It happens that the day didn’t set, and yet rudeness at work, in the store, in transport spoils the mood completely. You can remain silent, not answer, endure. But patience tends to end, and how to respond to rudeness?
Ignore or not?
The easiest option is to pretend that you did not notice anything, and as soon as possible throw out offensive words from your head, maintain peace of mind. But one does not always succeed in not being upset about trifles, as well as silently escaping from some quarrelsome person. On the other hand, it is necessary to defend one’s interests and protect one’s self-esteem . How to answer rudeness correctly? There are several ways.
Exposure
Rudeness is not only obvious, but also hidden. For example, a work colleague may criticize your professional achievements only because of personal hostility. In this case, the critic should be exposed, explaining the situation. The ill-wisher, most likely, will be afraid that he was convicted of bias, and the next time he will think before opening his mouth.
Shock
How to respond to rudeness in transport, on the street or in a store? You can stop the flow of abuse, pouring onto your head, by some strange question that will lead the interlocutor to confusion. It takes a long time to come up with some objections, and the louts usually don’t perceive anything constructive, so the question can be completely absurd, for example: “How fast will the hippo reach Mars?” Ham will have to think for a long time what you had in mind.
Humor
Often you are rude to people with whom you really would not want to quarrel, for example, a boss who got up on the wrong foot, or a close person who has some kind of trouble, and you get his displeasure. A joke helps to relieve the situation and even cheer up the interlocutor. Cutting off some quarrelsome grandmother at the entrance is also very nice. But, alas, witty answers to rudeness often come to mind even when the situation itself has remained in the past.
Questions
Not only worthy answers to rudeness are possible, but also questions too. For example, on a bus, you accidentally pushed someone and apologized, but the person is still indignant: “Why are you blind? Are you completely foolish? ” You may ask: "Do you think I'm blind and stupid?" The answer is likely to be positive: “Of course! You pushed me! ” It will be appropriate to ask: "Do you think that I pushed you on purpose?" Translating attacks into questions, you allow the person you are talking to to understand the situation: he is hurt, and his first reaction is aggression, but this is not a reason to be rude in response to an apology.
Tediousness
Such questions can be brought to an outright tediousness, in which any rudeness will get bogged down. For example, the boss may declare all the work you have done hacking. How to respond to rudeness in such a situation? Start meticulously asking what exactly is wrong, where he found a mistake, at what point, in this or that, and what needs to be fixed, where and how exactly? Next time, the boss will come to you only with constructive criticism.