Depression is one of the most devastating. And, unfortunately, it is not so rare. Especially often it happens in women. They ask it in terrible hours of loneliness: “How to live further? How to live if nobody needs you? Maybe then it’s better not to live at all? ”
A new love will help to forget him ...
Honestly, this is a rhetorical question. A person may not be needed by absolutely anyone in extremely rare situations. Surely there is someone on earth who needs communication with you. But you yourself reject this communication or underestimate it. “How to live if nobody needs you?” Asks usually the one who suddenly realizes that only one person who is important to her is not needed. And it hurts to realize this at any age: at fifteen and at twenty-eight, at forty-five and sixty-three ... In this case, only following the proverb: “Wedge by wedge” can help. That is, one should shake oneself at this moment and go to “capture new frontiers”. Fresh love, new feelings, a lover who has appeared will surely dull the pain and plunge into the soul the understanding that a woman is once again loved, necessary, in demand. And the question will be forgotten: "How to live if nobody needs you?"
Male view on the problem of loneliness and female
But someone thought about why the question is formulated in this form: “How to live if nobody needs you?”, And not in this way: “How to live if nobody needs you?” Why do women suffer from loneliness sharper than men? But this happens most often because it is the fair sex who project their entire inner world on the chosen one. Men, in addition to love, usually have other priorities, such as career, friends, hobbies. So, to prevent this from happening to you, you - a woman - must take care of yourself in advance. Do not “dissolve” in your beloved without a trace. It is also necessary to secure a home front: lead an active lifestyle even after marriage, do not limit yourself to family interests, don’t lose friends, have hobbies, strive for self-improvement, read, go to theaters, go to festivals and sporting events. In no case should the loss of the meaning of life be allowed! There is nothing in the world, dearer than life - but it is granted to you. So, you are already a chosen one, and not of some ungrateful and unworthy mortal of you, but of God himself.
The death of a loved one is the hardest test
Another question is when a close and dear person dies. This loss is hard to accept, hard to realize. It is especially painful when they lose their children ... A mother who has devoted herself to her children, after their death, feels that now there is no meaning to life. But even in this situation, the tips suggested above help. It is easier to survive the loss for those who, in addition to children, had other interests in life: their favorite work, hobbies, friends, and creativity. But if life is already at sunset, and the woman has lost all the vents listed, what should be done in this case? Then we will use the position “wedge by wedge”. No, in this situation no one advises looking for a lover, although this option is not excluded. But there is such a way of "survival" as helping those who are worse off than you. Lost souls often find a way to help people with disabilities, abandoned animals, suffering care, affection, love. Those whom you heat up in difficult times will respond with such a vivid reciprocal feeling that loneliness will recede into the background. And the one who really needs you will already appear in fate. Love and be loved!