When a person does not know who to turn to for help, this is really bad. Because in our life without support it is very difficult. And unfortunately, not everyone has friends who can listen, give relevant and effective advice, cheer up, and contribute to the systematization of thoughts in their places and problem solving. Where to go in such cases?
Emergency Service Emergency Situations
If a person needs psychological advice and support, then you can ask for help on this Internet portal. This free service was created by EMERCOM of Russia. Only psychological specialists work there.
On the site you can get a consultation, and in two forms - either as an answer to a question posted by a person, or in the hidden mode of your own office.
If necessary, you can go through a diagnostic study, according to the results of which a person will be offered corrective techniques and exercises to help cope with the problem. The resource also has a section with published articles of consultants-psychologists, in which there is a lot of useful information for reflection.
If you do not want to study the site, you can simply call the hotline.
Portal for children and adolescents
As a rule, it is easier for adults to cope with their problems than for those whose psyche has not yet become stronger. Children and adolescents really often do not know who to turn to for help. Well, specially for them, a free portal was created called "Help is near."
There are two sections. One is for children from 6 to 12 years old. In this section, they can not only get online help, but also find out the following:
- Which adults can I contact?
- Where to call if you need help?
- Stories from the life of peers.
- Useful tips.
There you can also play the right games, get tested, chat and ask questions.
The second section is for adolescents over the age of 12 years. Consultation of a psychologist is available for them, the opportunity to share their experiences with a personal specialist, helpline numbers and addresses of organizations that can help, as well as all of the above.
Online chat is open from 11:00 to 23:00, and this project also has a group on the VKontakte social network.
Helplines
As a rule, this option most often comes first to the mind of a person who thinks where to turn for help. It is the simplest, because all you need is just to call, and this is available to everyone.
Most hotlines operate around the clock. They provide complete anonymity, so you can talk about any problem. The role of consultants are psychologists with extensive experience who are guaranteed to listen and suggest a solution to the problem.
The following contacts can be distinguished:
- Helpline for children and adolescents.
- Room for women suffering from domestic violence.
- Telephone number for AIDS and HIV.
- Trust number for those who suffer from oncology, and for their relatives.
- Telephone for drug addiction issues.
If a person feels that he needs to turn to people for help, then he does not need to be shy or afraid. Specialists will always help and support.
Forums
Many people, not knowing where to turn for help, go to the Internet on thematic forums or create a fake profile on social networks, after which they seek support in various groups.
This is also a way to talk. Anonymously and frankly, as many need. As a rule, there is a certain number of people who are ready to respond, share their help, thoughts and give advice. True, creators who feed on other people's grief are also enough. They like to “put on a mask” first, and then give some harmful, evil, wrong advice.
But also many through forums and groups find new virtual friends who understand and support better than real ones.
Who is a good adviser?
A clear indication of the problem and the subsequent search for a suitable adviser will help determine who to turn to for help. You need to learn that:
- For questions of a love nature, you need to contact only the person who consists in a happy, harmonious, stable relationship. In order to arrive at such a result, he had already gone through many difficulties earlier, had been in different situations, and knew that he would really help in certain cases.
- Good financial advice can be given only by one who is successful himself. Psychologists say that it is better to appeal to people with the ability to speak foreign languages. They are subject to the assimilation and evaluation of more information than others.
- There are a number of questions, the answer to which is to ask strangers. What to wear, what style to choose, what is better to change in yourself ... Strangers do not already have a folded impression of the image of a person, and their advice turns out to be sensible.
By carefully choosing whom to turn to for help, you can immediately free yourself from the need to tell the same thing several times over to many people. This approach increases the likelihood of getting good advice right away.
Psychologist
Many people, because of prejudice, immediately reject the option that implies a trip to a psychologist. And in vain. After all, if a person does not know who to turn to for help, then a specialist in this field will help him.
After all, a psychologist is one who is able to improve the quality of life. All people have the resources necessary to solve problems. But not everyone knows or knows how to use them. The psychologist will help you understand yourself, look at certain situations from a different angle, and also see what a person actually does with his life.
Specialists in this field are most often approached by people with anxiety, depression, fears, neurosis, mental trauma, crises, obsessive thoughts, panic attacks. The reasons for signing up with a psychologist are thoughts of suicide, loss of the meaning of life, a sense of meaninglessness and emptiness, a feeling of loneliness, confusion in oneself, a desire to change something.
In any case, initially it will be necessary to determine the problem and the goal that a person wants to achieve as a result of its solution. The psychologist will work on this together with the person who turned to him.
Friends
Now is the time that people are thinking - is it possible to turn to friends for help? For many, close friends are a company for spending time together and having fun. But true friends are also people who will never refuse a loved one in a difficult situation, and will help everyone they can.
They, in turn, should always lend a helping hand, even in situations where they repel it. You will not be able to help a friend, moving away from him. You must unobtrusively offer your company, demonstrate a willingness to listen. But do not impose. He wants to be alone? Let be. But then again you need to offer help. It will turn out to make it clear that he is not alone, and he has a source of support, which he can turn to at any time.
And how to ask a friend for help? Directly. Clarity and clarity are the two main principles in the formulation of the request. But, of course, one cannot do without a detailed background. It just brings clarity and clarity.
Anonymous clubs
If a person has problems of a psychological nature and would like to find a “living” source of help, then he may seem like appropriate meetings. Surely everyone has heard the so-called clubs of anonymous alcoholics or addicts. So, there are analogues. More often they can be found under the name "Anonymous Depressive."
Such meetings are suitable for people who want to speak out, but they do not have a person in their circle who can listen. Often even in such clubs there is a “12 Step Program”, only of a different specificity. Since confused and seeking advice people come there, you can not be afraid of condemnation. Visiting such places can bring relief. After all, when you share with people who also suffer from problems and grief, you know for sure that you are understood at least to some extent.
Conclusion
In conclusion, I would like to say that the most important thing is not to be afraid to seek help. Many are hindered by the fear of rejection, the fear of appearing stupid, weak or helpless, or unwillingness to feel humiliated. Some are simply ashamed. Others are simply afraid to burden someone with their problems or are afraid to end up due.
But do not forget that we are all just people. We live in a society, and everyone can be in the place of another. The one whom a person asks for help is likely to turn to him for it in a year. And this is normal. There is no life without difficulties. And it so happens that it is very difficult to deal with some alone. But you don’t need to. Because there are always sources of help.