What makes a person happy and allows you to live in harmony with yourself? Everyone will probably answer this question in their own way. After all, everyone has their own dreams and aspirations, but absolutely everyone will be able to confirm that love is one of the fundamental pillars of our lives. We are social beings and therefore strive to gain support and understanding, love and devotion. And many people believe that life was created so that we can help and satisfy the requirements of loved ones. But in fact, we are all unique and individual. Man is created for a happy life, in which he must first of all value himself! Surely every girl in her dreams draws the perfect picture and repeats it like a spell: “I want to love and be loved”!
Loneliness: fact or contrived stereotype
Many ladies tend to dramatize life circumstances and see everything in dark colors. Comparing themselves with other women, they begin to “gain” complexes and acquire fears. After all, someone always seems happier and more attractive. Is it really so? You cannot judge a person without knowing him. The girl begins to make attempts to get closer to the opposite sex and sometimes can really fail. But this does not mean at all that she is doomed.
The problem is precisely in relation to the situation - a fanatical desire for a goal and failure to accept defeat lead to deep depression. Do not get hung up, you must first understand yourself. What are you ready to do so that your life "flows" in a different direction? It is necessary to begin to change the usual attitude towards oneself. How does this help? The answer is obvious - the phrase “I want to love and be loved” will cease to be an unattainable goal for you!
Love yourself
Our personality consists of thousands of fragments that determine our life, attitude to ourselves and others. And if a woman was once convinced that she was unworthy of love, this stereotype will be reflected in her entire destiny. Psychologists say that love is a psycho-emotional reflection of the integrity of the personality itself. That is, all feelings are already within us. And when we meet a worthy person, we share with him our emotions that we initially felt for ourselves. And here is the answer - if you have never loved yourself, can you give this feeling to another? Of course not! A man deeply insecure and “offended” cannot attract another. After all, the man he liked is also in search of a person whom he can trust. Is a lady who does not admire herself, does not value her qualities, can captivate him? You need to learn how to express your emotions and love that fragile and offended person who lives inside you. Allow yourself to be free and open to new and unknown. Know your soul, and then the phrase “I want love and be loved” will not turn into an obsession, but will turn into a new happy life.
Internal restrictions
Very often, girls themselves program future failures. They believe that they are not worthy of such a wonderful feeling as love, devotion. Ladies begin to feel victims of circumstances and evil rock. Creating close relationships, each time they ask themselves the question of whether they are worthy of their chosen one? Will they succeed or will failure come again?
Such women are drawn to men who feel their attitude towards themselves, begin to behave with them just like a victim, allow themselves cruel acts and betrayals. After all, she deserves this if she herself has accepted such a situation. And when you repeat to yourself: “I want to be loved”, you yourself do not believe it. Change your attitude to life, stop feeling sorry for the “girl” inside you. Be proud that you are unique and inimitable. And only such behavior will make you attractive to the opposite sex.
Fear of pain and new frustration
Everyone in life has setbacks and disappointments, but someone is able to "rise" and move on, and someone feeds his pain daily. A whole drama arises in life, the girl constantly scrolls the situation in which she was deceived. In the end, she begins to blame herself! He is looking for the reasons for the gap, begins to fear to survive a new tragedy in his personal life. This state of affairs leads to the fact that the lady is afraid to let a new person into her heart.
It seems to her that in this way she protects herself from pain. Doubts prevail and subjugate the will, a woman can start dating a guy, but at the first opportunity she runs away and hides in her “shell”. You say to yourself: “I want my beloved to be around,” but you yourself are looking for a reason to accuse him of lying or treason. In such a situation, you must forgive the person who has offended you and yourself. Do not keep anger and rage. The world is imperfect, as are the people around you. So, maybe stop leaving the house? Allow yourself to live on, start communicating more and expressing your feelings openly.
No need to rush
Many girls are simply obsessed with fear of loneliness. They are afraid not to have time to find their only one and begin to see him in any representative of the opposite sex. Such an obsessive state pushes to the manifestation of their emotions in an aggressive form. Her slogan is the expression "I want to love and be loved here and right now." A woman seeks to get a man in any way. It seems to her that if he leaves, she will remain forever alone.
This state of affairs leads to total control of the chosen one. Constant talk about relationships, quarrels for any reason. Of course, this behavior repels men; they do not want to obey and do not want to be “conquered”. Cavaliers feel that you have already decided everything for him, and this is unacceptable. Everyone must have a choice. Naturally, such a relationship will lead to a break. No matter how trite this sounds, but you need to completely let go of the situation, to some extent even switch to other concerns. Prove yourself as an independent and independent person. It is women who shy away from relationships that attract men a lot.
Are you ready for love
Sometimes a situation arises that a girl is very keen on relationships, dreams of her chosen one, and when it comes to real romantic meetings, she understands that she is not ready yet. Analyze the situation, whether you can change your life, let another person into it. Listen to yourself, how you will feel and whether you can compromise for the sake of a loved one. Relations is a complex interaction between two people, and harmony and understanding can be achieved only through daily and painstaking work. If you do not want to get rid of inner complexes and fears, how will you build ideal relationships in which you will find happiness? So decide for yourself whether the magic phrase “I want to love and be loved” will become the vital truth of life or will it remain in my dreams.
To strive for love and new feelings is so natural and beautiful. Love brings us feelings of happiness and security, gives us harmony with the world around us and pushes us to wonderful actions. So why not help yourself and try to put aside fears and unnecessary fears? It is known that inaction does not lead to anything. Make your dream come true - and then you don’t only have to dream and repeat in your mind: “I want to be desired and loved”, you will become so awake!