Understanding psychology was born at the end of the 19th century. An explanation of the human spiritual life has become the main task of the psychological study of this branch of science. This development was proposed by the German philosopher Dilthey, he argued that we can explain nature and understand spiritual life.
How to understand a man
The psychology of men is very different from that of women. This is understandable. From the very birth, boys and girls are brought up according to different programs. Girls are future wives and mothers, custodians of the hearth. Boys are future men, family earners. Therefore, when girls play with dolls and sew clothes for them, the boys help dad repair the car, play soccer or go fishing.
After a while, the opposite sex begins to pull toward each other, and it turns out that she does not like fishing and football, and he hates shopping. As a result, more and more girls are asking themselves: how to understand a guy? Psychology can give a lot of advice, girls can only use them correctly.
Many dear ladies try to take the place of a guy, try to think like him. You can immediately say: this is not true. A girl can never think like a man because she is a girl. Yes, and it is unlikely that the guy will be pleased to see next to him a beautiful half with boyish habits.
We study men on a first date
So, the study of the masculine essence can begin already on the first date. Unfortunately, they do not understand hints at all. And if you lick your lips during a conversation, he will hope to continue the conversation. If during communication he reaches out with his palm up, this means his sympathy and desire to communicate. Well, if a man’s legs are crossed during a conversation, his hands are in his pockets, this means that he is not configured for further communication. A large number of compliments should alert you, most likely, he does not take you seriously. Also, the guy’s intention can be read through the eyes. For example, if a young man looks intently into your eyes or often raises his eyebrows up, this will mean that he likes you. Well, a constantly frowning man means a reduced interest in your person. If a guy squints and smiles while looking at you, he’s probably just flirting. This look invites you to an easy relationship without continuing.
Why don't men like to chat?
If the first date was successful, and on it the girl managed to understand the intentions of the guy, other problems appear. For example, many ladies complain that men do not tell them how their day went and do not ask their loved ones about it. Women are mistaken when they think that men do not care. It's just that they are used to receiving concise information about the problem and looking for a solution to it. A man is unlikely to be interested in hearing what color your colleague's bag is or how many centimeters in height her heels are. For such topics, it is better to find the girlfriend’s free ears.
Another cause of disagreement is the lack of understanding of female hints. Yes, men need to speak directly. They don’t understand the hints!
If you don’t understand why a man needs to go fishing or go to a bar with friends, then think about whether you can sit at work and not discuss your boss’s new hairstyle or haircut with your colleagues? Men talk on other topics, and they need these conversations just as much as you. Therefore, you do not need to arrange tantrums and jealousy scenes, because then the guy will leave in spite and will do so often. It is better to wish him good luck before fishing and give warm clothes, so as not to freeze at night. He will be pleased with your trust. Meanwhile, use this evening to good use. Go to the spa, visit your girlfriend, or read a book.
The women's shoulders bear a huge responsibility for creating coziness in the house, good relations, love, quiet life. Unfortunately, not everyone can handle this, but you must remember that from time immemorial it was a woman who was considered the guardian of the hearth.
How to understand yourself
Psychology has long asked this question. Many psychologists have written scientific treatises on this topic. But no work and advice will help if the person himself does not want this. So, if you decide to understand yourself, then you need to start small. Try to devote yourself 5 minutes daily. After all, this is quite a bit. It is probably best to think before bedtime. Every day ask yourself questions: why was I born, what do I love, what do I dream about, what will I leave behind? These questions will help you understand your essence, and you will take one step towards your knowledge.
The next step is to realize whether you like what you do. If the work does not suit you, you need to change it. Even if you have to change 10 jobs, but in the end you will find what is right for you! Work should be fun, not a bunch of negative emotions!
It's not scary to make a mistake - it's scary not to draw conclusions from it!
Do not be afraid to make mistakes. Many people, having taken the wrong step, are “clogged into a corner,” and shut themselves up. They believe that it is better to sit quietly, and then there will be no mistakes. There is a well-known expression: if you want to avoid criticism, do not say anything, do nothing and be nothing. From this phrase you can understand that you need to fight. It is necessary to go all the way and learn from your mistakes!
Many methods in psychology teach us to know ourselves. One of these is to try something new in your life. Have you ever parachuted? Jump! You do not know how to play billiards? Learn!
And remember, thoughts are material! Until now, few people believe in this, although scientists have long proved the correctness of this statement. Become a writer for your book of life. Describe your dreams and your vision of life every day, and believe me, you yourself will not notice when the book becomes a reality.
Communication with people: how to understand their intentions
Another question that psychology is studying: how to understand a person by gestures and facial expressions. Facial expression is the movement of the facial muscles with which you can determine the mood of a person.
Anger is manifested by tightly clenched teeth and lips, wrinkles on the forehead and a downcast look.
Fear can be identified by raised and reduced to the nose bridge eyebrows.
With a feeling of disgust, a person has a wrinkled nose, a lower lip, and eyebrows are lowered.
During sadness, the corners of the lips go down, a person does not raise his eyes from the floor, and the pupils move very slowly, eyebrows are shifted on the bridge of the nose.
Joy is manifested by a smile and slightly squinted eyes. If during a smile a person does not squint, it means that she is false.
Communication position: what to look for?
Understanding psychology allows you to understand the intentions of a person by looking at the position of his head. So, a raised head speaks of self-confidence and openness to people around. And if it is tilted sideways - this means that a person is ready to compromise. A head bowed down betrays a weak and weak-willed person.
Hands can say a lot
In addition to the head, great importance is attached to the hands. After all, their movements are practically not regulated by our subconscious. So, hands raised palms up - this is a good sign. A person wants to communicate with you. If a person walks with his hands behind his back, this is a sign of shyness and timidity. A man who hides his hands in his pockets is trying to hide his insecurity. Rubbing hands means satisfaction and positive emotions. Well, if during a conversation a person touches his face with his hands, he tries to hide the truth from you. In other words, he's just lying.
Understanding psychology is a huge science that deals with man. With it, people can know themselves, understand their interlocutors and loved ones. Understanding psychology will help anyone find strength in themselves to create their own happiness at work and at home, among colleagues and relatives. Do not be afraid to make a mistake! Be careful not to be anyone!