When is sex possible after pregnancy? Let's find out as much as possible this nuance in this article. Of course, this is a great moment - the acquisition of the status of mom. But do the ladies remember that, having become mothers, they do not stop being women? Beautiful, beloved and desired?
Many parents say that the first intimacy after childbirth is reminiscent of “sex for the first time.”
Some mothers, even in the hospital, dream of how they will again have sex. And indeed, such dreams become reality. But ladies of this type, alas, are few. Statistics show that about 50% of newly-born mothers cannot restore sexual relations within two months after the baby is born. It is interesting that 18% of women in labor cannot solve this problem for a whole year! And yet, how much you can not have sex after pregnancy?
When?
So, it is advisable to start practicing sex after pregnancy no earlier than five to six weeks after giving birth. After all, it is during this period that the uterus gradually returns to its original size, heals the place where the placenta joins. Indeed, when the placenta is separated from the uterine wall, a solid wound remains in its place. And if an infection penetrates into it during copulation, the case may end with endometritis (uterine inflammation).
In order for sex after pregnancy to be full, the vagina must take its previous shape: after all, after the birth of the baby, it is stretched. As a rule, seven weeks after giving birth everything is normal. In order for the process to be more successful, gynecologists advise to perform Kegel exercises, which strengthen the muscles of the perineum and vagina.
It is known that even in the last century, the gynecologist Arnold Kegel created them specifically for those women who, after childbirth, had involuntary urination. Further, it turned out that this exercise increases sexual tone, enhances blood supply and even allows you to control orgasm.
Do you need to figure out which muscles to exercise? Try to hold a stream of urine at the time of urination. The muscles you did this are called the perineal muscles. Now you need to complete the main task: to learn how to relax and strain them to the maximum, first slowly, and then at a fast pace. In order for sex after pregnancy to bring pleasure, it is definitely not a problem to train them. Exercises are done and lying in bed, and while walking, and at the TV.
Cesarean section
And when can you have sex after pregnancy, which ended with a caesarean section? It would seem that after such childbirth problems should not arise. Many people think that in this case, you can immediately have sex. Indeed, the vagina has not completely altered. Only the placental wound heals in the same way as after ordinary childbirth.
In addition, the scar that appears on the uterus heals for about six weeks. Interestingly, a suture placed on the skin of the abdomen can heal much earlier.
I do not want or can not?
Very often, the doctor allows sexual pleasures, but the woman is indifferent to them. No need to rush to diagnose frigidity. You need to figure out why you disgust sex. After all, the reasons can be both obvious and located in the depths of the subconscious.
We continue to consider the issue of when you can have sex after pregnancy. In general, the dulling of sex drive is a kind of natural phenomenon. Indeed, as long as the baby needs constant maternal care, until it can exist independently, the next cub is not needed by the parent yet. That is why the amount of estrogen (the hormone of pleasure) is reduced in the body of a woman in childbirth. As a result, there is an increased dryness of the vagina, and even with too high sexual activity. Well, if the birth was too difficult, the newly-born mother subconsciously wants to take revenge on her partner for the suffering.
Many do not want to have sex after pregnancy for the following reasons:
- Colossal fatigue (sometimes combined with resentment against her husband who does not want to help look after the newborn), reflected in the ladies' phrase: “I have no time to have sex now!”.
- Feeling unattractive. Indeed, after the appearance of the child, the female figure in most cases loses shape. However, many men have such a change in taste.
- Postpartum Depression. This type of depression occurs in approximately 10% of women. He is able to significantly reduce sexual desire.
And young mothers are just very afraid to copulate. They are constantly worried about the same question: “Can I have sex after pregnancy?” They may worry, for example, that:
- The process will be painful, or the wound has not yet healed properly. To overcome this fear, you just need to see a doctor. After all, only a specialist will be able to determine in what condition the body is after childbirth.
- At the most important moment, the baby will wake up. Fear strains a woman, and she cannot relax. In this case, it is better to ask the nanny or grandmother for a few hours to walk with the baby on the street.
- A new unwanted pregnancy will appear. It must be remembered that there are many methods of contraception. You just need to choose the best option.
