The family must have a balance between closeness and openness. On the one hand, it is bad when one of the spouses is too keen on outside people. On the other hand, it is not better if the couple are fixated on each other and isolate the cell of society from the outside world. In order not to be afraid that the best friend of the family will destroy her, you need to work on relationships and trust the closest person.
It’s good when a friend of a family becomes a person who is very authoritative for all its members, for example, a priest, a doctor or a psychologist. Such a friend can be very useful in resolving family conflicts and misunderstandings. If the best friend of the family is a professional in dealing with people, in case of a dispute you can turn to him as an arbitrator and be sure that he sympathizes with you and will do everything to help you.
Often the best friend of the family is actually only the best friend of one of the spouses. One way or another, he refers to the male or female gender, and therefore either shows solidarity to the spouse of the same sex, or tries to attract the attention of the spouse of the opposite sex. The most dramatic situations occur when a girlfriend outwardly sympathizes with his wife, enters into trust, and then takes her husband out of the family. A male friend does so less often; men have more sincere solidarity and it is more difficult for them to betray friends.
Often people cannot control their emotions, and even a sense of duty cannot prevent hobbies. At the early stage of a relationship, a family friend is a new person, and to one of the spouses he may seem more interesting than the second half. What to do to the second spouse? Wait and try to distract the addicted husband or wife. It is necessary to set new tasks for the family: to build a cottage, to prepare a child for college, to realize plans that have long been of interest to both, to engage in personal development under the guidance of a spouse. And then the best friend of the family will fade into the background. If you give your spouse enough information he needs and realize his ideas with him, after a while the hobby will pass, and everything will return to square one. The main thing is not to arrange jealousy scenes, it looks ugly and shows your weakness. If, on the contrary, you were carried away by a family friend, and your loved one is jealous, you need to think about that, despite the novelty and interest, the spouse is still more expensive to you, because with him you decided to build a joint future. Try to communicate less with a friend or girlfriend, so as not to provoke a loved one. Also, always communicate in the presence of a husband or wife, so that he does not suspect you of infidelity.
It’s best to be friends with couples. Of course, in this case, the likelihood of infidelity remains, but still marriage for most people means more hobbies.
Wean yourself from the thought that your loved one should belong only to you. If he is happy communicating with several people, and the exchange of emotions is important for him as air, you can not become a jailer or jailer. In any case, prohibitions and scandals will not help make the family stronger. Only confidential communication with each other and more frequent conversations about relationships in general will help, but only these should be conversations in a positive way. Do not criticize a family friend; it looks like self-doubt, especially if you showed jealousy the day before. Praise and ... take an example. Of course, there is no point in blindly copying; the original will always be preferred by copies, but individual qualities and manners can be fully adopted.
The best friend of a family that is truly respected and loved by both her members is a rarity. Therefore, if your spouse wants to "give such a position" to a new person for you, try not to reject it, but accept and find good in it. Family friends often help when everyone turns away, so take care of friendship and try to make the relationship work out successfully. A certain amount of freedom makes marriage stronger.