The American psychologist Eric Byrne, who revealed that in fact there are three "I" in every person (parent, adult and child), did not at all encourage people to always strive for communication at the level of: adult-adult. He argued that we owe the best of ourselves to childhood. Let irresponsible, sometimes touchy, but often self-sufficient and frivolously cheerful. The topic of the article is a playful mood. What is this? And how to create it so that it would be easy and fun for others to contact you?
Definition
If you ask a question, what is the child associated with, most will answer: "With the game." The word may be synonymous with "entertainment." How is the concept of "playful mood" interpreted in dictionaries? They propose to do this through the selection of words that are similar in meaning: "playful", "funny", "carefree", "enthusiastic".
When people are in such a mood, it is easy to spend time with them, make contact, and recharge with positive. We are subconsciously drawn to communicate with people who are smiling and open. If you want to become an attractive person for communication, create a positive attitude around yourself, you need to answer the question: "How to make a playful mood?"
Its features
When parents in childhood advised their daughters to play more, because there will be no time in adulthood, they were cunning. Toys and partners are changing, but the principle of entertainment and focus not on the result, but on the process, remains. Many will recognize themselves when we list some of the most common “games”: “the most important thing for me now is girlfriends”; "I'm not interested in someone else's opinion"; "and in general I'm not going to get married." Fantasy, the girl inspires herself that in reality she thinks so, so she flirts, looks away, and is capricious.
The most amazing thing is that the playful mood at the first stage works and causes genuine interest in the opposite sex. The main thing here is not to lose real values and understanding of what you really want. So, we pass to councils.
Create a playful mood
Consider a few important fundamental rules:
- It is necessary to accept oneself, regardless of imperfections. "Yes, I am overweight, but I am working on losing weight, and this is more valuable. Therefore, I am worthy of respect."
- Stop focusing on problems. If they arise, they should be decided, and not to look for those to blame for the environment and devote everyone to their content.
- Separate real needs from selfish "I want." You can not live without food, water, shelter. But without a call today, a gift for 30 thousand, and even without a specific man ... you can live.
- Recognize personal responsibility for what happens in one’s own life.
These tips are long-term work on yourself. And what exactly can be done here and now, if there is a romantic meeting or pastime in the company of friends?
- We recall about ideomotor reactions. It is necessary to make the body make movements, as if our mood is already consistent with the desired. Not ready to sincerely smile? Stretch the corners of the lips, straighten the wrinkles on the forehead and in a moment the joy will come from somewhere inside.
- Come up with the game you want to play. For example, "honey, I love football so much." Be prepared, at least a couple of names of leading players remember and recognize the winning team of the national championship.
- Arm yourself with accessories toys that cheer you up. It can be baubles, hair clips, soft toys, key chains.
- Maintain a playful mood with the appropriate music, read on the eve of a joke or a pre-prepared self-presentation.
But the most important rule to follow is to stop on time. If the situation requires the inclusion of an "adult" within us, we must comply. What if they make an offer today?