Contraception
As already mentioned, in this review we consider sex after pregnancy. When it is possible and when it is undesirable to deal with it - this is the issue that interests us now. So, it is widely believed that while the woman in labor has not recovered, or while she is breastfeeding, there is no chance of becoming pregnant again. This is not true! Moreover, until the cycle has returned to normal, a new pregnancy may not be noticed. Menstruation may appear already on the twenty-eighth day after childbirth, or it may not appear during the entire period of lactation, but this nuance does not mean that you are insured against pregnancy. What to do now?
The calendar method is useless here. In ordinary times, it is effective only in 50% of cases, and when menstruation is irregular, you should not rely on it. With regard to hormonal pills, doctors have different opinions. Some say that hormones, falling into breast milk, are dangerous for the baby, while others insist that current hormonal contraceptives will not affect the baby. You must decide, but you can’t prescribe such a drug for yourself. This is the prerogative of a professional doctor. In principle, this option is very reliable and effective at 97-99%.
So, the hormonal drug is administered as follows:
- Orally (tablets are taken daily, and of course, at the same time).
- Injection (contraceptive injection). Here the contraindications and indications are the same as with the tablets, but the form of use is different (the drug is effective from 8 to 12 weeks).
- A birth control capsule that is inserted under the skin placed on the shoulder. It is valid for five years, but it can be eliminated at any time.
An intrauterine device is 98% productive, but it can be used after delivery no earlier than six weeks, provided that the mother does not have chronic gynecological diseases.
Barrier contraception (spermicides, condoms, diaphragm) works at 85-97%. A combination of spermicides and a diaphragm is very effective (a spermicide is applied to its dome before the diaphragm is inserted).
"First" love experience
Many mothers say that the first sex after pregnancy is like "the very first copulation." This moment must know the spouse, burning with passion. After all, it requires maximum tenderness and patience in order to revive a love affair. Of course, first he and his wife will have to share not only the bed, but also the household chores.
It is known that massage is desirable to relieve muscle tension (preferably with the use of essential oils). You need to choose a position in which you can independently adjust the depth and frequency of penetration, for example, the "rider" pose. To reduce vaginal dryness, many use special gels and lubricants purchased in an intimate store. It is very important that mommy is confident in her attractiveness. By the way, the male look is much less picky than the female.
Many argue that it is the revival of sexual relations that completes the postpartum period and begins a new stage in family life.
Abortion
Many people ask when can I have sex after an abortion? Consider this topic. Almost every lady ever had an abortion. Or carried out medical abortions, which today are becoming increasingly popular. Of course, patients have questions: “How should you behave after a simple abortion, how to protect yourself, and what to do after a medical abortion?” The questions are quite acceptable and logical. Of course, the doctor should explain all the rules, but he does not always have time to tell about them, and sometimes he even “forgets”.
Medical abortion
And what is the schedule of sex after medical termination of pregnancy? It is known that such an abortion is carried out with the help of drugs, without the intervention of surgeons. That is why it is called pharmacological abortion.
For its implementation, Mifegin is used, which refers to antiprogestagenic steroid drugs. Mifegin aborts a pregnancy similar to a miscarriage.
In general, drug abortion is performed on an outpatient basis, and after taking the pill, the patient returns home. To avoid complications, the woman must reappear at the antenatal clinic, where she will undergo a follow-up ultrasound. It is known that the discharge after a medical abortion does not stop until three weeks.
A lady is recommended to abstain from sexual activity during this period. After all, sex is an exercise that can aggravate uterine bleeding. In addition, after a medical abortion (as well as after a surgical one, however), the uterus looks like an open wound, it takes a lot of time to heal. And if you do not follow medical advice, the risk of inflammation of the female genital organs increases. In addition, after a medical abortion, the cervical canal is opened, so that infection can easily enter the uterine cavity.
It is very difficult to practice sex after drug termination of pregnancy. Indeed, the interruption of an interesting position very often leads to a shift in the menstrual cycle in any direction or its violation. That is why ovulation (egg maturation) may appear twelve days after a medical abortion, which does not exclude the possibility of becoming pregnant again.
Of course, it must be borne in mind that pregnancy tests cannot help in its diagnosis. Indeed, for a certain period (about a month) after abortion, chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) still circulates in the blood, on the basis of which pregnancy is determined. In fact, in this embodiment, the test may present a false positive result.
In general, as a rule, they abstain from copulation until the start of the next menstruation, which usually begins after four weeks.
