What is greed? Should a person hand out accumulated values with a generous hand? It is believed that greed is bad; stinginess is a vice. And if you call greed the ability to protect their accumulations, not to squander material and spiritual values?
It is one thing when a person, in his greed, seeks to gather more material wealth around himself, never helps his relatives, thinks about his accumulations. Another thing is when he increases his fortune with his master's hand, rationally treats expenses, not allowing unnecessary things.
What is greed?
Greed is the desire to receive as much as possible, giving as little as possible. An avid person is not interested in anything except his accumulations. He does not care about the health of loved ones, their problems. He is not pleased with trips, recreation and entertainment. Such people are deaf to the suffering and problems of others. Because they are only engaged in themselves, their accumulations.
There is another type of greed - this is rational frugality, when a person clearly defines the boundary of necessary and unnecessary things, knows for sure how much he can spend on himself, his family, how much should be postponed for rest or treatment. Such a person knows how to earn and spend without allowing himself too much. As a rule, he is responsive to the pressing problems of relatives and friends.
Manifestations of greed
Greed problem arose in ancient times, when the primitive man did not have enough food, tools. The presence of these resources in others aroused envy, the desire to have them. Much later, when money and precious metals appeared, the greed of a person concentrated on them.
Greed and avarice gradually fill the mind. A pathologically greedy person saves on everything at the expense of health and comfort. The accumulation of old, unnecessary things prevails in the house.
The root of greed lies in the lack of something. Man begins the search for harmony, happiness through the acquisition of material values. It can be gems or works of art, money or food. A person fills a sense of deprivation, lack of that engaged in hoarding.
The nature of greed
Fear and insecurity. Lack of power and money in adulthood, as well as a lack of love and attention in childhood, can gradually lead to the desire to fill the deficit of a resource. So the problem of greed begins to develop, fueled by envy.
Replacing attention. Young children are born with a need for love. The death of parents or lack of attention on their part can lead to greed. First, love is replaced by toys and sweets, then compensated by material goods.
Misconceptions about life. Lack of warmth and attention leads to the realization that there are certain limitations. What is not enough toys or love, food or friendship. Therefore, you need to have time to take first what others may not get. So there is a desire to purchase a large amount of something to the detriment of quality.
Childhood greed
Parenting is a very subtle thing. Most problems are rooted in childhood. Lack of warmth and love in childhood can lead to adult greed. Oddly enough, excessive generosity has the same end result.
Children's greed is inability and unwillingness to share. A child sees toys as part of himself, so he protects his property, personal belongings. This psychological feature begins to manifest itself from 2 years. After some time (from six months to a year), the child ceases to identify with his toys. The problem of overcoming childhood greed is solved by following simple rules:
- teach a child to share his toys or exchange them with other children;
- not to take away his trinkets by force, not to force, not to apply physical punishment;
- praise the baby for the slightest desire to share;
- Explain that his toy will then be returned;
- Do not scold the child if he refuses to share. So aggression towards other children may appear.
Male greed
Male greed consists in the desire to keep everything under control. Budget allocation, housekeeping - this is a necessary concern for the family. It is important to feel the edge when frugality becomes true greed.
Male greed is a reluctance to spend money on education, recreation, health, good nutrition, and hygiene products. This is a petty count of every saved currency.
The stingy man is engaged in ordinary accumulation, the egoist will spend the money saved on himself, on his pleasures. The reason for greed can also be in a woman. If a man is not confident in her, in their relationship, he may decide not to spend his money on it.
Female greed
The greed of a woman in most cases is the result of complexes. This is a lack of confidence in their attractiveness due to lack of money for clothes, cosmetics, jewelry, lack of love and attention, when human relations are replaced by material values, comfort.
However, a woman strives for family well-being. The main thing is to stop in time and understand that strength is in love. Material goods are called upon to make life calm and comfortable. They are not an end in themselves, but a means.
How to overcome greed
First, you need to realize your problem, get rid of old, unnecessary things.
Secondly , allow yourself small pleasures, for example, spend money on chocolate or theater, flowers or a book.
Thirdly, to learn to help others - to give alms, to make an unscheduled gift to a friend, to buy products for elderly parents.
Fourth, constantly control yourself and not allow greed to dominate the manifestations of human kindness and understanding.