The sacrament of baptism has become for us not a great rite, but rather the same common thing after the birth of a child as, say, vaccination. You can, of course, not do it, but you should be safe. Russian people were torn away from the church for quite some time. It is enough to recall the famous novel “The Master and Margarita”, where Bulgakov vividly describes the neglect of faith inherent in that time. That is why modern society has forgotten why godparents are needed and what the baptismal rite itself carries . In the world of bureaucracy, even evidence is given that the sacrament has taken place. But if you are a future godmother, carefully examine your responsibilities. There are no trifles in this matter!
The godmother: duties and responsibilities
Some girls take such offers very seriously. All right. You have to not only pamper your child with gifts, but be responsible for his moral education. Between the godfather and the godson, a special spiritual connection will be formed. You can say that you will be a mentor
person for the rest of his life.
Let's start with the preparation. If a baby is baptized, the rules for the godmother and godmother are very simple. First go to church and find out when special preliminary discussions are held. There they will tell you about the rite itself and your further duties. Before the sacrament, it is necessary to take communion, and also the date must be chosen so that it does not coincide with the days of the menstruation at the godmother, because she will not be allowed to the font.
The church will explain to you in detail when they conduct general baptismal rites and individual, as well as voice their cost. Do not forget to purchase a cross and a special vest (baptismal dress). There are no special rules regarding who should pay the costs of the sacrament, but it is still considered that this is the prerogative of the godparents.
If both parents were needed before, now often only one is invited. Accordingly, for a girl - a woman, and for a boy - a man. But ministers advise following the old canons. After all, the godfather and the godmother, whose duties are the spiritual education of the child, are the support and support for the baby.
Are you afraid of such a wonderful “title” as the godmother? Do duties and responsibilities scare you? You should not worry, but it’s worth considering. First of all, about who invited you. If this is a close person with whom more than just friendship connects you, and the birth of a baby in a strange family has caused your delight - agree. Knowledge of prayers and faith in God are far from everything. The main thing is that the baby becomes almost family for you. Love is the basis of the foundations, thanks to it a special connection will be established between you that will protect your godson.
If the request comes from a person far away for you, do not rush to agree. Perhaps the child will love you, and you him, but you can not be sure of this. It’s not too good when the godmother, whose duties are very important, is away from the godson (I mean not only and not so much distance, but relationship, desire to help and participate in fate). Take the baptismal ceremony very seriously. If you have a cool relationship with your baby’s parents, but for some reason the offer has been received, then it’s better to tactfully refuse.