Sorrow is the state of our psyche, which manifests itself as an experience of loss, grief and sadness. It most often has a negative connotation and is characterized by a detachment from familiar life and the external environment. Sadness also happens with a positive bias, for example, when a person, recalling pleasant moments from childhood or youth, thinks that these times will never be repeated. Such emotions are surely experienced by everyone at least once in a lifetime.
A person is in a state of sadness: how to determine?
Determining whether a person is in a state of sadness is not difficult. He becomes detached, withdrawn, withdraws into himself and his thoughts, in his eyes - sadness. At such moments, it is difficult for him to be active, and there is no mood to do anything. There is no desire to communicate with people. I want silence and solitude. At such moments, life seems to slow down.
Often others are trying to help someone else, pull him out of a vicious circle of sadness. Is it necessary? Most often, a person just needs to get sick, allow himself to be alone, if you want, cry and throw out feelings. If he does not want to share his experiences, his condition, it is better not to be imposed, but to provide support when he himself asks for it.
Reasons for the condition
A person can be sad for certain reasons: parting with a loved one / beloved, unfulfilled plans and dreams, a series of minor failures. Much can unsettle a familiar life. But all this is a consequence of the fact that life is not going as it would be desirable. These are symptoms of the need to change something. The hopeless sadness overcomes very much. In order to return faith in the future, sometimes it is necessary to overcome several difficulties, in particular regarding internal changes. Changes in oneself and one's life are very rarely given easily and naturally.
Sorrow is a serious stage in life, overcoming of which is considered a huge achievement. A serious reason for the occurrence of such a condition can be the death of a dear person. In such a situation, only time can help. Try to return to the ordinary life of the survivor of loss is not worth it. Over time, the pain will subside, and he will plunge into the rhythm of ordinary life.
Sadness has passed - the consequences remain
What happens inside our body when we are in a state of sadness? Depending on the temperament and the cause of sadness, a person can both more or less calmly worry and fall into a hysteria or numbness. But in any case, most often in this state, the pressure rises, the heart rate quickens, which can lead to a heart attack. After losing a loved one, the risk of having a heart attack is 21% higher than in a normal state. The adrenal glands produce more cortisol (stress hormone), which is fraught with insomnia and stomach diseases. The immune system is greatly weakened, increased sensitivity to cold. The brain begins to work harder, because during sorrow a person thinks a lot, analyzes, remembers, suffers and seeks reasons.
When sadness disappears, especially if it was not just autumn melancholy, but something serious, the consequences can manifest themselves in the body for a long time. Heart and stomach problems may occur.
What to do with depression?
The state of sadness and sadness can develop into depression if a person makes no attempt to cope with his emotions. Only a qualified specialist can determine whether it is sadness or depression. But there are some symptoms that suggest that the person was drawn into a depressed state :
- apathy, lack of interest in life and any activity;
- feeling of emptiness;
- excessive appetite or lack thereof;
- sense of worthlessness;
- insomnia or drowsiness and hypersomnia - an increased number of hours spent in a dream;
- thoughts of suicide;
- the impossibility of concentration;
- avoiding solutions to problems;
- an ongoing feeling of tiredness even after sleep and rest;
- lack of motivation to do something.
If a person has at least five of the listed symptoms, he needs to see a psychotherapist.
How to get rid and whether to get rid?
Whether it is worth trying to pull yourself out of the bondage of sadness or leave it as it is so that it passes by itself depends on what sadness has overtaken you and the seriousness of its reasons. If this is an experience of losing a loved one, then only time can return a person to a normal life. You can offer your help, but not to impose. A person must survive this and understand that life goes on, on its own.
If there was a life nuisance that is not related to the death of loved ones (problems at work, disruption of plans, deceit and betrayal), then for some time you can withdraw into yourself. The writing technique can help: take paper and write all the thoughts that revolve in your head. We must not keep emotions in ourselves, but give them a way out.
Well, if this is the influence of the weather, you can wrap yourself in a blanket for a while, make delicious tea or cocoa and watch the rain dripping outside the window, or read an interesting book or watch a movie.
What are the next steps?
Sadness is no reason to give up on yourself. From time to time, each of us experiences troubles: we part with people, something goes wrong, the weather does not please. Although you can set aside some time for sadness, you need to stop in time, analyze the reasons, learn a lesson for yourself and move on, along the path to a happy life. No one but ourselves is responsible for our happiness. Therefore, the time will come when you need to pull yourself together, and if necessary, consult a therapist.
Sadness teaches us that our life is a series of pleasant events and not so much that we need to overcome difficulties in order to become stronger for ourselves and our loved ones, so that at any moment we can provide them with the necessary support.