Why do spouses quarrel? Due to mutual misunderstanding. Let's take a classic example: husband - earner, wife - housewife, dealing with children.
A man gets tired at work, a woman gets tired at home. She wants help from her spouse, who, in turn, is in no hurry to help, motivating this by the fact that she is very tired, earning her daily bread. The wife begins to take offense, trying to convey to her husband that she is tired no less than him. The result is a quarrel between tired people.
In Orthodox families a little bit wrong. Both spouses have more patience and wisdom. If serious discord begins, then the couple consults with the priest what to do.
Maybe it's time to turn to God to those who often quarrel with a spouse? How to do it? Start to pray. Is there a prayer for quarrels and scandals in the family? Weâll talk about this now.
How to stop a quarrel?
Husband and wife clung verbally. Both eyes burn with anger, both scream, not hearing each other. Try to pinch more painfully. Sometimes they switch to foul language, but next to them the children see and hear everything.
Is that okay? A good example for a child, right? A mother cursing, or a father who is not shy in expressions, insulting his spouse. It would be much better to shut up in this situation. But no one wants to concede, both are eager for the last word.
Husband, you see that the wife is on the platoon! She is tired no less than you. She spins all day, like a squirrel in a wheel. The house does not clean itself. Food does not cook on its own. And the children themselves do not educate. Stop, no need to quarrel. Hug better, caress, say what you love.
Wife, why are you making a noise? My husband is tired, he is at work all day. Yes, you did not sit still either. But he feeds the family, he makes money. Do you like to buy new clothes for yourself and your children? Do you like family walks? Do you like to go to a beauty salon, do a manicure for example? And the wallet is one in the family, and it is not rubber.
Do not blame her husband. Itâs hard for him just like you. Just grit your teeth and don't shout derogatory words towards your spouse. Keep silent, as they say, for the smart you will go.
Better yet, pray. I would like to say disgust or go to a cry, mentally address the Virgin Mary, ask Her for help and intercession.
Is there the strongest quarrel prayer in the family? Strength is in the hearts of the spouses, in their conversion to God. If a husband and wife wholeheartedly ask for a fret in the family, then such a prayer will not go unanswered.
How to ask the Virgin for help with quarrels? If you donât know any prayers at all, start with this one:
Blessed Virgin Mary, save us.
Four words that are easy to remember.
A little familiar with the Christian life? The following prayers can be read:
Troparia, voice 4: Your Christmas , Virgin Mary, joy to erect the whole universe: from you ascension the Sun of truth Christ our God, and breaking the oath, I will give a blessing, and abolishing death, giving us eternal belly.
Kondak, the voice of the 4th: Joachim and Anna reproach of mercilessness, and Adam and Eve from aphids mortal freedoms, Most Holy, in Your holy Christmas. Thy people also celebrate, you will be freed from the sins of sins, always call Ty: the Mother of God and the Nursery of our life gives birth to bad children.
Prayers to the holy saints of God
Who else but they hear us? Saints were once people, just like you and me, of flesh and blood. Of course, their spiritual component is much higher than ours, but they know what it means to live on earth.
Many saints ordered after their death to come to their graves, to tell everything as if they were alive. They hear and help those who ask for help wholeheartedly.
One of the lights on earth was the blessed Ksenia of Petersburg.
Prayer of Xenia of Petersburg
Prayer for ending a quarrel in the family should be cordial. Remember, when you really need something, you are working hard to achieve this. So it is in prayer - they ask strongly, they cry for help.
Ask Ksenia, she will help. This amazing saint was widowed early. Remaining a widow at 26, the young woman assumed the feat of foolishness. She changed into her husbandâs clothes, responded only to his name. And, having distributed her estate, she turned into a homeless wanderer.
A lot of help was received from blessed Xenia of Petersburg. The chapel with its grave is located at the Smolensk cemetery in the city of St. Petersburg. Visit, if possible, ask for help.
