Romantic acts are impressive, can be costly and not very, but the main thing is that they perform their function - inspire, delight, bring the couple together. To please another, money is not always needed - only desire is needed.
Simple methods to help the senses
So that the feelings in the pair do not fade away, but become sharper, they must be supported by any means.
What romantic things can be done for a girl:
- Solve her problems. She will be grateful for the help.
- Show attention and care. Giving gifts, caring, which is not a one-time feat, but the regularity of small gestures: a ride to the fitness club, give a camomile, cook her favorite salad.
- Remember details to surprise. The ability to listen allows you to capture many interesting facts that can be used in making a "surprise": to buy movie tickets for your favorite movie, to please a dessert with your favorite taste, to say aloud the words from the novel or poem that impressed the girl earlier.
- Joint viewing of melodrama. Usually this is exclusively a female occupation. If the partner finds interest in this and will be in unity with the lady in such an ordinary matter, she will certainly appreciate it.
- Rush on the first call. Such an act is akin to romantic behavior: to leave their affairs and put her anxiety in priority.
- Joint shopping. To agree to devote time to her affairs — going to the hairdresser, shopping, spending time with the children, or unexpectedly taking on household chores — is like heroism in the eyes of a woman.
- Moral support. It is related to life. Sometimes a joke or a kind word is enough to want to sigh and get down to business with renewed vigor.
The principles of "effective" romance
Regularity. It is believed that in order to maintain warmth in a relationship, repeating romantic actions is necessary once a week.
Communication. As an integral part of a romantic relationship: without it, surprises can and unpleasantly surprise, indirectly indicating ignoring the partner the rest of the time. It is necessary to discuss plans for the future, not skimp on compliments, spend time together.
Inspiration. This list is unlimited. It all depends on imagination and capabilities. Originality is not the main thing.
Spontaneity. No need to adapt to special dates, March 8 or Valentine's Day.
List of romantic gestures
Romantic actions for a beloved girl or guy, with or without cause:
- write a poem for a loved one;
- to draw a picture; print the image on a color printer and arrange a beautiful frame, apply creative photo processing;
- order a song on the radio or sing it yourself, give a musical collection of your favorite tunes;
- apply diversity in love confession: publicly, in a note, via SMS, email, in various words;
- diversify kisses: in nature, slowly, on water;
- spend time studying sensitive points;
- arrange a romantic dinner, picnic, organize a cocktail on the roof of the house;
- come up with role-playing games, play blindfolded;
- do massage, evening by candlelight, invite to a slow dance;
- learn a scene from a movie and play it together;
- read a memorized poem;
- jointly collect herbarium;
- to record a joint effort on a disk dedicated to relationships, providing it with songs, your own thoughts, notes, interesting photographs, memorable little things (tickets after the movie, etc.);
- create a list of pleasant collaborative affairs and periodically perform it;
- make a delicious dessert;
- feed each other with grapes;
- visit the exhibition, go to the cinema;
- arrange a walk, an evening of dreams;
- for a girl - a marriage proposal.
Romantic actions mean gifts. It can be anything: a book of a beloved writer, roses of an unusual color that you like, a personalized present taking into account the interests of a loved one, an ordinary dessert that is originally packed, supplemented with a note or a beautiful ribbon.
"Men's" romance
Depending on the "language of feelings", gifts are appreciated to a greater or lesser extent: you can make pleasantly with the help of words, touches, assistance with deeds, quality pastime, as well as receiving gifts.
Romantic acts for a guy:
- send a gift by courier;
- send an encouraging or unexpected SMS message;
- prepare fireworks during a dinner in the open air at the restaurant;
- bring lunch to work, but be sure to cook it yourself, and not a semi-finished product;
- to bake a cake;
- present a mouse pad with the image of your favorite actor, football player;
- make a heart with a mosaic of warm words;
- leave a note with gentle words in your jacket pocket;
- a website as a gift - with it you can communicate, exchange confessions, celebrate significant events, create your own virtual history of romantic relationships;
- to compose a story about a loved one, in which he skillfully present fantastic or desired events as real, emphasizing the positive aspects of his character or achievements;
- buy a package of fresh fruits or a package of vitamins to promote health;
- organize a joint trip to the bathhouse, sauna, purchase a spa certificate for two;
- order a portrait with a photo of a loved one;
- to the fisherman - to present a rubber suit, a tent, a thermomug;
- athlete - a home exercise machine.
Romantic dinner
It is enough to make a light touch - put the dish in a beautiful salad bowl, light candles, put wild flowers in the glass, cover the table with a colored tablecloth, serve it with your own made napkins, even if ordinary sandwiches are prepared - and the usual dinner turns into a festive one.
For this purpose, you can bring the finished dish from the cafe, adding it to your home. A box of assorted chocolates will be an occasion to discuss a variety of flavors over the next week.
Use circumstances
A meeting after a long separation can initiate a romantic relationship; it is itself an unforgettable event. But the less often the dates, the more saturated they can be.
A secret arrival after separation will pleasantly surprise and delight any person. If you complement the "surprise" with balloons, flowers - the effect will intensify. The meeting place can be prepared by decorating it with flower petals, and then arrange an amateur photo shoot.
