About 20 years ago, the foreign press intensely exaggerated the theme: "Does it hurt to lose virginity?" What scientists and housewives, politicians and athletes, doctors and “night butterflies” did not argue about, but everyone agreed that the main problem during the first sexual contact is still fear. For the faint-hearted citizens found a way out - defloration.
Russian women twisted their noses: what a pleasure under the
surgeon’s scalpel! Even there will be nothing to remember, in old age, grandchildren tell how the grandmother in his youth "lit." And what to answer curious descendants to the question of who was your first man?
Before terrorizing girlfriends with questions about whether it hurts to lose virginity, decide what you mean by this: hymen or virginity as a state of mind and the status of purity and purity. If you are going to cross a certain psychological barrier, then you definitely do not need a sexual partner. In another case, spend the first night together only with someone you truly love with all your heart.
To tear a fold of the vaginal mucosa of an experienced man does not cost anything, but an inexperienced youth will have a hard time. Physical contact is not as bad as the psychological barrier through which he will have to cross. Fear of doing something wrong, failing to cope due to inexperience often leads to the fact that sexual intimacy is delayed for some time.
Is it painful to lose virginity when fear fetters movement? To some extent, yes, especially when imaginary friends tell scary stories. Do not be alarmed, this is a myth: the amount of blood during a rupture of the hymen is minimal. If there were unpleasant cases, then they are associated not with deprivation of virginity, but with issues of blood coagulation.
Of course, doctors do not deny the fact that the increased density of the hymen prevents the normal passage of the penis. But there are not many such cases, so you should not wind up yourself before the first intimacy. It’s better to relax, responding to the affection of the partner, and believe that he will succeed.
Where to put prejudice? Try to forget about them and what you were told from childhood. Times have changed, chastity is a thing of the past, letting go of the pleasure of physical intimacy. True, until you experience for yourself whether it hurts to lose your virginity, or not, nobody will reassure you. Then you will laugh and remember that a little pain was not worth the fears that you invented.
It is much more difficult for teenagers: for them the expression “does it hurt to lose” correlates not only with insufficient erection at the first contact, but also with the fact that a girl, doubting his manhood, can refuse sex. If your sexual partner is still in school, you will have to take the initiative in your own hands: turn yourself into a woman, and him into a man. True, some high school students are already quite ripe for adult relationships.
Their psychology is such that it is better to spend the night with an experienced woman than with one who will freak out with every failure, and then write on social networks, which means “loss of virginity” to her. A bad start for both is not a reason to part, so it’s better not to rush.