And not having the opportunity - pray to the blessed old woman at home:
Oh, simplifying the way of her life, homeless on the earth, to the heiress of the abodes of the Father of Heaven, blessed wanderer Xenia! As before, to your tombstone of grief and grief that fell and abye with the comforts of execution, now we, running into our hands of deplorable circumstances, are running to you with hope, praying, blessed Virgin Mary, that our feet should be corrected according to the word of the Lord to do His commandments godless atheism, captivating your city and your country, plunging us many-sinners into mortal hate, proud self-exaltation and blasphemous despair, will be abolished. O blessed Christ for the sake of shaming the wisdom of this world, ask the Creator and the Bearer of all blessings to grant us humility, meekness and love in the treasure of our heart, faith in strengthening prayer, hope in repentance, strength in the difficult life, merciful healing of our soul and body , chastity in matrimony and welfare of our neighbors and sincere ones, of our whole life, renewal in a cleansing bath of repentance, as though praising your memory all, we glorify in you the miraculous, the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, the Trinity of Unity and indivisible forever and ever. Amen.
Prayer to Daniel of Moscow
The Holy Right-Kind Prince Daniel of Moscow is prayed for the harmony in the family.
Is there a strong prayer for quarrels in the family? Pray to Prince Daniel, ask him for help in case of family troubles.
Prayer: The Church of Christ praised high, the city of Moscow is an unbroken wall, the powers of Russia Divine affirmation, reverend Prince Daniel, flowing to your race of relics, we earnestly pray: look at us, your memory of those who sing, shed your warm intercession for the Savior of all, so that I affirm by peace we will preserve our city, the city and its grace, and the abode of goodness, planting piety and love in your people, but anger, internecine strife and morals, uprooting corruption; All of us, all that is good for the temporary stomach and eternal salvation, grant with your prayers, so that we glorify the God our God who is wonderful in His saints forever and ever. Amen.
Prayer to Archangel Varahiel
They pray to the archangel of God's blessings for the happiness of marriage. According to legend, it was one of the three angels that appeared to Abraham at the Mamvrian oak, it was he who predicted the birth of Isaac to Abraham and Sarah.
Perhaps the prayer to him from quarrels in the family is strong? It all depends on the mood of the worshipers.
O great archangel of God, the archangel Varahiel! Standing before the Throne of God and honoring the blessings of God in the homes of the faithful servants of God, ask the Lord God for mercy and blessings on our houses, God bless us and increase the abundance of the fruits of the earth, and give us health and salvation, in all good haste, and enemies victory and overcoming, and will save us for many years, always. Now and forever and ever. Amen.
Prayer to the Apostle Simon Zealot
He was the son of St. Joseph the Betrothed, the Lord's brother in the flesh and one of the 12 apostles. He believed in Christ as the promised messiah when He converted the water into wine. This happened at the house of Simon, in Cana of Galilee. The guests did not have enough wine at the wedding feast, and the Lord turned ordinary water into it.
After this miracle, Simon believed with all his heart, became a faithful disciple of Christ. "Zealot" means "zealot."
He accepted his death in Abkhazia, was crucified on the cross. During his lifetime, he walked the world preaching the teaching of Christ.
Prayer from quarrels in the family, husband or wife, performed with faith in the apostle Simon, will help to find peace:
The holy glorious and omnipotent Apostle of Christ Simon, who was honored to receive the Lord Jesus Christ and His Most Holy Mother of God, Our Lady Our Lady in Canal of Galileists, and to be an eyewitness to the glorious miracle of Christ revealed in your brother, turning water into wine! We pray with faith and love: implored Christ the Lord to transform our souls from the sin-loving to the god-loving; save and keep us with your prayers from the temptations of the devil and the fall of sin, and ask us for help from our despondency and helplessness, let us not stumble on the stone of temptation, but steadily walk along the salvific path of the commandments of Christ, until you reach the cloisters of paradise, even though you are now free and happy . To her, the Apostle of Spasov! Do not shame us, trust in those who hope, but be our helper and patron in all our lives and help us to live this pious and pious life for a temporary end, a good and peaceful Christian death, and receive a good answer at the Last Judgment of Christ, so that you can escape the ordeals of the air and power of a loving peacekeeper, we will inherit the kingdom of heaven and glorify the magnificent Name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit forever and ever. Amen.
Prayer to John the Theologian
The Apostle John was a beloved disciple of Christ. He attended the execution of the Savior, stood near the cross. The only one among the apostles who did not leave his Divine Teacher in a terrible hour.
