find a solution. And if not, then you do not need to deceive each other and hide - you just need to disperse and start a new life.