Problems After Medicinal Abortion
So, sex after termination of pregnancy with various drugs can be practiced after the cessation of spotting. Otherwise, various complications may appear:
- Bleeding after medical abortion, which may require the intervention of surgeons (curettage of the uterine cavity).
- Ectopic pregnancy (urgent surgery required)
- Pregnancy: progressive or failed drug abortion (also requires curettage of the uterine cavity).
- The appearance of inflammation in the female genital organs (pain during copulation).
General instructions
After a medical abortion, a woman should not only refrain from intimacy, but also follow these recommendations:
- Daily monitoring of body temperature.
- It is forbidden to take baths and access to the pool.
- The bladder and intestines should be emptied regularly.
- Hygiene rules must be carefully observed.
- The issue of contraception must be resolved. In fact, “mini-drank” tablets or an intrauterine device are considered optimal.
Ectopic pregnancy
And when is sex possible after an ectopic pregnancy? In general, the wound surface here heals within a month, dense scars appear on the site of the incisions, which cannot be torn during mating.
By the way, it is impossible to practice sexual pleasures for a month also with the aim of preventing infection. After all, inflammation and damaged tissues create a comfortable environment for the reproduction and growth of bacteria, which in any case will provoke a purulent process in the abdominal cavity. And such a nuance will complicate the treatment and cause the need for reoperation.
In addition, injured tissues will never provide an adequate barrier to pathogenic bacteria living in the vagina. Therefore, copulation will lead to the appearance of infection, which ascends to the uterus, tubes and ovaries.
Frozen pregnancy
So, sex after an ectopic pregnancy can only be practiced after all the wounds are healed. And what is a frozen pregnancy? Oh, this is a dangerous kind of interesting situation that must be interrupted. The interruption here, as a rule, is carried out by the method of curettage. After such a procedure, a woman should abandon sexual pleasures for at least one to two weeks. It is this period that is needed so that the cervix closes and the inner surface heals.
Of course, sex after a frozen pregnancy will bring only joy. But it is necessary to refuse it for a certain period of time, since the cervix is opened, and its inner surface is only a huge open wound. Where did she come from? Yes, the upper part of the mucosa and the ovum with membranes were simply removed.
As a result, conditionally pathogenic and pathogenic microorganisms can easily get from the vagina to the uterus, and from there enter the systemic circulation. In general, bacteria can affect the appearance of severe inflammatory infections in various organs (uterus, tubes, ovaries).
Sexual acts only accelerate the penetration of bacteria into the uterine cavity. To prevent infection and you need to refrain from vaginal sex for a short period of time. Partners must wait until the cervix closes and its inner surface heals.
Only after scarring of all internal wounds can copulate. There are no other restrictions on love joys after a frozen pregnancy.
Interestingly, after curettage for two weeks, you can engage in anal and oral sex. If this type of pregnancy has ended in a miscarriage or medical abortion, you need to abstain from sex until the bleeding is complete, which can last about two weeks.
Sex
In fact, every doctor tells women in childbirth that with natural birth, sex life cannot be resumed before six weeks. Of course, this does not mean that after this period you can immediately practice violent sex. First you need to go to the gynecologist to confirm that the process of restoration of the female genital organs is completed.
Why is it forbidden to copulate immediately after childbirth? In a woman, the cervix is opened during this period, and the genitals are a continuous wound - you can catch the infection quite easily.
And given that many mothers have had an episiotomy (perineal incision) with suturing, sex is allowed only after they have healed. In this case, not only the perineum can be torn, but also the cervix during copulation. It is known that even after delivery the church is allowed to enter only after the expiration of forty days, and this is slightly less than six weeks.
In general, engaging in pleasures after childbirth is prohibited if there is discharge, inflammation of the sutures or female organs, severe pain. Very rarely you can meet a man who understands that after childbirth it is forbidden to have sex because of the physical weakness of the body.
Consider the moral side of the issue. If there is a psychological barrier, what to do? Some women are afraid to start having sex again, they are afraid not only of pain. Even after curettage, the first copulation for many is psychologically difficult.
However, it should be noted that many women after childbirth begin to experience new sensations. The main thing is not to be afraid, to act carefully and very delicately. In general, each couple decides when to start making love affairs after childbirth, but the advice of doctors should not be neglected in any case.