The Lord, already on the cross, commanded his Mother to treat John as a son. âWoman, be your son. Behold your motherâ - This is approximately how Jesus Christ addresses the two closest people who have not left Him here and now.
They pray to the Apostle John to achieve counsel and love between spouses:
Prayer: O great and all-valued apostle and evangelist John the Theologian, the confidant of Christ, our warm intercessor and quick helper in sorrow! Pray for the Lord God to grant us the forgiveness of all our sins, which we have sinned from our youth, in all our life, by deed, word, thought, and all our feelings. At the end of our souls, help us sinners rid ourselves of the ordeal and torment, and through your gracious intercession we glorify the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and ever. Amen.
Prayers from quarrels and scandals in the family are effective only when they are sincere. It is better to spend 20-30 minutes reading one prayer with attention than during that same time somehow mumbling 10 prayers and forget about them right after you close the prayer book.
Prayer to Faith, Hope, Love and their mother Sophia
The female martyrs are prayed for in various everyday needs. Ask for their help, read an akathist or prayer.
No way to read? Ask for help in your own words. Insist, ask, seek and everything will work out.
O holy and laudable martyr Vero, Nadezhda and Lyuba, and the valiant daughters, the wise mother Sophia, now a priest to you with fervent prayer; what more will it be possible to stand for us before the Lord, if not faith, hope and love, these three cornerstones of virtue, the image of them that is called, the very thing that you reveals! Pray to the Lord, that in sorrow and adversity He will cover us with His indescribable grace, He will save and preserve, as there is also a Humane lover. That glory, like the sun, which is now invisible, is now visually brilliant, hasten to us in our humble supplications, may the Lord God forgive our sins and iniquities, and may He have mercy on us sinful and unworthy His bounties. Pray for us, holy martyr, of the Lord Jesus Christ, we send His glory to Him with His Fatherless and His Most Holy and Good and His Life-giving Spirit, now and ever and ever. Amen.
Prayer for the family to the Virgin
As we have already said, there is no special prayer from quarrels and scandals in the family. But there is a prayer for a family that is read before the image of the Mother of God. With attention, they wholeheartedly ask Her for help.
Blessed Lady, take my family under Your protection. Peace, love and disobedience to all that was good in my heart and my childrenâs hearts; do not allow anyone from my family to separation and hard parting, to premature and sudden death without repentance. And our house and all of us who live in it will be kept from fiery heat, thieves' assault, all sorts of mischief, miscellaneous insurance and devilish obsession. Yes, and we will, separately and separately, explicitly and secretly, glorify Your Holy Name always, now and forever, and forever and ever. Amen. Blessed Virgin Mary, save us!
Conspiracies are not from God
It is very embarrassing to âprayersâ from constant quarrels in the family (Stepanova) and others). They have nothing to do with Orthodoxy. If you look at the books of Natalya Stepanova, sold in stores, you can find such a name: "Prayer shield. Rites and conspiracies." A subsection of such a âprayer shieldâ is occultism and esotericism.
Run away from those who recommend "praying" in this way. Stepanova is not an Orthodox person, for more than one Christian will not put prayers, conspiracies and ceremonies nearby. This is absolutely not true. Conspiracies and rituals are weapons of evil spirits.
Summarize
What can and should be remembered from the article? First of all, remember that there are no special prayers from quarrels and scandals in the family. But there is the Virgin, there is the Lord, there are saints to whom we prayerfully appeal.
Ksenia of Petersburg, Prince Daniel of Moscow, the Apostles John the Theologian and Simon Zilot, the Archangel Varahiel, the young women - the martyrs Vera, Love, hope and their mother Sofia, pray for a pious and good family life.
You canât turn to magicians and sorcerers, read their "prayers". These are not prayers, but mockery of them. A mixture of conspiracies, torn out prayer words and recommendations for different rites is not from God.
Conclusion
Readers now know that certain prayers from quarrels and scandals in the family do not exist. But there are saints who help spouses.
Quarrels and mutual reproaches will not lead to good, husband and wife will only move away from each other. Sometimes itâs very difficult, so hard that there is no desire to see oneâs bridegroom. But men marry the good, and women marry the good. Before reproaching your half, reproaching for something and cursing, look at yourself. We got married / married the good, the person could not take and become bad in marriage.