There is no possibility of regular meetings - then it makes sense to make rare dates unusual. Even if it will be a trip to a cafe in the neighboring area or a ride on a limousine with champagne - such an event will not be forgotten soon. To the extent possible, expand the options: go on vacation together to go diving, mountain climbing, go water skiing or fly in a balloon.
Unusual gifts
It is difficult to surprise your beloved in an age when a woman can afford anything she wants. And where is the guarantee that the partner will not disappear with the expensive car tied up with a bow? Therefore, in parallel with expensive gifts, you should sometimes use gifts of your own making, using your mind and imagination.
The list of unusual gifts:
- Rose in the ice. Pour boiled water into a square-shaped container, place a rose in it, freeze, extract, and pack it in beautiful paper.
- Pillow of love. To make a pillow with your own hands, decorating with beautiful applications embroidered with inscriptions about love, put miniature surprises inside it, finding which a man will remember about his woman.
- Love message. Buy a white dove with a little surprise on its foot. What exactly to put in a miniature container - depends on the imagination. But it is necessary to supplement the gift with a love note. When the "message" is read, release the pigeon to freedom, admiring its flight.
- Puzzles If a loved one has a captured beautiful story from a film or a book, it can be recreated in the form of puzzles by ordering them from special companies. During the meeting, the couple will build an image that will surprise one of them unexpectedly and pleasantly.
- Strategy game. Its conditions must be invented independently; as a result of the moves made, surprises are foreseen. The game can be decorated in a humorous style.
Extravagance
Romantic actions imply a separation from reality, so it’s nice to add a bit of extravagance to the surprise. Ordinary household items, such as a pot or food processor, do not give the feeling that extraordinary things.
To get a little crocodile or python as a gift is extravagant. It is not known whether the "present" will take root in the house, but the impression of it will remain for a long time.
Naturally, gifts can be things of various values and categories: antique objects, paintings, musical instruments, jewelry and semiprecious stones.
Depending on tastes and preferences, on the practical side, it can also be surprises of the kind such as donations for property, opening a bank account in the name of a loved one, paid services (with a demonstration of a check), and the most unexpected home accessories.
Romance and reality
As you know, a person falls in love with an image, and not with a real person. Experienced people use this feature of the psyche, creating a romantic relationship to their taste. And often - successfully recreating the features of the image of literary characters that combine rare qualities: nobility and the ability to take risks, authority and tenderness.
Contrary to lofty expectations, a romantic relationship between a man and a woman is impossible in marriage because of destructive mundane realities. When partners are not able to meet each other’s needs, they don’t want to “decorate” such communication, they prefer to relax or get rid of it for a long time.
As partners study each other, their interest in maintaining subconscious projections of those manifestations that never existed increases. He or she perceives the other selectively, noting only positive traits and coming up with explanations for unapproving behavior. As a result, feelings are built on the basis of an imaginary, not a real person.
But romance implies not only the intensity of feelings, but also suffering, risk, danger, which unfold in their entirety against the background of the realities of life. It is impossible to create romance in events that are clearly and pre-thought out, so that it remains only to become at the helm. Therefore, the first of the necessary conditions is to understand yourself and your partner in order to adjust the atmosphere in the pair in real time and circumstances.
The secret of a romantic relationship is also to believe in self-love in the state that currently exists. If a person does not know himself, his priorities, has not decided on the directions in life, the search for a romantic partner will be chaotic and ineffective. If conscious knowledge is stronger than subconscious projections, the latter will not be easy to maintain and develop.
Combining the hierarchy of romantic and specific values is the basis for mutual respect and admiration for the partner. If one person hates life, complains about the work collective, city, country, then another will not suit him, who knows how to find positive in the most difficult situation and adjust the world for himself.
Adult romantic relationships "rest" on the difference in outlook on life, the approach to social status, and the concept of personal space. If the satisfaction of the needs of two personalities within the framework of one union is impossible, then living together is doomed. In this case, a temporary imitation of happiness will not save, sooner or later all discrepancies will be revealed.
Psychologists advice
Two partners with different levels of education, personality type, systems of goals, expectations require a well-adjusted individual approach. The identification of a suitable method of conflict-free cooperation is at the heart of successful relationships.
It is not surprising that the manual on romantic relationships contains tips on how to work on yourself, timely eliminating factors that negatively affect feelings, and as for everything else, you just need to be able to idealize everyday life.
Understanding that a noble gesture does not bring the dream closer - to be able to enjoy a fictional fairy tale, a "magical" mood, while continuing to work on a real self. A manual on romantic relationships involves observing several conditions throughout life simultaneously.
Partners face a difficult task:
- continue to live in accordance with their values in the union;
- to know each other in many ways;
- maintain the highest interest in the relationship;
- continue to interact physically;
- develop and create diversity in each other’s lives.
However, it is necessary:
- to cope with daily difficulties;
- make progress at work;
- Maintain meaningful relationships with friends and relatives
- solve everyday problems;
- get out of stress.
Partners should be ready to show each other not only joy, which is easy, but also to share daily feelings and thoughts about current events. You need to discuss your fears and doubts, concerns, desires, anxieties. Only in this mode is it possible to create trusting relationships, and having experienced sadness and pain, experience the peak of happiness with a loved one.