You fell in love and spent the first few months in pink glasses without seeing any flaws in your partner? What to do to a girl who, over time, notices that her boyfriend is drinking? There are few ways out; you need to either leave the person or help him recover from the addiction. How to do this, read below.
Find out the reason
Before condemning a person for misconduct, you need to understand the reason for his actions. Ask your beloved how many years he drinks. The guy can say that he started this habit not so long ago. He could find solace at the bottom of the bottle after the death of his parents or some personal tragedy. In this case, stop drinking will be easy. If a person is a strong personality, you can simply convince him that life does not end and you need to get out of depression.
It is much more difficult to change a guy’s habits if he has been drinking since he was 14 years old. At first, he could drink for the company, and then he was so drawn in that he could not live without a bottle. Every day, at night or at dinner, the guy drinks alcohol, arguing that the “magic elixir” helps to relax. If you understand the reason for the guy’s behavior and the level of his dependence on alcohol, you need to begin to take decisive actions in accordance with the information received.
Isolate from drinking companions
Does your boyfriend drink with friends? The easiest way to wean a young man from addiction is to isolate him from drinking companions. But sometimes it’s not easy to do this, because the people with whom the guy drinks are his friends. If you love a young man and think that you will have a happy future together, then urgently move. You need to change the city. Ideally, this should be a place where neither you nor the guy will have any acquaintances. In a new place you need to try to start a new life. A young man should get a job in his specialty and find himself adequate friends without bad habits.
A similar action algorithm is suitable for those couples where the guy drinks, but wants to get rid of the addiction. If the guy has no desire to get rid of addiction, then transporting a person to another city does not make sense. Remember the saying: the pig will find dirt everywhere. So, finding drinking companions for a drinker is a small problem.
Ultimatum
Think what to do with the drinking gentleman? Give him an ultimatum. Tell him to choose: either you or alcohol. If your chosen one has feelings for you, then the choice for him will be obvious. Well, if the guy will break down every now and then, it means that he doesn’t really like it. Connection with this type of happiness will not bring you.
But not all girls can say a decisive word, and then leave. The guy drinks, the lady pities him, puts him to bed and suffers brawls. Want to spend it all your life? No? Then do not create comfortable conditions for the guy. The chosen one got drunk with friends in the garage? Let him sleep there if he does not have enough strength to get home. And in the morning, when the man comes, say that do not tolerate such cases. Say you're leaving if the story repeats itself. Explain that your patience is at its limit and you are not intimidating the man now, but are really going to leave him. Such speeches can cause a response in the soul of a person, and he wants to change.
Find a hobby
Is the guy drinking every day? Find an activity for your lover. Do not leave a man time to drink. You can come up with a joint hobby. For example, climbing, going to the pool or cycling. Sport will help you maintain your health and distract from bad thoughts. And most importantly, it will take a body that will work, and not lie on the couch. If a guy likes to do some kind of activity, for example, carving wood figurines, then get all the necessary tools for carving and ask him to do something for you. It is advisable to find a guy a hobby that will captivate him very much and require a large concentration of attention. In this case, the man will not be applied to the bottle, as it will not allow him to concentrate. Why are so many people drinking? Because they can’t find another suitable pastime for themselves, other than watching stupid TV shows.
Provoke stress
How to make a drinker stop drinking? You need to make a person responsible for their actions. If you keep your boyfriend comfortable and warm, he is unlikely to understand or change anything in his life. Therefore, he needs to create uncomfortable conditions. For example, you can stop giving a guy money if he does not earn it or if he does not earn enough. Answer all questions that the money he gave to you is part of the family budget, and you plan to buy food for them. You don’t have money for a drink. This advice will help in order to reason an adequate person. If the guy’s dependence is not very strong, then he will rather stop drinking than go to take your gold to a pawnshop.
You can also use the method of blackmail. After the next booze, talk to the man and say that when you repeat the incident, you will leave. The guy did not believe you and got drunk? With him pack your things and leave. Do not say where you went, and do not promise that you will return. The next morning, a young man can begin the search. Therefore, warn friends and relatives to play along with you and say that they have no idea where you are. After tormenting a guy for a week, "accidentally" run into him on the street. Tell the man that you will return only if he stops drinking.
Drug treatment
Nothing helps in the fight against alcohol? Then there is only one thing left - coding from alcoholism. But, going to this procedure, a person must be aware of what he is doing and for what. You cannot forcibly drag an alcoholic to the clinic and say that now he is saying goodbye to his bad habits. If a person does not want to stop drinking, then it is better not to code it.
You can also take special pills. When interacting with ethyl alcohol, medications will cause headache, vomiting, and nausea. A person will not be able to drink a lot, since every sip will bring him hellish torment. Can I stop drinking only with pills? No. A person must be aware of his problem and overcome it. Otherwise, no coding for alcoholism and no medications will help.