Almost every person living on this planet sooner or later finds a soul mate. Some couples have been living together for decades, enjoying each other’s company, and do not complicate things with passports. Others go to the registry office to tie the knot. In any case, this is a family. After all, they are united by love and feelings. But why do you need a family in general? This question probably crept into the head of many of us. Well, you should try to find the answer to it.
Definition
To begin with, we can note how it is customary to characterize a family in words. That is, turn to terminology. What is family? The definition says that it is a social institution and the basic unit of society. And it is characterized by certain signs. In particular, the union of two loving each other people and voluntary marriage. Subsequently , family members become connected by a community of everyday life. But the most important thing is that the family is first of all the most important social value.
Benefit
For an adult , a family is a source of satisfying certain needs of a very different nature: from caring and intimacy to the help of a housework partner and doing his job.
For younger members of society, the family is an environment in which favorable conditions for development are formed. Not even so much physical as emotional, mental and intellectual. All this is a child must give his parents. Which, in turn, should themselves take place as individuals capable of raising a full-fledged member of a civilized society. Therefore, the birth of a child, if one is planned, must be treated with maximum responsibility. In modern society, many, unfortunately, are not aware of it.
Other functions
Now you can talk in more detail about why the family is needed, in addition to the above. Sociologists additionally highlight several more of its functions.
The first is household. That is, the essence of the function is to satisfy the material needs of both family members. People get married, work, buy an apartment with shared funds, furnish it with appliances and furniture - this is the most primitive example. But visual. After all, everything turns out to be acquired faster.
Another function is recreational. It consists in the restoration of intellectual and physical forces. A normal family is a couple in which each person is interested in talking with a partner, sharing experiences, learning something interesting and new during the conversation. Which is the restoration of intellectual strength. And then what about the physical? Everything is very simple. A man, for example, had a hard shift at work. And the wife has a day off. Upon returning home, the man will be tired and hungry, but his physical strength will help restore the hot bath recruited by his beloved, and a delicious dinner. Also a simple but clear example.
Emotional component
But of course, the first and foremost thing for which a family is needed is feelings. Love, sympathy, caring, respect, recognition, mutual support. The desire to engage in spiritual enrichment together, after all. This is all that is needed for the family.
And of course, another important function is sexually erotic. Each partner must satisfy the other's respective needs. Of course, naturally. Although, in fact, is it really different in happy couples?
No, but in other families, yes. Unions often break up due to sexual incompatibility. Adults and young couples are crumbling, as partners dissatisfied with each other begin to get angry, frustrated, and finally seek solace on the side.
Ideas of a normal family
There are no "standards". Nowadays, for sure. Why a family is needed - it was said, and now you can pay attention to its characteristics. Still, there are some ideas about a healthy union now. And they are quite adequate and correct.
In the family, each partner should perceive the other as a person equal to himself. Show trust, openness, be honest and keep marital fidelity. The last aspect is becoming more and more utopian every year. But he is correct. People marry because they love each other and cannot imagine life without their partner who suits them in everything. Then why look for something else?
What is needed for a family is the responsibility of each member. If any problems arise, you need to solve them together, and not try to shift the blame on the partner.
Also, in a healthy family, people relax together, enjoy something and enjoy themselves. They also respect each other's traditions with respect. If one of the partners is of German origin, and the other is Russian, then why not celebrate the national holidays of both?
Even in a normal family, there must be a right to privacy. We all sometimes need to be alone with the dearest person - with ourselves. And the partner understands this correctly. And not as the desire of his other half to distance himself. And one more thing: both partners are obliged to accept features and differences of each other, not trying to “redraw” the essence of the beloved person. If all of the above is observed, and not because it is necessary, but because it comes from the heart and soul, then a happy family life is provided.
About problems
So, it was described in great detail about what a family is. A definition of a normal, healthy relationship is also given. And now we can note the key points that indicate the failure of the couple and incompatibility in the marriage.
Partners should consider if they deny problems and support illusions. If, for example, a wife spends at work out of 24 hours in 15 days, it is worth discussing. Most likely, in this situation, the man feels single.
Lack of intimacy is also a problem. As well as a rigid distribution of roles in the family. If a woman is at work, and a man has a day off, why don't he spend 30 minutes wiping the dust? Many people have big prejudices about this and all the like.
The problem is a conflict relationship. Especially hidden when the couple creates the illusion that everything is normal. Suppose a wife found out about her husband’s infidelity, but says nothing and behaves as if nothing had happened, but subconsciously hating her husband. Any problem needs to be solved, otherwise the microclimate in the family will be extremely unfavorable.
findings
Well, the key to a happy life together is mutual tolerance, proper prioritization, the ability to find compromises, as well as preserving your individuality (after all, people fall in love with it). By the way, it is important to maintain the very “sparkle” that many people like to talk about. But for this you just need to get rid of the routine and regularly bring variety to life.
Relationships are not ideal, but they can be built. And the basis is love. And in no case do you need to follow the standards. The union will be happy if the partners live as they both want. And why is a family still needed, if not for this?